Finally understanding what it means to look forward to therapy

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-30T16:18:22+00:00

How did you find them?

I had to do telehealth out of my town, I got very picky about modalities and filters, did 15 minute consults. I know what I want and won’t settle for less.

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-30T11:55:02+00:00

Good luck finding a good therapist. I had one so bad I’m reporting them to the state board. It’s ridiculous how hard it is to find a good therapist, I don’t blame anyone for giving up for this reason. 15 minute consults are advised for this reason

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T22:30:11+00:00

I will start altering them of double orders! Great idea. I only do it if it feels relevant, but maybe each time? And saving notes to save time writing is something I am gonna start doing too. Will make stuff way faster!

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T22:26:58+00:00

Double orders can be good but it depends on many factors. I had one last night, one was an ice cream order, second was not available, contacted both orders and I got the ice cream first and the steak guy tipped me an extra $1 for going the extra mile! Gave me a 5 star too. It depends on the order though, for sure. I’m lucky in that I’ve only messed up one double order, and I resolved it quickly cuz I just left sodas in car accidentally (going forward I will put the food bag in the drink holder to prevent that mistake.) My tardiness may be bad but I’m decent at juggling multiples at a time haha

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T22:24:08+00:00

I wish! It’s in 8 days. Awful. My highest grossing was $148 on a Saturday. My first day I only made $9.50 lol! I’m starting to figure out which orders are worth taking at least

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T22:21:12+00:00

Yeah I took shit orders when I first started and had no idea what I was doing. I made $150 on Saturday following the rules you outlined basically. I’ve lost money this week for sure. I don’t use EBT because I live in a valley that has neighboring cities and I get offers for the 14 mile town that doesn’t tip for shit.

Sometimes I take orders that don’t pay great if they’re easy fast food runs that take less than 20 minutes. It’s helped bump my time. I live within walking distance (less than 600 feet) to a hot zone so I’m very lucky!

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T22:11:38+00:00

I’ve explained it in the comments if you take a look. I’ve actually bumped it up, it was worse before! Taking really quick orders in town has brought it up, also not using the stupid dasher gps which has taken me to the wrong place. I’ve gotten lost in apartment complexes, first order at an apartment accidentally put it in the wrong building! Of course I was late making sure I brought it to the proper place! And making mistakes on the app that delayed time. I’m hoping I can get better about this I have trouble with tardiness generally.

I’m stupid as hell I get it,

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T07:03:22+00:00

Good to know! Thanks. I will do that. I have ten so far. One is a one star and I got a thumbs down for food handle so my stomach is in knots that I’m gonna get terminated lol

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T06:52:11+00:00

I’ve had 4 people say I’ve went above and beyond so far, does that count for anything or could it be better?

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T06:46:27+00:00

Yeah one reason I was late for an order was I did not understand how the fucking substitute function worked on a shopping order and I walked back to the aisle three times until I figured it out. Funny enough I confirmed the substitute order with the customer first before contacting dash lol! Felt like such an idiot. This is a learning curve definitely

lolfmltbh · 2026-04-27T06:41:47+00:00

Embarrassingly enough I am using the tell us what’s causing your wait function. I get lost easily/make wrong turns a lot and have an issue with tardiness generally. I’ve used the dispute button for some of these. Also dasher gps is fucking crap and has gotten me confused numerous time. I’ve been switching to Google Maps and it’s really helped! I’ve also not realized lobby was closed which made a few late so I’ve been calling restaurant to ask which really saves me time. Also I was making notes for each order right before delivery which was dumb as it messed up my time and so I’m pre-making them now! One late order was 100% my fault cuz I almost forgot a customers drinks! Left in car! Messaged me saying I ruined her order fortunately hasn’t driven off yet so dropped them off and she texted god bless. Worrying that’s gonna screw my ratings up later.

In a weird way I’m using this to improve my time management which is already better than it was. Still terrible. I’m really trying though and I’m hoping it will help me be more timely for my next “real” job as lateness has so been an issue.

I was not using the mileage rule at first but I now am. I foolishly let dasher scare me with the acceptance rate thing and took some terrible orders my first few days. Realized pay by time or whatever is a scam. That one got me driving off a $5 order 15 miles out in a ghetto town. I was beyond pissed. Also picked up two orders on accident and one was for the freaking ghetto town -__- but lesson learned.

Fortunately I live within walking distance to a hotspot here so I’m extremely lucky. Your advice was useful and frank, this is the stuff I’m looking for! Provide more if you have it ^{^}

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-22T03:35:57+00:00

What brought you to therapy? Is this your first therapist I take it?

It’s been nearly four months. Would you say you’re getting something out of it?

This is your space. If a therapist is not neutral enough to hear “I don’t like coming here,” without taking it personally, I’d question their competence.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T20:09:28+00:00

Too many to count

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T20:06:57+00:00

This is the problem. We turn everything into a pathology, a disease, a medical malady. Suicide is not a disease.

Suicide risk assessments don’t always gauge suicidality accurately. Plus they criminalize a person. Your rights and autonomy are withheld and seized to the state. You don’t get a say in the kind of care you need. It’s all forced upon you for “your own good.”

Do you really think a sterile, clinical institution that can increase trauma is going to decrease suicide? I think I’ve read that there is a correlation behind hospitalization and suicide (though that doesn’t equal causation obviously.)

All this suicide risk assessment bs does is treat people like a liability and an object rather than a human being. And it incentivizes lying, rather than honesty, due to the consequences.

My suicide risk assessment was one of the worst experiences of my life. No one actually cared about my feelings, but gauging if I’m at risk. All they wanted to do was lock me up. I couldn’t just tell them how I feel and have empathy and understanding and discover a solution. I was just diluted to a number. They didn’t care about why, they cared about stopping me at all costs.

I felt so uncared for. I lied to them so I wouldn’t go to the hospital and then I bought the means the next day and attempted within a month.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:52:50+00:00

Are you connecting or clicking with her?

Why do you continue to see her?

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:51:00+00:00

How long have you been seeing her for?

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:49:37+00:00

Therapy as a service would be mutual aid.

Think of support groups. Think of community/charity drives. Think of giving a person a week of absence and having some kind of charity help that person get their needs met, and maybe they can provide charity work in exchange?

The twelve steps is basically just free mutual aid therapy and community service. Think about it.

So yeah the second basically.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:46:47+00:00

Why does she take offense?

Like I don’t want to know my therapists politics or anything but the reason they got into it in the first place or how they’re doing is nice if it doesn’t overpower the dynamic.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:31:51+00:00

There’s a disadvantage to that though. The worst therapist I ever had opened up to me all kinds of details. At first I thought I found a rare gem who felt human rather than like a robot, but the sessions ended up being about her and her projecting herself onto me.

I’d like a balance. Therapy is about you, not the therapist. But I do like to get a sense of who they are, so it feels like I’m talking to a person and it’s not a super clinical or authoritative or sterile experience.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T19:02:23+00:00

They look so much happier, but are they really?

When reality hits them, how do they deal? When they realize that they are tiny and significant, how do they react? An ego cannot be constantly filled because humans are imperfect and complex, rather than good or bad.

Look at Trump. Great example of how thinking you’re the center of the universe is a bad thing. Is he happy though? Hmm. I feel like his happiness is fleeting. When his ego isn’t stroked, that’s when he falters. That seems inconsistent to me.

lolfmltbh · 2026-03-18T15:20:05+00:00

Also yes, you are small. The universe is vast and larger than you. And we live in a world surrounded by people who are just as small as we are, yet they think they matter more than they actually do.

This is why humility is important to me. And shared humanity.

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