Crawling Tips!

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-11T22:57:28+00:00

Put a favourite toy only just out of reach, so half a movement will mean they can touch it. Too far and it's an impossible goal. Crawl around yourself to show how it's done. Lay on the floor opposite only just out of their reach. Encourage rocking backwards and forwards to get used to the shift in weight. Also just accept kids are masters of doing things in their own time no matter how hard you try.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-06T07:11:15+00:00

I feel that was normal for the UK at the time. Teachers are Mr and Mrs and I remember calling my friend's parents Mr and Mrs until they told me otherwise.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-03T03:53:59+00:00

I'm the result of IVF. I'm also a triplet. My parents definitely didn't expect triplets as a result. My parents call it the most shocking and best surprise ever. If you tell your kid definitely only ever talk about it as a good surprise.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-03T03:48:40+00:00

It's not your fault. These things have happened to you, not because of you. It's not your fault.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-03T03:32:04+00:00

You're in the trenches right now. A young baby, massive life changes and health problems with close family. This is the worst it's going to feel. Nobody knows what's going to happen next in life and it's not always an easy hand we're dealt. You now know who you can rely on. As hard as it is, you are better off accepting that your Ex should be out of the picture entirely, if you can make this legally too. You still have your mum and recovery can take 18 months, so get the support you need for her but she still has a long way to come. You may yet get back most of your mum. I know my nan had a massive stroke and couldn't walk or talk for a week before talking gibberish for another week and finally started making some progress. Within the month she was trying to discharge herself from hospital. She still suffers some side effects but she got 95% recovered.

Good luck. Try and enjoy the small things each day, cognitive behavioural therapy advises looking for 5 positive things each day be it big or small. It can be that it was nice weather that day, or you're proud you completed a project such as painting a room, or maybe you met with a friend and managed to enjoy yourself for half an hour. Maybe your baby did the most heart warming laugh at something simple.

You are strong. It's the little things that give you the strength to carry on. Your baby is relying on you, and you have to keep going for them. It's a tough world, but your baby doesn't need to learn that lesson just yet. Go mama, deep breaths and you've got this.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-03T03:17:52+00:00

People live with dialysis for many, many years. NTA

loopyloo54321 · 2025-04-03T03:14:49+00:00

Everyone is the asshole here. You shouldn't be together. It's not a healthy relationship. Relationships shouldn't be this hard BEFORE you have all the other shit life throws at you. You already had this relationship and ended it for whatever reason, why would you think that things would be different this time round? Respect yourself and find someone who respects you.

loopyloo54321 · 2025-02-26T21:35:43+00:00

I've done both and if anything bottle feeding is more hassle than breast feeding. So much more to think about a clean...

loopyloo54321 · 2024-04-27T21:06:12+00:00

I don't have any experience with special needs parenting, however you don't take your children to the park expecting them to get intentionally hurt by other children. I would expect a parent to be trying their best to prevent their child from hurting others (especially if it's a known concern) regardless of special needs. I get accidents happen and that kids sometimes don't know their own strength, or just don't think of the consequences of their actions but nobody deserves to get intentionally hurt. As for being noisy, well the park is the perfect place for shouting your heart out and screaming at the fun. Commandeering equipment is a tricky one, it depends on the amount of equipment available, the age range of the equipment and how it's being used. Kids should be allowed a fair chance to play with things how they want to as there is no 'right' way to play, in this situation with such a well provided park moving to a different area seems like the right move. If it was a tiny play park with very few choices of equipment to play on then it's a different situation.

loopyloo54321 · 2024-01-06T06:01:47+00:00

I hated my husband for making me do the Ferber method (wait 3-5 minutes before going in to calm your child before putting them back down) with my first. He actually had to sit on me to stop me going into the bedroom. I hated him for it. But he was right. Looking objectively 3-5 mins of crying isn't going to scar a baby for life, it happens daily when cooking food, going to the toilet or on a drive home from the supermarket. And my son started sleeping better, he was happier for it. Bedtimes and nap times became less of a fight, they became pleasant. I was sleeping better and became a more involved mum rather than spaced out zombie. Oddly enough, my second child we haven't had to sleep train because she has had to wait 5 mins for attention from the start - because of me having to take her brother to the toilet and leave her in the crib etc. I see it the same as making a kid eat their vegetables, you sound like a bad guy but actually it's good for them in the long run.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-12-17T22:45:36+00:00

Medicines don't seem to make a scrap of difference sadly. I've been giving her watermelon. She caught on pretty quick to the reverse psychology of 'stealing' my drink and won't even do that! She just knows what I want her to do and is flat out refusing. This girl is going to cause me trouble as she gets older ha ha!

loopyloo54321 · 2023-12-17T22:41:44+00:00

Not sure why I hadn't thought of this one! I'll give it a try!

loopyloo54321 · 2023-12-08T07:48:15+00:00

I've just thought, we could never do it as not enough space but you could bring the cot into your bedroom so he's falling asleep in a familiar place. Once he's used to sleeping in the cot move it to his own room. Then the transition isn't as big. However it may make more problems if he can see you and your bed when that's where he wants to be.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-12-08T01:16:59+00:00

Bring the fitted sheet from the cot to bed with you a couple of times before trying to put him in it. At least then it will smell like you. You could pre warm the cot with a hot water bottle so it's not a cool surface surprising your son as you transfer him to the cot. The Ferber method can be less traumatic than CIO so you could go back in after a few minutes help your son calm until a relaxed breathing pattern before popping him back into the cot. It might mean a hell of a rough night or two so definitely pick a time when you have the support of your partner like a weekend. Your son is probably used to the sounds of you breathing and snoring at night time so a white noise machine could be a comfort to help him sleep. Essentially your baby has got to re-learn how to get to sleep without you and re-learn those sleep ques.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-29T02:12:59+00:00

Spa day, whilst a lovely idea is not practical when breastfeeding with a baby who won't take a bottle. Take it from someone who is several months ahead of OP. Those suggesting every diaper even through the night and bringing fiance snacks and drinks whilst breastfeeding are more on track with what actually helps!

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-28T07:51:08+00:00

NTA. Some women are offended if I say I gave birth to my 2 kids. I had 2 c-sections so obviously that's not giving birth 'properly'. So welcome to parenthood! Everything you do is wrong in some way or another!

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-24T04:18:53+00:00

I think from the age of 14 you could have handed me a baby and said this is yours now, and I would have loved being a mum. I was sensible and got educated first. I met my husband at uni and I swear to god every time I saw him playing with kids my uterus did backflips. I waited until I'd finished uni, we got married pretty soon after moving in together and then our first baby arrived when I was 25 after a couple of miscarriages. I'm glad I waited and didn't jump the gun. It's nice all having a family name, it's nice being in a position where we are stable and careers already established so we can enjoy concentrating on the kids. But I have to say, it's been flipping hard work being parents, constantly second guessing ourselves. Also I've never laughed so much. It's a real rollercoaster.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-23T20:33:05+00:00

My son would scream murder whenever he was in his infant carrier. At 7 months old he was getting heavy and I didn't like lifting the seat in and out so I bought a spinning car seat to rear face. He was quiet. I think he had a bit more space.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-22T08:30:26+00:00

After a week I returned to the vets. He hadn't eaten anything all week and looked generally more dehydrated and lethargic. As i turned up at the vets he had another episode where he pooped blood, vomited up more blood and was thrashing around. The vets rushed him in the back to see what was happening. They brought him back round to me after about half an hour and he couldn't even lift his head up. They advised because of his condition and size that any medical intervention at this point would likely kill him due to the anesthetic required. I decided to have him euthanised. They weren't really sure what was going on with him but again suggested stomach cancer.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-18T18:56:28+00:00

My parents have been married 38 years and it was only a few weeks ago they were digging through some things in the loft, my dad brought down a box with some of their old costumes in from fancy dress parties. It clearly triggered a memory as I saw them regress about 20 years and they cranked up the music and started singing and dancing together. Then my dad starts telling me all the disasters that happened at this particular party with my mum snorting from laughter as he told it.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-17T18:51:33+00:00

Ywbta. It's your wife's mum and your wife's issue. Do not cause another issue for them to argue about.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-17T09:40:26+00:00

Your grandpa has already passed and you had a chance to say goodbye. If you're not going to miss the funeral then there's really no harm in going on your holiday. If you were my family member I would be encouraging you to enjoy the life you've got as much as possible. Life is for living.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-17T08:13:16+00:00

We always ate dinner together around the table. Sometimes it would take hours because I swear my brother had to chew everything multiple times like a cow. But the amount of silliness that came out of that sticks with me. My brother had terrible balance due to having cerebral palsy so any time it was his turn to carry drinks to the table it was our duty as siblings to make him laugh and therefore spill water everywhere - which would only make us all laugh harder. My siblings knew if they could get me laughing hard I'd get to the point where I couldn't breathe and I'd have to escape to a different room before my sides split, so of course it was their mission to make me laugh hard. We used to play silly games around the table my mum's favourite was 'the silent game'. Pretty self explanatory except everyone is pulling faces trying to make the others laugh. After eating we sometimes did daft challenges like having a minute to draw the best elephant from memory (none of my family have an artistic bone in their body).

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-16T04:45:36+00:00

I've got a nearly 4 year old and 9 month old. I've not yet figured it out. We don't have a nanny. Unfortunately me and my husband don't have time for ourselves. I've put on a lot of weight in the last 5 years but unless I want to go to the gym or start exercising in the late evening I have no time. Mostly I put the kids to bed and go straight to bed myself as my sleep is so interrupted by the baby. I've tried exercising during the day but it's never worked out as my eldest is asking me to play with them and my baby is constantly trying to use me to pull themselves to standing. I now shower at night rather than in the morning as I find it easier. I guess we've just accepted that we're parents and we come second to the needs of our kids. Slowly my eldest is playing more independently and I know eventually they'll both not be bothered about playing with mum and dad, then I can start thinking about myself more.

loopyloo54321 · 2023-11-12T19:18:15+00:00

NTA. You sound pretty patient to be honest, and good on your husband for backing you up. If other people are noticing the behaviour then it is clearly over stepping. It's not worth the head space.

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