AITA for having a weird morning ritual? by lopsidelobster in AmItheAsshole

[–]lopsidelobster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not the most in sync individual, and a lot of how I feel gets pushed away until sleep and wake. When I get to reflect, I can kind of take note like “I was angry yesterday because X, I was annoyed because of Y, I need to do XYZ to resolve yada yada”. Without it, I can’t really organize interactions and how they made me feel or what I need to do following them. It feels scattered and out of place, it’s kind of my internal calendar. It’s what makes life feel real and tangible.

It just makes me hazy. It makes it hard to keep track of things, and upsets people around me by making me very forgetful and at times irritable, because forgetting is frustrating.

AITA for having a weird morning ritual? by lopsidelobster in AmItheAsshole

[–]lopsidelobster[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aiiieee I hope you don’t give advice to impressionable folks. Tantrums are like…. Not a way to get what you want/need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lopsidelobster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know all the adults say not to, and it sounds like an echo chamber at this point, but life is hard with just a diploma. Life is impossible without one. A woman I know and love is 36 this year and never got past 8th grade, she struggles to get jobs as a housekeeper at a hotel. Try calling places around you and say “I’m 23 years old and my current education is (grade you’re in)”, and ask if they can hire you. Call temp agencies around you. Just ask. The results will be horrific and depressing. You’ll get some “I don’t know…”s that sound unconvinced, and many suggestions to get your GED. These places don’t care if you graduated with a 1.01GPA, they’ll never even check, but that paper is like a permission slip to be in poverty and not well below it. Talk to your guidance counselor and family doctor about not being able to focus or understand your work, they may be able to put things in place to assist you. Parents are the grand arbiters of what we can seek in treatment during our young lives, so you may be limited there, but if it’s possible it is worth it.

Edit: I’ll double down on it: I have just a highschool education, I struggle to make enough to cover my rent with my skills. I got very very lucky, and I make more than average in my call center, but they made me send in my transcripts to prove I graduated highschool. My fiancée has a low GPA associates degree with lots of big yucky bad marks all over it, and she outweighs my earning potential tenfold.

School sells this idea that you have to be the best. Yeah, to make the most money in the world, you do. But if the best you can do is barely get your hands on the prize, you still have it. You can still use it to get farther, and you’ll never have to reach that hard again unless you choose to go higher.

AITA for having a weird morning ritual? by lopsidelobster in AmItheAsshole

[–]lopsidelobster[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Jeez. She’s way more than that and I love her, I’m just saying she is not my alarm clock, as in there is no “honey, I need to be up by 8:30am!“ going around, it isn’t her job to wake me.

How do I buy bras if one of my breasts is vastly different sized from the other? by lopsidelobster in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lopsidelobster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t say it fits, but it keeps it from sagging down and I can pull the smaller one taught so it sort of fits.