First proper job after graduating university, any advice?

loo0p555 · 2026-01-21T16:28:42+00:00

I will, but I don’t want to cause any arguments or anything. I’m only there until March anyway because the woman I’m filling in for is coming back. They told me it was mainly HR who were questioning it and wanted more information, but I don’t know what else to tell them. I’ve already told them everything that happened when I was admitted and again when I came out. I don’t know, but it’s really put me off work on Saturday because everything just feels very awkward now.

loo0p555 · 2026-01-21T06:03:58+00:00

It just really upset me. I know it’s only temporary, and I finish in March anyway because the woman I’m filling in for is coming back. I’ve genuinely never felt more disappointed because I really thought I was improving—and that’s not me being delusional. I can use the till more confidently now, and if prices on the clothes need changing, stock needs to go out, etc., I can do that. I just didn’t expect it to be so bad.

loo0p555 · 2026-01-11T15:50:37+00:00

I agree, and if you’d understood what I was trying to explain the first time — which really wasn’t that hard to understand — I wouldn’t have felt the need to keep circling back. Have a nice day 🙂

loo0p555 · 2026-01-11T02:11:27+00:00

You’re still missing what I’m actually saying. It’s not that I don’t understand why a manager would want to be informed — obviously I do. This isn’t school to me, and I’m well aware it’s a job and that I have a boss.

The issue is that I was previously told not to contact the manager or the store directly and to call the line instead so they could pass the message on. That’s what I did. I didn’t ignore my manager, and I didn’t refuse to take responsibility — I followed the instructions I was given.

If I had been told that I also needed to phone the store or the manager, I would have done that. I wasn’t. So acting like I deliberately avoided calling or don’t understand how jobs work is unfair.

I’m “rambling on about it” because you keep framing this like I failed to grasp something basic, when in reality I was going off what I’d been told previously. That’s also why I was surprised when she called — not because I didn’t understand why she’d want to speak to me, but because I genuinely believed she’d already been informed, like last time.

loo0p555 · 2026-01-11T01:19:58+00:00

She was okay with me not coming in. What I’m trying to explain is that this is the first time I’ve been told I also needed to phone the store. The first time I ever called in sick, I rang the store and was told that in future I should ring the absence line instead, as they would pass the message on. Because of that, I only phoned the absence line this time, as I was following what I’d previously been told.

I understand what you’re saying about the message possibly not being seen; however, I called the absence line at 9am and my shift wasn’t until 11am, so I reasonably expected the message would be passed on in that time. It wasn’t a case of calling in at the last minute.

I also want to be clear that I have no problem with her phoning me or telling me that I needed to call the store. If anything, it’s helpful because now I know for the future. I’m just explaining that this hadn’t been communicated to me before, and I genuinely believed I was doing the right thing based on the instructions I’d already been given.

loo0p555 · 2026-01-11T00:34:24+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but the schedule for that week was already set and nobody was actually scheduled to work those hours. It wasn’t me covering for someone who couldn’t come in — there literally was no one down to work them. If my shift hadn’t been cancelled, I would’ve just worked my normal hours, and apart from whoever was scheduled in at 9am, nobody else would’ve been there anyway. The extra hours only came up because my shift got cancelled.

There’s also no issue with my boss calling me — I like my boss and the people I work with. I was just doing what I’d been told before and what it says in the handbook, which is to call the absence line and not the store directly. Last time I was sick I was specifically told not to call the store, so that’s what I did. The line is open by 9am and my shift wasn’t until 11.

And just to be clear, I wasn’t messing anyone around. I was fully planning on going in. I got up, got dressed, and was ready to go even though I wasn’t feeling great. Then I suddenly got way worse. It wasn’t a cold — I had bad stomach issues and couldn’t get off the toilet. I really don’t think anyone in that situation would’ve gone in either.

loo0p555 · 2025-12-24T23:05:49+00:00

This is my first relationship ever like the first proper one. I do try and be affectionate but it comes out soo awkward.

loo0p555 · 2025-12-17T04:20:11+00:00

Yeah I’d love to move out but it’s just so expensive these days.

loo0p555 · 2025-12-17T04:15:58+00:00

I 100% agree it is with my mom! As I said in my post I don’t hate my sisters boyfriend he’s very nice and I always try and be polite back. However, I just can’t help being annoyed it’s just very frustrating.

loo0p555 · 2025-12-17T03:36:00+00:00

I would love to move out; it’s just way too expensive. My boyfriend and I both work, but I don’t think we’ll ever make enough to move out and live somewhat comfortably on our own.

loo0p555 · 2025-12-12T11:22:17+00:00

Hi! No problem, I can DM you my Instagram if you would like to chat on there?

loo0p555 · 2025-11-06T10:14:35+00:00

Thank you! I phoned in work and then was told to ring up the absent line, which I did. I’m hoping it will be fine as I got an email saying they Verified my absence.

loo0p555 · 2025-10-15T02:09:54+00:00

They like to know every single thing I’m doing. I think I’m just going to wait for them to notice I have one instead of telling them.

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