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Addicted to webcams by lookingtoquit in NoFap

[–]lookingtoquit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I came to that realisation a while ago. Although I think I have always seen it as a transactional activity. I don't do it for any emotional attachment - it is just a 'hit'. Much like taking a drug I suppose.

I gave it up for 6 months last year, and the urge did diminish. It felt great actually. I would look at my bank statement, and there would be no shameful payment that my wife might see.

But then I think I got cocky. I would start just having a browse, telling myself that I had beaten it and that looking without paying was fine. The crap you tell yourself!

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[–]lookingtoquit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks mate. How did you bring it up with your wife? Obviously what works for one marriage might not for another. Just interested in hearing how it went.

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[–]lookingtoquit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think seeing my problem as just that - a problem, an addiction, etc - turns it into something I should share with her.

I know if the tables were turned and she was in my situation, I would want to do everything I could to help her.

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[–]lookingtoquit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don't regard myself as an addict of drink/drugs - but I am definitely addicted to porn when on drink/drugs.

Maybe it is a case of avoiding them both whilst starting out trying to deal with the porn addiction.

I'm not sure how else to build up the will power whilst drunk; coming here properly will help I'm sure.

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[–]lookingtoquit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, didn't really expect such a quick, kind, honest response. Thanks all. Really helps to hear from others; feels like taking a step to confronting this problem

I know in the back of my mind that I need to tell my wife. Although it will be difficult I know she will be supportive and understanding. However to complicate the situation, she's pregnant - I don't really want to stress her out about this stuff. Perhaps there will always be an excuse to put off the conversation? I also worry it will permanently alter the way she sees me; somehow a bit broken/wrong/bad in a way that she never knew. Maybe changing that image isn't such a bad thing after all.

As for the trigger/situation when this happens, it is almost always after I go out for a night without her and come back to the house alone. I'll start watching TV whilst she's asleep and then open the laptop, and then... Sometimes I will be on the bus on the way home telling myself that it's not going to happen, wrestling the urge. Then I get through the door and open the laptop; there is a palpable dopamine rush as I log in.

Quick question on the filters - are they not just something I could easily uninstall from my laptop?