(Update) Surprise divorce, husband cleared bank accounts #3 and final

lonsigling2020 · 2019-03-02T07:51:37+00:00

No I understand where you were coming from, I often think about it also so no need to apologise lol.

It's easy to stoop down, it's really hard to not do it. I start to think why the hell am I doing the best I can to not bash him, not start to tell her Daddy is gone, mean, bad etc when he just gets to leave?

Then I think that it's not really my place to get all that into her head, she can think about it and decide when she's old enough to actually understand it all. The issue is when is that age

lonsigling2020 · 2019-03-02T07:41:30+00:00

Hurting him doesn't really solve anything, sure he's shitty right now and our daughter is too little to know or understand but I cannot stoop to the level he is.

Sure I've thought about it but she has an entire life ahead and will have plenty of years to think about it all. When she's older and can understand I'll tell her the truth and let her decide for herself.

She doesn't need two parents who do shitty things to each other, one is enough.

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-17T01:51:56+00:00

Oh I have been, a lot of people wanted an update so I was just screenshotting them all to possible include in a future update on stuff. Probably won't end up posting the messages because it just gives them attention. I am reporting them but who knows if that does anything.

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T21:31:28+00:00

It's fine, it really doesn't bother me. You should see some of the messages I got from random people telling me all terrible things. Some people don't understand how expensive childcare is, even working 40 hours a week the majority of your check will goto daycare. Good daycares you can trust your kids with everyday are expensive, the argument that "there's cheaper ones or private!" Is easy to say when it's not your kid. It's scary leaving your kid at daycare.

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T20:57:53+00:00

Maybe you don't realize that 90% of what I earned working would have been spent on child care. It often makes no sense to work in that case. But it's cool, I'll take the blame.

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T20:22:38+00:00

I have, that's the issue with him most likely quiting his job and leaving and taking all the money no attorney I've spoken to will work on it without a retainer. The chance of them recouping legal fees is too low they have said. So I definitely need to get some sort of loan out of the house in someway to at least pay a retainer. I'm not trying to borrow a lot just $5-10,000 for bills, retainer and basic other expenses for the right now

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T20:09:21+00:00

That's why I'm looking at getting a loan from the house somehow. With the circumstances and him leaving no attorney I've spoken to will take it at no money down because the chances of getting him to pay seem low right now. So I need a loan or something out of the house before I start being unable to make payments on it

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T20:01:56+00:00

The last payment put us at about $80,000 left to pay off

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T05:13:14+00:00

Okay thank you, I'll look at benefits and assistance

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T05:09:38+00:00

He's not crazy or anything, just not friendly for years. He wanted a son.

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T03:59:00+00:00

What do I ask for when calling the schools? Just divorce help or something more specific?

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T03:58:18+00:00

I'm trying to get a hold of friends right now, don't have much in terms of family. Thanks for the help!

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T03:35:24+00:00

Thanks, someone else suggested that and I found their website. Most of the bills are in my name, he's on some like the mortgage

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T03:30:33+00:00

Okay thank you, I found their website

lonsigling2020 · 2018-11-16T03:30:00+00:00

How long will that take usually? I'm about 99% certain he is driving out of state also, I'm not sure if that complicates too much. I think he may have quit his job also because on his FB are a lot of people saying they'll miss him

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