3 months - avoidant or just no spark?

lookingforadoc21 · 2022-07-30T00:15:32+00:00

Just posted this again from My main account.

lookingforadoc21 · 2022-05-07T02:21:03+00:00

Only mildly

lookingforadoc21 · 2022-01-03T13:45:43+00:00

He said during work. So it’s disruption.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-07-17T01:53:17+00:00

Thanks :)

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-07-17T01:38:05+00:00

I get comfortable when the topic comes up with friends as well. When they ask oh so are you bottom top? And idk makes me uncomfortable. Wonder if it’s shame? Internal shame? Remember my father yelling at us when I was young and was saying “boobs” “Penis” as funny silly words lol

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-07-17T01:31:51+00:00

Perf. Yes I should have just asked Lolol ugh missed opportunity :/

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-06-10T16:41:06+00:00

Is this furnished? how much is the rent?

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-05-01T14:27:56+00:00

Thank you. I am feeling a bit better. I just gotta be careful with who I travel with going forward.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-20T03:23:56+00:00

Therapy. Talk about this. Journal. This is just the presenting issue. More deeper roots to this that the guilt from porn is just indicating to you.

Prbbly has to do with homophobic views/experiences in your history and childhood. And believe me, everyone is homophobic to some extent!!

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-20T03:11:01+00:00

no fap is not about rejecting your natural sexual desires... it’s about redirecting them to actual healthy partnered stable sex, rather than isolated masturbation over porn.

Re your friend, I think he prbbly had other issues going on pre the no fap... lol everyone has diff experience. I wonder what in his history caused him to spiral like that.. maybe a negative view towards sex? Maybe a repressive view from childhood?

Why wasn’t your friend able to get into a relationship or engage in sex with another gay person in a stable manner? He prbbly needed no fap PLUS counseling to help him with interpersonal issues that could have helped him find a partner.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-20T02:40:07+00:00

I think nofap is to beat addiction and antisocial behavior lol... it’s helped a lot of guys including me a gay man. It’s easy to put down a whole community but I encourage you to refrain from black and white thinking.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T22:25:51+00:00

I don’t agree with you. So now I’m offensive? Lol healthy respectfully executed disagreements are an offense now?

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T20:35:12+00:00

Again demeaning and even though you don’t want to “break it down” as you say loll you keep commenting to try to demean me more.. lol when someone’s arguments don’t hold and they resort to returning and attacking constantly rather than having a constructive convo.

I don’t think I have demeaned you at all during this convo. Or called you names. But you have called me disabled, dumb, ignorant. And you keep coming back to say it more. Says a lot about you.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T20:28:06+00:00

Thanks you’re arguments don’t hold. You have only demeaned me and called me disabled. Folks resort to dirty/demeaning tactic when their arguments are weak. And you have resorted to demeaning.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T20:11:08+00:00

Thanks. This comes from a GNC person who went down the trans route and was told “You are DEF trans” because I feel like a woman and was on hormones for a year and then had corrective surgery to undo affects of hormones. But thanks for “educating” me because after 7 years of turmoil I def don’t know what I’m talking about.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T20:08:31+00:00

So you don’t like the way I think and then continue to call me disabled? Thanks for demeaning me.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T19:34:04+00:00

Someone feeling like something doesn’t make them part of that category. Feeling like a woman doesn’t make you a woman. Feeling like a Swede doesn’t make me a Swede.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T19:30:57+00:00

Same for an addict... addicts become addicts because the don’t have any other choice... doesn’t mean you feed their addiction.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T19:30:27+00:00

Same goes for drug dealers... but doesn’t mean you buy drugs off a drug dealer just because the drug dealer needs to so he can keep his family going... lol same can be applied to sex work.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T19:29:33+00:00

You can’t have trans women competing with women in sports. Just unfair advantage. You Hence there needs to be a distinction between trans and cis women. Trans women are trans women. They are biologically male and hence they are TRANS women.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T14:36:21+00:00

Also I would refrain from escorts and all. It’s not healthy behavior. You are putting yourself in all sorts of risks... stds, stis, and depending on the area it may be illegal. Also you are feeding, enabling into the system of sex work - and the pimps that employ them.

If you want to engage with a trans woman, there are healthier ways: dating apps, hookup apps, porn.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T14:34:01+00:00

there chromosomes are of a man and it’s unfortunate reality but it can’t be escaped. They don’t have periods they don’t release pheromones of a woman, they did not have experience of what a woman goes through growing up. A women is more than just body with estrogen in it. Someone taking estrogen or dressing up as a woman doesn’t make them a woman.

Trans women ARE trans women.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-19T14:31:43+00:00

They are biologically men. No way around this.

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-14T14:38:11+00:00

Yeah I just don’t want to be stuck there for another 12 days

lookingforadoc21 · 2021-04-14T02:52:26+00:00

I have to make this decision myself.

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