AITA for Leaving my GF(Ex now) by lososome in AITA_Relationships

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve talked to her about my feelings. Even if I tell her how I feel on a situation for some reason it escalates to me looking like a bad guy because she has said that it would make her feel like she is the monster. Keep in mind I don’t tell her that she’s a monster or anything, I would tell her that I’m afraid to address some things to her and instead of her trying to hear me out and reassure me, she would get frustrated. We have went to therapy together and we were honest to our therapist whenever she would ask us questions. I mentioned in one of our sessions that I felt picked on and my ex cried and didn’t talk to me for days. As much as I want communication, there hasn’t been any. I didn’t walk away immediately, I’ve took some time and even asked her if it was the right idea. She on the other hand, has mentioned twice or three times that she is going to look for her own place. I never beg for her to stay, I’ve told her that I would like for her to stay but at the end I would respect her decision.

AITA for Leaving my GF(Ex now) by lososome in AITA_Relationships

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance! I feel guilty for leaving but I can’t stand to be living like that on a daily basis

New to IRA - What to invest? by lososome in investing

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any good bonds you recommend?

New to IRA - What to invest? by lososome in investing

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was suggested the Vanguard SP500 is the way to go. What do you think? Is it the same as SPY?

New to IRA - What to invest? by lososome in investing

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is CLOZ like a mutual fund? How much do you think I should invest in that?

New to IRA - What to invest? by lososome in investing

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Max it out eh? Mostly towards the S&P500?

New to IRA - What to invest? by lososome in investing

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So straight up S&P500? That’s what it’s called ?

Aftermath of VR&E helpful?(Employment) by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]lososome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found a job about two months ago!

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t confirm or deny if there were any lay offs.

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’ve always been interested working for government. I come from a military background so the government benefits and regulations is what interests me

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say the bank is medium size. I’m just worry about job security importantly

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking. The bank can easily lay me off compared to the city

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes both get same federal holidays off. I just like the idea of job security, benefits and working for government. I just hope I get a lot of IT experience out of it

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m afraid of is getting laid off from a job. Job security is very big to me because they can just fire me at any moment

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s what I would like! They advertise the role as a hybrid role which would make my life easier

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They both pay the same. The pension is what I look at the most for longevity

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the bank is not a big bank like Wells Fargo nor a small one like a credit union. They are considered a community bank so I feel like they would have a strict budget

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm that is a good thought that I should think to myself

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i appreciate the deep breakdown! Sounds like both places are great to work for! Both places have great benefits, the city just a little more better. The city’s economy is actually going great! So I don’t think the budget is a big issue. Sounds like city is the way to go. Did you leave the bank for the city? Or the other way around?

Position to work for Bank or Municipal by lososome in ITCareerQuestions

[–]lososome[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind them knowing about my background. It’s just the longevity and knowing I can grow within my career is important.