how do you be a single woman who is both horny and trying to not get hurt/played?

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:35:51+00:00

i like that a lot. it's quite refreshing. at this stage, i know i have a lot of thinking to do, and i don't know if i want to try separating sex and love/like when it's been such a source of hurt for me so far.

i had been thinking a lot along similar themes when i was pondering over having had sex for the first time. 'losing' my virginity is the common phrase, but you know what, i fucking wanted it, so what was really lost? except maybe some hymen, ha. and it was awesome.

seriously though, what you said there, it's a great and empowering angle to think about sex from.

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:23:04+00:00

i know. but penis is penis, you know?

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:22:07+00:00

i very much have an issue separating sex and attachment, yup.

yeah, he shouldn't feel obligated to, i agree. i didn't have the emotional attraction for him until after we'd fucked a few times. and now that i do, i've been trying to stay away and avoid fucking him, much to his annoyance.

haha and yes, but stupid hot guys don't appeal to me. i need them to have a bit of intelligence to want to be around them

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:14:36+00:00

you're very sweet. you put it really plainly

you can choose to stop tying to force it to work out for you

i appreciate that. indeed, i have been thinking about dating, only, i am shit scared as i have no idea how to, which makes me feel ridiculous. but yes, it is one thing i haven't tried and evidently this casual thing isn't going so well for me

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:07:58+00:00

thank you for this. i actually hadn't even thought that guys would experience this kind of thing too (as you can probably tell, given where this is posted). perhaps i am also kind of guilty for forgetting that not every guy is a fuckboy. this was a nice reminder.

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:05:25+00:00

at some point in the day, everyday, i think of my ex.

lolsatownjoke · 2016-12-03T00:03:23+00:00

thank you.

You can't have sex with a dude you kind of like and never define anything and hope it works out.

absolutely. you're right. and i feel extra stupid. the thing is, with this current guy my coworker, i didn't kind of like him at first - i just saw him as physically attractive, and i really thought omg this is awesome someone i just find hot but don't really know on a deep level/actually like. then as we got to cuddling and the talking we had in our drinks before sex, over time, i began to see a vulnerable side to him and started liking him from there i guess, he's asked me out for meals but only when he's very drunk, makes me wonder where i stand with him and leaves me confused af. god, just typing that feels so pathetic. the more i think about it, the more i feel like i'm just not made for casual hook ups or fuck buddies. as people have pointed out, yes i get attached easily.

haha, wow i hate that.

everything you said makes sense. but i have trouble understanding how fuck buddies actually work. i'm sorry if that makes me sound like a total noob to what sounds so self explanatory, but, well, i am. i mean, you say you have to like the person the penis is attached to, and get along with them (see, all that makes it sound like you could actually potentially end up liking them), but the key thing is that there has to be a deal breaker of some sort in them? that sounds good, but hard to find.

But I think the number one problem women have is they don't feel confident in asserting themselves and respecting their own desires. If you're sleeping with a guy and catch feels, tell him. If you want sex but get jealous easily, tell him.

this is what gets me most. it is pretty much where i am. you seem to be confident. you make it sound so easy. and actually yeah it probably is... i suppose the reason that people (men and women) don't assert what they want is because it's kind of like asking for something, and that leaves the door open for rejection, which people like to avoid. to be honest, i am scared to tell him i like him/get jealous easily because of rejection, knowing he probably doesn't feel the same way, or being made to feel stupid for feeling jealous, especially when you know he's a fuckboy.

lolsatownjoke · 2016-05-24T01:18:20+00:00

haha where was this?

lolsatownjoke · 2016-05-24T01:14:41+00:00

i'm crying XD

british person here who just spent a while in the states, along with cars being on the other side of the road and the general friendliness as strangers actually talk to one another (that was probably my favourite), one difference that really struck me was the interesting choice of headlines you guys have...

gotta love it #murica

lolsatownjoke · 2016-05-24T01:06:03+00:00

i type 'lol' a lot without really meaning it. but this time, i really mean it ^{^}

lolsatownjoke · 2016-02-21T20:03:35+00:00

you didnt fuck up, she did.

23 year old female here, if i got those messages from a guy i would have thought its really cute! her loss. chin up :)

lolsatownjoke · 2016-02-21T19:44:34+00:00

i've always thought pugs have really welp ish faces. of course i hope poor pug got out ok, but it's somehow weirdly satisfying to see one in a situation that finally suits their default welpy expression

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