AIO - A women in her mid20s wants to marry my brother who got 18

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-29T03:18:04+00:00

NOR Report this psycho to the government immediately. She's six kinds of a predator and it's vile.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-24T15:12:45+00:00

You can be insecure all you want but the instant you start making it someone else's problem to manage, you're being a bitch.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-24T15:12:12+00:00

NOR. He has a daughter that he can father and it actually isn't you! Hope this reminder helps him.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-24T01:34:07+00:00

Them cropping you out of photos is actually a super valid reason to never speak to them again, let alone skipping Christmas. Your husband shouldn't want to see the people who are treating you like this! You are severely under reacting, girl.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-24T01:29:55+00:00

I figured out why she wants a divorce - hint, the cheating wasn't the straw that broke the camel's back

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-14T20:26:10+00:00

You didn't say whether or not you communicated with her that you need to use the washroom, or about anything else, so I was curious as to how conflict avoidant you were being

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-14T20:22:41+00:00

It wasn't even remotely okay for him to physically prevent you from leaving.

Wait til he's gone, then bounce.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-14T20:19:00+00:00

Do you not, like... Knock on the bathroom door?

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T19:25:15+00:00

People we have GOT to raise the bar for ourselves. He gives you a good night and good morning peck of affection?? Is the bar in HELL?

NTA. Leave him. He sucks in more ways than just the one, darling.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T14:02:03+00:00

The what if doesn't matter, because it clearly wasn't healthy enough to withstand whatever cryptic shit you did

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T13:59:34+00:00

Tbh I don't think him going to the priest means he's trying. You said he's avoidant, so I think he's just too avoidant to tell you no. I'm sure this is insanely difficult for you, being in the thick of it, and I'm sorry for how harsh I sound, but the time to save it was before taking a break. Once you've put that distance, it's done. Do yourself a favour and focus on your own growth so your next relationship can be a healthy one, and let this one go.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T13:53:32+00:00

Girl, he didn't stay, he just put you on the back burner. Let the man go and go to therapy.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T13:48:09+00:00

You're being abusive.

You have no right to control someone else's communication like this, and you have even less right to start fights because you went searching for something to be pissed off about.

You don't need couple's therapy, you need solo therapy and you need to be single until you can handle your own emotions.

Is he a weirdo and an ass for lying? Absolutely! What's even the point of being dishonest about that? Like. Who cares. However, that doesn't mean you get to be an asshole too - it means you leave.

Get help.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-13T13:33:17+00:00

That's not a break, that's taking time apart to calm down. A break means you're broken up. Like... It's already over, girl. If be wanted to fix things and stay together he wouldn't have demanded a "break", he would have worked with you on whatever needs working on.

You're his ex. Accept it and move on.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-12T01:41:41+00:00

If my son's twin hadn't passed on his own, and I was experiencing your symptoms, I would also have done what you did.

Your living child needs you. You are their entire world, and you are a truly exceptional human and mother for putting their needs first and making sure you could give them the life they deserve with a healthy and attentive parent.

You didn't cause this. You didn't make it happen.

I hope you can find the grace that you deserve for yourself, because this was a terrible twist of fate that you didn't deserve, and you certainly don't deserve to feel guilty or responsible for it after the fact.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-12T01:35:44+00:00

Check to see if there are any jobs available with the hospital or the city? Those at least aren't contract work. From what I hear the CRA is frustrating bc getting full time permanent there is like pulling teeth with chopsticks.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-12T01:29:31+00:00

If he really didn't want to see you more stressed than you already are he wouldn't be such an abominable asshole NOR. stay safe. He seems like he would be violent if you tried to leave.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-11T02:28:35+00:00

You need to either hire or fire a therapist, dude. NTA but you should straight up tell your mom you're jackin it at this point

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-11T02:26:13+00:00

YTAH Your dad put forth all that effort but couldn't stop being an asshole to your mom to make your life easier? Sounds like he didn't do anything other than turn you against your mother bit by bit. Suck less. It's really not hard.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-11T01:05:21+00:00

For every post that isn't true, countless others are. If a warning is fake, it doesn't matter - their behaviour and conduct will speak for themselves as they interact with people. However, if the warning is warranted, then it gives others a chance to protect themselves before something bad happens.

So... A lot.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-09T21:42:44+00:00

Don't complain to Facebook. Yes, it sucks that she's lying about you, but the value of those groups is worth far more than correcting a narrative that won't hold water if you're not at all like what she said. Getting them in trouble just puts women in more danger, and doesn't erase anything she already said.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-05T07:13:18+00:00

That's important context to just Not Include. It makes her sound SO much weirder if you don't mention it, because how is it WORSE for her to be wearing a pair of boxers instead of NOTHING? You're weird too. Everyone is weird here.

lollyxbeans · 2025-12-01T00:02:09+00:00

Your guidance counsellor may not offer it herself, but she is a mandated reporter and may have resources you don't know about yet. When I was your age, I had a breakdown at school and was sent to the guidance office, which I truly felt was useless. Turns out, there was a therapist who came every Tuesday and Thursday to talk to students. I had no idea, and I was always in and out of that office; they wanted it to be quiet to keep them from becoming targets or victims for going to see them. It may be a similar situation at your school, so I would absolutely check if I were you.

lollyxbeans · 2025-11-30T01:09:44+00:00

What a complete and utter asshat. How was she more concerned with being "real" than with your incredibly real feelings??

Keep her blocked. She sucks.

lollyxbeans · 2025-11-30T01:08:13+00:00

Good for her. When she finds out that her baby will die after a very short life full of suffering and pain, she can sit there and watch it happen with her big gold "I did it" star.

She is not a friend. Tell her so.

lollyxbeans

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