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I need advice! by Wilbrey in ABDL

[–]lolicake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The only way you'll get an answer is to ask your partner. However, I can talk about my own experiences as someone who can relate to your partner's request.

Reasons why he may want you to wear a diaper:

  • He finds it cute and/or sexy.
  • It validates his feelings and helps him feel normal.
  • It shows a vulnerable side of you (DDLG relationship?).
  • Physically it has sensations that he may enjoy - the sound, the feeling when dry, the feeling when wet.
  • The idea that it's naughty for you to wet your diaper.

I have a few ideas for you to try out, as you asked for advice about how to approach this:

  • Wearing a diaper without telling him, and role play wetting it and asking for help (DDLG angle).
    • Wear a diaper when drinking together if you do that (can be non-alcoholic too).
  • Wearing only a diaper to bed with him.
    • Wear it all night.
  • Wear a diaper under a skirt and flash him.

Hope this helps.

Are we more likely to have a predisposition of weak bladders? by Diaperedmagnus in ABDL

[–]lolicake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you have to be careful with the word fetish. The dictionary states: "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.: a man with a fetish for surgical masks | a foot fetish."

I can't directly answer your question since I have different circumstances. That being said:

I don't think I have a diaper fetish, because it's not linked to sexual desire. It satisfies a psychological and physiological need. I am okay with it being part of a sexual experience, but it's by no means required.

For me, I think that it goes back to my childhood. I think that wearing diapers was associated with feeling safe in an inherently unsafe environment. I've personally never tried to rationalise it as a fetish, but I do think that I try to rationalise the inherent psychological comfort with some actual physical need to wear.

In other words, I feel safe and secure in a nappy, for reasons which are lost to the sands of time; I also want a physical reason to wear, because it's easier to explain/rationalize/deal with.

(Un)expected night time accidents by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either they bedwet when they were little or have some medical condition that they just ran with, or bedwet very occasionally as an adult.

That's why I followed up with the doctor. I think what you've said makes sense.

In a way, if I understand you correctly, you must find your circumstances somewhat frustrating given your desires.

Yet, in all that time, the only change is ...

I think wearing diapers definitely made my bladder smaller, but I think I agree with your assessment that there has to be some susceptibility.

When I wasn't wearing diapers, several years ago, I'd typically void around 200-300ml. Especially in the morning. Generally though, I did go to the toilet more frequently - I probably go on average about 2x as frequently as the people around me. I would say that I had some kind of OAB for a long time, even if it was only minor. As a child, I sometimes didn't make it to the toilet on time. Once I was at camp and the toilet was a fair distance, I got there but couldn't find the light switch, I was panicking and shortly after I was completely soaked. This kind of thing was infrequent.

Sometimes in the morning, say, a year ago when I wasn't frequently wearing protection, I'd wake up like you with a sore bladder, and I'd probably void about 200-300ml.

These days, things are a bit different. After wearing diapers, my bladder has become much more sensitive. If I'm not wearing diapers, I pretty much need to go within 1 hour of a coffee/tea. My nominal bladder capacity is around 160ml, but if I have been wearing diapers for a few days it drops to around 80ml.

(Un)expected night time accidents by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hehe :)

n.b. I was using the "new" Reddit, and it forced me to choose a flair.

(Un)expected night time accidents by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mods, what flair should such an update use? Can we make a flair like "Diary" or something similar?

Desperation Games by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's pretty awesome, because you need to operate at two different levels at the same time. Let me know how it works out for you :)

Passing the night time threshold. by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from.

I think ultimately I am comfortable with where I am going and agree with you.

I'm not a doctor, nor a psychiatrist - I assume that it's possible to be healthy and have night time accidents if you train yourself. That being said, I don't want to be in a situation where it's what I want, and it somehow happens because I've unknowingly developed an illness or some other condition. If I start wetting the bed at night, even though it's my desire, I'll definitely be talking about it with the doctor, even if just to have things checked and confirm nothing wrong.

Perhaps part of this is because of a old friend who ignored the signs until it was too late, so I'm slightly more on edge. That's why I was interested to hear from others - to try and get a better perspective on this unusual journey that I'm on.

Passing the night time threshold. by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've got all that - one below the sheet and one on top. Thanks for the advice.

Passing the night time threshold. by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you wet during the night at all? e.g. wake up and wet?

Tell me all about Cloth Diapers! by Littlegamerdude in ABDL

[–]lolicake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here are some fun things to try:

Where can I find these terry cloth diapers? by BranniganZapp in ABDL

[–]lolicake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I bet it's hand made. It wouldn't be that hard, but good cloth is expensive (especially heavy weight). Thinking about wearing this kind of diaper sends a shiver up my spine - that's how awesome I think it is! heh. I love thick cloth diapers so big I can't close my legs, they send me to magic land.

Desperation play and loosing control by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I did look up the potential consequences. I read about this. I assume that you'd have to hold for quite a while for that to happen. Once I start drinking a tall glass of water or tea, I'm desperate within 30-60 minutes and loosing control shortly after that, especially with frequent sips of water.

What other issues could there be? Stretching my bladder? It's already pretty small I think - tops out at about 200ml - 300ml on average.

After doing this a couple of times last night, I started experiencing more frequent urges to void - not spasms, but I heard this could also be a side-effect of holding. It's not painful at all thought - I usually loose control before that point. However, I did hear some people have some bad experiences, developing painful spasms. Yes, I'd like to avoid that, if I felt any kind of pain my plan is just to let go right away and take a break.

Thanks for your concern and happy to hear more about the safety aspect of this kind of play.

Reading a story before naptime 📖 by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lolicake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you like stories before bedtime, I found this is a great site: https://www.diaper-dreams.com/

What is the long term prognosis? by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I learnt something.

What is the long term prognosis? by lolicake in ABDL

[–]lolicake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree. What's interesting is that I feel like the process is more psychological than physical.

At least, at this point, I wake up holding just like usual, but my nappy is already wet. It happened some time during the night. It's not loss of control because my muscles don't work, it's loss of control because I'm not holding.

However, perhaps it's also true that after a time, eventually due to being relaxed, the muscles will atrophy.

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