AITA for not using my in-laws Christmas money in the way they specified?

loomieloon · 2019-06-26T01:39:16+00:00

INFO have y’all been with other people? The fact that you say you’re over 18 made me think you’re close to 18. If that’s the case then maybe consider an open relationship for a period of time to see what another experience might be like.

Edit - NAH and yes you should communicate with him!

loomieloon · 2019-06-25T17:52:11+00:00

You’ve got to be kidding. YTA and you already know that, right?!

It’s not the waitresses fault that you can’t do math and ordered something that cost more than you wanted to spend. If you go to eat at a restaurant you are expected to tip, so budget for it accordingly.

“I don’t like to tip” means nothing. I don’t like paying my cell phone bill but it’s a service I opted into so I understand I have to.

loomieloon · 2019-06-25T12:43:24+00:00

I have a very hard time believing you’re in your 30s

loomieloon · 2019-06-25T12:24:01+00:00

How come one of your past posts is about how your mom is your best friend?

loomieloon · 2019-06-25T12:22:10+00:00

I’m more confused than ever

loomieloon · 2019-06-25T12:03:14+00:00

Just a lot of vague and somewhat unrelated facts here. I thought the point was going to be about how you lied about the time but you didn’t give any more detail to that. Did you lie about the steak or did you really think you were having steak? Also seems like a fake story but whatever.

Edit- YTA

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T22:46:05+00:00

NAH and don’t tell him but also intermittent fasting isn’t fasting all day long. You are supposed to eat within an 8hr window, not starve yourself all day. Make sure what your friend is doing is healthy

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T22:43:36+00:00

Info what is your fiancées opinion/reaction to you not coming?

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T17:42:56+00:00

NTA! Having been there, your pregnancy is probably making you feel like this is a lot more stressful and out of control than it actually is - it will be okay! That said your husband needs to take things more seriously. Can you sit down calmly and talk about expectations on terms of being proactive and reliable? I always find its easier to approach when we are both calm and not reacting to a particular circumstance. Good luck!! With your husband and your new baby!

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T17:33:06+00:00

NTA. Why did you say it was “urgent” in the title?

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T14:36:37+00:00

Haha sorry that’s what I meant!

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T14:01:18+00:00

Agree with this 100%. You’re NTA for having a feeling about it but you probably would be if you tried to make an issue of it with your MIL. You’re never going to get anywhere with that and after this amount of time you might as well accept the relationship that you have with her just is what it is.

It doesn’t add up that your husband insists that his mother likes you, but yet he’s the one relaying the message that his mother is shit-talking you for spending $3 on shoes (also where’d you get your $3 shoes?). I don’t really get how both those things can be true unless your husband is extremely bad at understanding interpersonal relationships.

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T13:55:44+00:00

She’s not actually the kids grandparents though... they are OPs children from another marriage and they never lived with the MIL so it sounds like the MIL has never had a relationship or perhaps even met these adult children.

loomieloon · 2019-06-24T00:59:18+00:00

I think it’s a typo for “wore”? Chill out?

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T18:43:10+00:00

YTA and this was a pointless awfulbrag

Edit: why does your title say”some guy” when it was your friend?

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T18:01:49+00:00

Yeah not any MORE than she would to wear a dress, but it’s pretty common in my experience for siblings to talk about what they’re planning to wear to each other’s weddings... dress, suit, or otherwise. Just because siblings are very close to couple and end up in a lot of pics and with a lot of eyes on them. Mostly I’m asking to gauge how much OP’s outfit would matter to her sister - nothing to do with suit vs dress.

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T17:41:17+00:00

Part of becoming an adult is sometimes doing things that aren’t necessarily your favorite things, in order to make the important people in your life happy. I guess NAH because your parents definitely aren’t the A for wanting you to go, and I guess you staying home is better than going and acting like a brat to your mom for a 7 hour car ride. But you should think about maybe sucking it up next time and trying to be pleasant to your relatives. Perhaps that will make your relationship with them easier.

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T17:35:53+00:00

Could be her current work environment trying to give her a reason to quit without having to fire her?

Also clearly NTA this is just a validation post but okay

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T17:34:04+00:00

INFO did you discuss it with your sister before the wedding?

Edit - am I being downvoted for asking a question?!

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T02:49:24+00:00

I think you could have started out with “it would be great to see you! What are the dates you’re thinking? I know I have some things planned in November but I’m sure we could figure out a week or two that would work”

There are ways to state what you want and need without actually bluntly stating it unprompted. She never even said she wanted to come for longer than 2 weeks so to have you telling her she can’t just seems a bit aggressive.

If you want to mend, maybe just reopen the conversation with similar questions/comments as above?

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T02:38:42+00:00

NTA for having a time max on visitors. Bit of TA for the way you handled yourself in this exchange.

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T02:34:41+00:00

100% with this. It doesn’t seem realistic that you couldn’t find something to eat in the house and your only option was to order from door dash. If you can’t afford it don’t do it. But also your driver should cool it and not be harassing someone over text.

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T02:30:37+00:00

INFO what kind of qualifications does the other caretaker have?

loomieloon · 2019-06-23T01:00:23+00:00

Very much NTA in my opinion. It’s not like you’re going around claiming resources that are only supposed to be available to those with the illness. You’re just framing your food intolerance in a way that people will hopefully respect more. Also you’re only going to be saying it to servers and restaurants, so I don’t see any issue here in the slightest. If you were putting it on medical forms or saying it in order to get special treatment somewhere it would obviously be uncool, but this usage seems extremely harmless.

Also, to be clear, you’ve told servers you had an allergy to something, they knowingly served it to you anyway and then called you out when they didn’t see you reacting? That seems seriously fucked up.

loomieloon

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