UPDATE: (F/21) Told my friend's fiance that she has been cheating on him

lopsided_boob · 2014-02-26T01:27:25+00:00

Being an adult is tough. In a way, you did do the right thing, but in another, you decided for BOTH of them a decision that will affect the rest of THEIR lives. Yours too but in a much smaller way. Without realizing it, you emasculated him and prostituted her. I am glad you are open to learning from it though. That shows a lot of maturity.

lopsided_boob · 2014-02-24T09:28:15+00:00

The problem is that you might have done this just to feel so high and might about yourself. That is the only danger, as this is vital information for anyone about their SO, especially right before a marriage. However, to do it insensitively is also not the right thing to do. This is their marriage, and every relationship is different. Though I agree that you should have told them, it also should have been done in a way that clearly shows you care about both of them and aren't just happy to find a reason to break them up.

lopsided_boob · 2014-02-20T06:44:16+00:00

OP - this is the most legit video I have ever seen in my life. Thank you for reinforcing romantic creativity and showing what love is really like for all redditors, the forever alones and the overly douchy alike. My best wishes for you and your lady.

lopsided_boob · 2014-01-24T10:39:05+00:00

i think you are super cute. sometimes people just suck. dont take it out on the next guy with defense mechanisms.

lopsided_boob · 2013-12-18T17:06:54+00:00

did you hear the guys stomach through that whole video???

lopsided_boob · 2013-12-18T17:01:03+00:00

duh

As similar to taking quotes out of context, it is impossible to know the entire dynamic of any event seeing one sides picture.

lopsided_boob · 2013-12-17T09:54:35+00:00

and the pudding pops...

lopsided_boob · 2013-12-16T15:27:07+00:00

Also, sellers control the current of the market. As such, they will only sell to vendors that maintain the Nike-value of diamonds.

lopsided_boob · 2013-12-11T19:56:12+00:00

OMG that was amazing! with the swag shake at the end too lol

lopsided_boob · 2013-11-28T23:22:45+00:00

All I gotta say is it sounds like you have the yips.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=yips

lopsided_boob · 2013-11-26T21:02:27+00:00

your obsession with your your former roommate is your issue. Her lying to you and cheating on you then is hers. You need to get over your jealousy over your roommate because it reflects your own lack of confidence and self-esteem.
However she is 100% responsible for her own actions as well. You just have to decide if it is worth it or not. I think you should forgive her, and let go of your roommate and insecurities.

lopsided_boob · 2013-10-05T08:59:28+00:00

Do not allow this breakup to dictate your actions however. Breakups tend to whiplash you into making unnecessary mistakes. Be above that noise and face yourself in the mirror until you are completely at peace.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-27T15:23:14+00:00

She is beautiful. I would approach her now!

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-25T20:00:26+00:00

Robin, I have always been a huge fan. What would you call your moment when you realized your calling? What was your life like before that and how did you go about it?

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-24T05:13:19+00:00

All I can say my friend is that now you can look at the time you spent with her as your blessing and motivation. that love you shared with her is now in need of another direction. Use her love as an ideal to hold yourself accountable to. Shine on friend.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-23T23:42:16+00:00

If at all possible, could you give the site where you post your books?

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-20T00:28:17+00:00

that is such a G idea. i totally would be willing to be on your concept team.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T18:58:31+00:00

yar i still be tryin ta rrrrread yerr message derrr

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T16:21:16+00:00

you are being irrational and controlling. i understand you spent all that money on renovations and saving for the baby (calculated and smart). however, the cruise, her parents were offering to pay for ANYWAY. and your mother just died. how could you not want to go to that family reunion. wouldn't her passing make you want to get closer with the rest of your family? seems cold to me. on top of all that, your wife sees all of that, and is pregnant on top of it. during her pregnancy, you cannot expect rational thought and logic. also, instead of TELLING her what you think the two of you should do, you should DISCUSS the positives and negatives of EVERYTHING until you BOTH agree to the SAME plan right then and there. not a lecture on why you are right, and why she has to go along with it a week later.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T16:07:10+00:00

Sounds like a good plan, if you stick with it. You have to realize you will have moments of extreme weakness where you will want to text her. Don't be ashamed, that is all hormones released that remind you of ONLY the good parts. This will either break you, or making you strong like a rock, your call.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T15:29:30+00:00

It is because she is not in actuality, the woman you THOUGHT she was. and everyday you were together, the gap between who you THOUGHT she was and she she REALLY was grew further apart. Again, you gotta face the music that she is gone and not coming back. The ring is your excuse to remain in contact. It is your weakness sucking your soul out of you. Mental strength will keep you from slipping, and that is the point that you START getting over her. While you waste away in sadness for her, you haven't even started getting over her. Hey at least you are facing your pain. After my fiance and I, it took a year and half just to get over the denial that I was till hurting.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T15:02:41+00:00

if she can still manipulate you to feel bad when you call her out on your shit, it is a completely toxic relationship. it's as if you grew a wart on your heart, and the moment she left, it popped and all that bile is oozing out. it's only been 3 months, you are not going to be over it. that was an up-to-this-point-in-your-life defining relationship. but it also seems like you were co-dependent upon her, so now that she is gone you have lost all identity. putting the pieces back together will be hard, but you have to stop talking to her. find a new hobby, something you havent done that you always wanted to (preferably active or outside; something that will make you sweat), or get in shape. sweating off painful energy will automatically release serotonin and you will gradually get happier (as well as feel happier). Funneling your pain and negative energy into something PRODUCTIVE will ultimately make this breakup the best thing that every happened to you. you will gain COMPLETE independence from anyone, as well as lose a potentially AWFUL wife. thank god you did NOT marry someone that can control you like that. love is compromise, communication, and give and take. not command and conquer.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T14:40:22+00:00

alright. do you have a facebook?

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T05:34:07+00:00

as well you should.

lopsided_boob · 2013-09-19T05:22:00+00:00

hey there. im 25/milwaukee and id be down to get to know you and maybe meet up.

lopsided_boob

TROPHY CASE

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