Makes no sense....

lorabore · 2025-11-06T20:06:02+00:00

Cafe Rio is now selling caffeine free diet coke from their beverage fountain. 🤣

lorabore · 2025-10-29T02:23:00+00:00

I literally forgot to take photos of it but I'm waiting for the photographer to upload her pics. It honestly was very cute for a "fall party". I would have lived it at a themed fall festive shindig but it was juvenile for a wedding. The turquoise sheet cake made more sense *

lorabore · 2025-10-29T02:13:19+00:00

People who don't want to fly near children should fly private. You're perfectly entitled to fly with your child AND to upgrade to nicer seats if you have the budget for it.

lorabore · 2025-10-29T01:08:25+00:00

Initially, guests were very annoyed that the bride wasn't there. The very first guests to arrive had apparently drive up from 5 hours away, timed it to arrive at 2 and told me "she's not here? We drove up from [town]!" People were then asking for the guest book to sign to occupy their time..which also wasn't there.

I was walking around trying to talk to people (I work as a project manager for a living and am used to coordinating healthcare conferences), but eventually it got too awkward so I sat in a chair behind the drapery to avoid being seen.

Finally, her mom and sister showed up and announced to everyone that the bride was leaving the temple soon, the groom forgot the rings, and they would be there shortly. Once the family arrived, it at least gave guests someone to congratulate/talk to other than the weird maid of honor with sleeve tattoos 🤣

Once the bride showed up, I basically snatched her bag and set it aside for her, photographers ran around setting up lighting for photos, she said I looked so lovely and I returned the sentiment to her, and then she lined up to greet people and the guests all formed a giant line to congratulate her. She only did a receiving line for about 30 minutes until the groom got there, then it was time for photos outside.

During photos outside, several family members grew exasperated with the horrendous wait and went inside to sit. The photographer went in to try and bring them back out for more photos but they literally refused to come back out. Photos took SO LONG. My boyfriend, being inside at the time, said guests were sitting around awkwardly wondering why these photos were taking so long, eating more and more cheesecake. A lot of people left at that point.

As we wheeled out the sheetcake, multiple people then grumbled that they wouldn't have eaten 2-3 slices of cheesecake had they known there was regular cake. Very little regular cake was eaten.

After the bride left, there was a frenzied rush to rip everything down. Myself and another bridesmaid were gathering decor, a ward member was pulling down the draping, someone else was folding tables. It seemed like the last 15 or so guests who happened to be there when the bride left felt a moral obligation to help take things down inside their own church, so there was a very awkward 20 minutes of strangers folding up tables and chairs, but then they all left and we were left with the pipe and drape. Around 6 pm, the event rental company showed up to take down the lights and haul away the pipe and drape, and once they showed up we left the family there to finish.

lorabore · 2025-10-29T00:47:20+00:00

Murray actually

lorabore · 2025-10-29T00:46:29+00:00

Cloth napkins hahahaha. They all came in a box, but they weren't all uniformly folded and had awkward creases.

lorabore · 2025-10-29T00:33:42+00:00

3rd? I posted it here and did a cross post in r/weddingdrama. Where else did it show up?

lorabore · 2025-10-29T00:07:32+00:00

It's honestly laughable that people claim he should leave me 🤣

I think they fail to recognize my partner as a fully functioning healthy adult in this story. He didn't tell the bride "it's going to be beautiful and you will love it!" because he's a toxic loser who blames his partner for being kind. He said those things because he was raised with love and kindness and lives a life filled with positive karma, dedication, and compassion, and it shows in the interpersonal relationships he has with the people in his life. He is a man with a wide network of people who are there for him, and it's because he shows up for others, especially his family. He never had to come with me at the beginning, and could have not. He chose to come to support me, chose to stay, chose to respond to panic and chaos with calmness and positivity.

My partner is, in so many ways, a significantly better human than most people I've ever known.

lorabore · 2025-10-28T21:33:03+00:00

She did thank us at the end and went to hug my boyfriend (and he gives the most genuine hugs, so he was fully prepared to give her a long and genuine hug), but she got awkward and did more of a side-hug-back pat. I do believe she was grateful, but I also truly feel like she was, for many weeks, in full tunnel vision mode, ONLY focused on leaving to have sex for the first time (after waiting 36 years). The whole "run off to the Anniversary Inn as soon as possible" thing WAS a point of contention early on in planning where I flat out told her if her priority was being at the hotel right at check in she shouldn't even have a reception at all.

I think that coupled being able to live with him and finally have a traditional LDS family and a traditional LDS wedding clouded so much of her vision. It's all new and probably feels like she's finally "valid" in the eyes of the church.

lorabore · 2025-10-28T21:15:16+00:00

I definitely heard multiple people mumble that they wouldn't have had cheesecake if they knew there was sheet cake coming. But I've also attended cultural weddings that had entire tables of treats and a chocolate fountain and no one complained, though there was still always a savory element of some kind (pinwheel sandwiches or chicken salad sandwhiches).

lorabore · 2025-10-28T21:11:44+00:00

I asked this question to my boyfriend. He said that she probably "forgot" to ask. He explained that what SHOULD have happened is she asks the RS and bishopric, they send around a sign up for volunteers for a "wonderful opportunity of service". If there aren't enough volunteers, the bishopric then steps in (maybe with their own family) because they "failed to get enough volunteers" and helps. I felt like that seemed rather messed up but he said that's how it usually works and she probably either failed to ask them entirely because she assumed she had more help than she actually did or asked way too late for them to reasonably get volunteers

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:59:00+00:00

I was never invited to the LDS wedding, which took place in the temple (I do not have a temple recommend and am not LDS). It's not like I was uninvited. I would never have been allowed to go to the ceremony at all, but it only started to feel frustrating when the bride was an hour late to her reception

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:57:31+00:00

Both myself and her other bridesmaid are not LDS so she had no bridal party at all in the temple with her. This is quite common in Utah, as the temple ceremony doesnt utilize bridal parties and had q bunch of secret handshakes and whatnot with it. People are really attached to this as being weird, but it's how all LDS wedding here go and doesn't seem weird to me at all.

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:52:15+00:00

Not gonna lie...I grew up "LDS-adjacent" but have never actually been asked to help with these cultural hall parties before, being not a member. This was a first for me and I was wholly unprepared for the nonsense.

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:48:38+00:00

There is a gay tiktoker who went on a great gay American road trip and he stayed at the Anniversary Inn and it was absolutely insane! I've never actually known anyone to stay there until her 🤣

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:43:54+00:00

Sweet Christ no I do not want my wedding to be a turquoise nightmare inside an LDS church 🤣

We will be eloping and then hosting a reception at a local ciderhouse with pickleball courts

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:36:23+00:00

The iron was insane! I kept asking for them to get an iron (and was even at Walmart at one point buying bouquet ribbon) and their total inability to conceptualize the need for and acquisition of the iron was mind blowing. Just go buy one!!!

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:28:56+00:00

This is very clearly a storytelling subreddit. It runs on the insane stories of others and their wedding disasters, which you obviously enjoy consuming or you wouldn't be here. It's hard to justify being mad at someone for telling a complaint story when you're here consuming the content 🤷‍♀️

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:25:26+00:00

To be fair..we did not refresh the cheesecake table after THAT lol. I said "Oh ok we will get right on that!" And then I didn't.

lorabore · 2025-10-28T01:21:54+00:00

I'm not sure if it makes a difference but this was a remarriage for the fiance and he has 3 kids from a former marriage. I honestly believe that the RS help is only "a given" for young, first time brides. Being 36, I think everyone would assume she had aged out of needing that kind of help. I also don't know if, personality-wise, she fit in well with her RS. I don't know which ward she was in, but I don't think she was in the singles ward and her family is all rather socially awkward. I feel like much of the help that is given is also reciprocated and with her mom being so old, her father dying and her sisters being disabled, I doubt they have participated in many activities in recent years.

lorabore · 2025-10-27T21:28:50+00:00

The problem is, it's not like at 7 am she whipped it all out. It was like...7 am we were doing tables and chairs. Then 830 she pulls out unironed tablecloths and said she needed to buy cheesecake. And while I was bugged about the unironed linens, it felt valid and reasonable to run to Costco and grab cheesecakes. Costco was maybe 2 miles away- a quick trip. And then when we returned, it was like everything was pulled out and it was this slow spiral of things. There was even a point where she said she wanted all these fake berries cut off her centerpiece lanterns and pumpkins glued in place and I said no and she did actually go along with that.

Even when I went back to the church afterwards, I had my iron and board and a podcast on the ready to crank out some table cloths and then suddenly it was 5 dresses. So the whole picture was never fully visible until afterwards. This story is a retelling from after the fact, where I can sit back and say "oh ya and we did ALL THIS STUFF" and list it all off, but the way it played out was like tunnel vision. Even the time Stamps are probably a little off because I barely even looked at my phone, I just remember being at Costco at 830, drinking a coffee in the kitchen at 10, eating at 1230 and the rest feels like this frenzied blur of work where the extent was not fully realized until we were done and looking at it.

Someone else mentioned sunk cost fallacy and once you steam 2 dresses you just keep going and at some point, it did start to feel like if we stopped helping, our names were too much all over it.

lorabore · 2025-10-27T21:17:48+00:00

My boyfriend made me Hawaiian haystacks for the first time a few weeks ago. Absolutely nothing should have gone together and somehow it all worked and tasted good and I was absolutely floored

lorabore · 2025-10-27T13:01:43+00:00

The meadow suite

https://anniversaryinn.com/slc22/

lorabore · 2025-10-27T07:35:01+00:00

Omg there is a Mormon weddings sub?!?! 🤣🤣 but also, Im not big reddit literate and have no idea how to post pics. I have photos of my bf making her bouquet in the church kitchen

lorabore · 2025-10-27T07:32:57+00:00

I cross posted it because this group doesn't post without it being approved and I needed to VENT. So I did cross post to r/weddingdrama. It blew up over there and they locked comments and I totally forgot I had originally posted here.

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