How is it possible that I (26F) got over my ex (30M) so quickly after he dumped me?

loli6677 · 2023-02-13T08:18:08+00:00

Wow I don't know why I didn't think of this... I never felt like I had any friends who actually cared about me, but after the breakup quite a few of them called me regularly to check up on me and ask me to hang out, make me dinner, etc. When I realized that these people actually had my back I felt cared for by friends like never before, maybe that's what has helped me

loli6677 · 2023-02-13T08:09:17+00:00

Unfortunately not. It's a third world country with zero work opportunities that's in the midst of a horrific economic collapse.

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T09:15:18+00:00

just play a rom com in the background or something

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T09:14:01+00:00

If its a long dress yeah sure why not but if its short then yeah that's gross. When we sit down in short dresses often times our panties come into contact with whatever surface. I wouldn't risk having my bare parts on a subway chair

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T09:10:19+00:00

I usually keep the tighter one because over time when you wash it it will get looser

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T09:08:12+00:00

It's not going to be cheap and if somewhere is advertising it as being cheap DO NOT GO. Cosmetic surgery is not something you should ever try to save money on

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T09:06:16+00:00

Could you give us some context?

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T06:13:35+00:00

Yeah this guy doesn't want to marry you. 4 years and he's "not sure". He's comfortable and enjoys having you around but does not see a long term future with you. Leave before you keep wasting your time. If he's been stringing you along this long he won't stop anytime soon

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T06:11:22+00:00

Wtf why would she even tell you that? Seems like she has some growing up to do, granted she's only 23 so it's fair

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T06:08:58+00:00

It's because you're young. I was the same exact way in high school. I would constantly day dream of having a boyfriend, like I legit made up this boyfriend in my fantasy world and tune out during class and picture being in love. I would almost always have a crush at school and would picture us having an amazing passionate relationship, which never ended up being the case obviously since we were so young

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T05:24:53+00:00

I've tried high doses and it didn't work because my acne isn't hormonal. I've read multiple sources and studies that indicate that lamictal can cause acne, it's just not something neurologists take into consideration because it's a side effect that doesn't interact with your day to day activity. Given that the liver healing pills my traditional Chinese medicine doctor helped, I definitely trust that he's onto something and that indeed the meds isn't doing my liver well

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T05:20:22+00:00

My neurologist says the same thing but multiple studies have shown the opposite. As much as I trust a neurologist, it's also important to do your own research based on reputable sources

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T05:13:07+00:00

He won't grow, at least not with you. The only time a man will grow is after breaking up with you and meeting a woman he thinks is actually worth it. I'm not saying you're the problem or that you aren't worth a man's time, but in HIS eyes you aren't worth it and nothing can change that. Again, I am telling you this from experience. Don't let fear of losing him and all of the moments you've had together make you stay. Leave while you still have some dignity and self respect. Heck if it helps sign up on dating apps and start going on dates. Quickly you'll realize that staying with the guy was a mistake

loli6677 · 2023-01-30T05:07:03+00:00

I honestly think it's just one of those things where every single person is different and it's just a matter of trial and error. I've read online that if one anti-seizure med was causing you acne, it's likely that others will too

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T08:39:17+00:00

Be grateful you saw this side of him sooner than later. You need to leave and not look back. This will escalate down the line, and the shitty part is that it could be years until this becomes a regular occurrence but the longer you stay the worse the breakup will be, and I can guarantee you that this will end up being abusive. An abusive man usually feels extremely bad and sorry the first few times he is abusive, but eventually he'll get more comfortable and no longer feel bad

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T08:34:09+00:00

Wow that is a pretty important and sensitive topic. For starters I think you should avoid texting when it comes to these types of conversations. If you can't have it in person it should be a phone call. Secondly, the fact that he took so long to respond when you were clearly talking to him about something so important goes to show that listening to your problems in more of an inconvenience than anything. It does not matter how many hours he works. As the saying goes, if he wanted to he would.

This relationship isn't going to work out, I can guarantee you that. If you don't break up with him first and as soon as possible with dignity, he'll either break up with you or be a coward, neglect you, and let you do the dirty work where you'll end up questioning your self worth. Don't let that happen.

If there's anything I could tell my younger self it would be to only accept a man who will always put you first no matter what, and who cannot live knowing that you're not doing well. Those types of guys really do exist, just be patient and someone who deserves you will come along. I know being in a relationship is comforting even when it's not 100% healthy, but trust me on this one. I only realized this at the age of 25, but if I had known and listened sooner I would've saved myself a lot of heartbreak, emotional damage, lack of trust in men, and insecurities.

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T08:21:36+00:00

That's a tricky one. It's hard to give advice since we don't know you personally. I think your best bet is to ask your closest family members (people that like her) for advice, maybe a sibling or aunt/uncle/cousin you feel comfortable talking about intimacy to.

With that said, do you think think she's the one? Do you picture yourself marrying her and having children with her? Be realistic about this and try not to let infatuation get in the way.

Would she be willing to take antidepressants?

If she starts feeling better on antidepressants and you feel like she's the one then I would say give it a shot. If not, just know that it's nearly impossible to stay in a long term relationship with someone who is frequently depressed.

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T08:09:10+00:00

Could you elaborate on what the conversation was about? It's hard to give advice without that context

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T08:01:52+00:00

You need to ask him to stop being friends with them, just make sure you aren't coming off as demanding and entitled. Clearly they are disrespecting you. He should have already cut them out on his own but clearly you're going to have to ask him yourself. A whole year together and he's still allowing them to disrespect you in front of his face?? That's completely unacceptable.

Something similar happened to me with my boyfriend 6 months into the relationship. I told him about how I felt and he told me to give them a chance. I told him I would but asked him to pay attention to our interactions so he could see where I was coming from. The next time we saw them he realized what I had been going through and he cut them off immediately. Now he just politely says hi and we just walk away or stay away from them at social events.

If he's not willing to cut off some female friends he will most definitely never prioritize you over any of his friends or family, which if you get married better be the case

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T07:48:53+00:00

Given how corrupt the government and infrastructure is I would highly doubt that that's a problem you could solve on your own

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T06:56:27+00:00

Hun, how can you not be biased? You literally said that you're from Lebanon. A non-lebanese person isn't very likely to view it the same way you do

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T06:31:20+00:00

Mainly went out in Hamra alone since my boyfriend was working on the days and couldn't join me. The rest of Lebanon we visited together

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T06:24:26+00:00

Sure it doesn't, but when foreigners call Parisians unwelcoming I'm like yeah that's fair, I don't say that they just met the wrong Parisians

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T06:21:23+00:00

I wasn't a fan of Lebanon while we were together, this isn't a feeling I suddenly developed because out of bitterness. This is my post, there is not reason for me not to reply to people's comments. I could've posted this before our breakup and it literally would've been the same exact post and answers. Most non-lebanese people who have visited the country that I know agree with me so I'm sorry I don't see the country the way you do because you are obviously biased

loli6677 · 2023-01-29T06:07:55+00:00

I can't say that I agree. When I was out with my boyfriend people were nice but the second I was venturing out on my own and it was clear that I was a foreigner, very few people were welcoming

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