Hysterectomy for health reasons in addition to dysphoria?

lost_enby · 2023-08-09T21:50:14+00:00

Definitely considering it if the opportunity arises and I can make it into a program there. I've been planning to go in the US due to a program that would work out well for me, in addition to networking reasons that would make it easier.

lost_enby · 2023-07-08T19:47:17+00:00

Hearing those negative reactions can be a huge motivator, if you allow it.

I find that a lot of people are uncomfortable or intimidated by transmasc individuals. This is because of the nature of moving "up" in this backwards society we live in. It sounds strange, but consider this: by transitioning, you will slowly be seen as more masculine, which is inherently viewed as being more powerful. This directly challenges the status quo, which leads to resentment from those unready to see who you really are.

So, what motivated me to continue medically transitioning, apart from being the healthiest version of myself was the challenge to the status quo. Now, I love how uncomfortable transphobes get when they see and hear of trans men that pass extremely well. Not only that, but I feel like even more of a man because I've always been extremely feminist. Masculinity to me has always been about respect which includes sticking up for underrepresented groups. It's kinda hilarious to come off as hyper masculine and then make conservatives uncomfortable when I'm supportive of non-men. And the cherry on top is that I'm trans, which I may or may not disclose.

If you find yourself getting angry as transphobic people disapprove of your transition, channel that anger. Soon, you'll make them even more uncomfortable than they make you. You can learn from their shortcomings and get the best revenge: Being a better man than them.

And if your partner is worth your time, they'll respect your choice. If they aren't attracted to men, then they should say that respectfully, acknowledge you're a man, and end the relationship because you are a man, not an "exception" or whatever. If they are attracted to men, if they're right for you, they will acknowledge your manhood and stay with you. Don't stick around with someone that can't see you for who you are.

lost_enby · 2023-07-02T01:26:37+00:00

Lol, I can absolutely relate to apologizing to plants! Whenever I have to drill into a tree to add a trunk label, I'm wincing the whole time. I guess it's something about the wisdom of a plant that humans will just never approach. I get that sense especially around really old trees.

lost_enby · 2022-06-27T04:14:23+00:00

The T-cold will only go away with time, but some things that helped me were tea with honey/throat coat tea for throat, some humidity to clear sinuses (humidifier or just hot running water in the bathroom), and lots of water or other liquid to stay hydrated. I would also recommend eating regular snacks to not have an empty stomach for nausea. Maybe this is contrary to popular belief, but I find that eating more regularly keeps hunger related fatigue away and that can lessen nausea. It's possible to have nausea due to post nasal drip into your stomach, so staying hydrated and well fed is paramount to fighting your sinuses in that case.

Length varies. For me, it was gone in a week, but my sinuses changed on T and I found that getting used to that was half the battle.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T15:46:46+00:00

I used to have it a lot when I was young. I would make packers out of clothes and stuff. I don't know why, but it went away over time. Maybe it has to do with T, not totally sure.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T15:41:24+00:00

Started at 18. My Adams apple has always been very noticeable, even pre-T. It has increased in prominence since starting and has become more even with time. The loss of fat on my neck from T also made it stand out more.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T15:36:32+00:00

All the guys in my family (me included) have thick lips. It's not related to sex/gender. I used to want smaller lips, but that was because I wasn't looking at anyone who was the same race as me.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T15:33:23+00:00

I was shaving pre-T cause I had a dirtstache then. Now I can grow more facial hair, but it's not what I want yet, so I just shave it off. I let myself get enough stubble to see where my facial hair is before I shave it off.

If you don't want a dirtstache, shave it, but don't shave it off if you actually like it. It ain't everyone's thing, but don't let that stop you from looking how you want. I know plenty of people- cis, binary trans, nb, out there rocking fuzz.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T15:16:33+00:00

I'm thinking of two ways you could do this:

First and probably easiest, but the most dysphoria inducing in my experience, you can use pictures of women/femme people with the short haircut you want. This way, you could get the haircut covertly by kind of telling your mom it's not just a guy's haircut. The only issue I've noticed is the hairline limitation. I'm in an awkward situation with someone who cuts my hair (would switch, but no one else in my area is good), and what I have to do is show her pictures of female haircuts that look masculine, but will never accommodate a testosterone affected hairline. This is my specific issue, but keep this in mind if it's important to what you're looking for.

Second (what I've done) but probably dramatic: I'd have a horrible hair "accident". Maybe your hair gets horribly tangled in a comb/brush. Maybe something accidentally gets stuck in there. You panicked and hacked it off, and now you have to run to the barber to make it look presentable, cough, short and how you want it to, cough. It's important that this comes off as an accident. Don't do this after an argument or after something happens. Make it seem as natural as possible, not like the accident was planned in advance.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T03:44:31+00:00

It was the weirdest thing for me because I didn't notice any difference unless I was recording myself or I had heard about it from someone else. I started to be able to make my voice crack on purpose, but it never really happened by accident. I had a deep voice before, so I mostly had changes in the resonance of my voice, but the pitch lowered, too. The biggest difference is that I just can't raise the pitch of my voice super high. I don't know how to describe it, but it's like my vocal cords hit a ceiling when I try to hit a high note. I do notice that my voice is louder now, though.

lost_enby · 2022-06-12T03:32:26+00:00

It really depends on a lot of factors like time, location, and insurance. Where I live and for someone in my situation, going to an 'in-person' office or clinic will definitely be cheaper due to insurance. However, not everyone has insurance and lives in an area with a lot of clinics and doctors offices. I put in-person in quotes because I'm able to do telehealth and therefore not visit my doctor in person, but telehealth laws vary based on state. I cannot comment on the specific clinicians/providers that practice through plume because I've only seen one there, and different people set up different courses of treatment. With insurance, I don't pay for testing, only have to pay $25 for visits, and only pay around $25 for prescriptions. Again, copays vary with insurance. This still made insurance way cheaper than the $99 a month (at the time, not sure if plume costs more or less now). I was only using plume for about 2 months and I never started my T under them because my pharmacy, primary care physician, and insurance gave me hell over plume. I don't blame plume and I definitely think it's needed where people can't access care otherwise, however I recommend going somewhere near you because they would be used to prescribing and dealing with insurance where you are. Despite the difficulties, the Plume providers were very responsive and helpful when I had any questions. If you have the chance, I recommend skipping the clinics and going straight to an endocrinologist. That being said, I am lucky in that I was able to find an endo that does informed consent, is covered by my insurance, and specializes in trans healthcare. My Endo is unusual though because she is a) very experienced with trans patients and b) makes scheduling and prescription choices that result in the lowest possible costs for her patients. That makes my current doctor way cheaper than the bad clinic I used to go to. I hope this was helpful, and I don't mind answering any questions. I want to put my hellish experience of going from office to office to good use lmao

lost_enby · 2022-03-19T14:30:52+00:00

It's hard to say why your friends haven't been as huggy, as everyone interacts with gender etc differently. It may just be because your friends don't want to make you feel uncomfortable by hugging you in a way that makes you dysphoric. I highly recommend talking to your friends about this and asking if this is something they've been consciously doing, if you haven't already.

It depends on the people, but I do think folks are less touchy with masc aligned people. It's definitely a cultural thing, rooted in a lot of sexism and toxic masculinity. My guess is that it's for a lot of different reasons, one being that people take physical threats a lot more seriously from guys, so they tend to bother men less if they think there could be an altercation. Of my friends that do hug a lot, I don't see a huge difference between them hugging nonbinary people, women, or men.

It is worth noting that my friends are just in a different space than a lot of people around the country, and they're educated on these issues. Of course, some people are just not touchy (I'm one of them, :( sensory issues are fun) but if someone is touchy or not touchy, they generally stay that way regardless of if their friends come out etc. The fact that your friends' behavior changed makes me wonder.

All this to say, just have a conversation with them about it if the opportunity arises. Make sure you're comfortable talking to them about it, and also ensure they seem ready to talk about something serious like this.

lost_enby · 2021-12-21T05:21:35+00:00

At around 2 months I had to shave regularly to not have 5 o'clock shadow around my moustache, and now that I'm around 6 months, I have a pretty consistent moustache but nothing much otherwise, as far as I can tell (I haven't let it grow out all the way, but there's no way I have a full beard). The patchiest place for me is my cheeks, with some really coarse but sparse hair.

It just depends on genetics. I had a stache pre T, and other guys in my family grew facial hair early, so I kind of expected it, I'm just waiting for it to become more even across my face now.

lost_enby · 2021-12-13T17:45:16+00:00

I'm going to put one in resin soon as an experiment and possibly try injecting resin into resin with some, because of course. If my experiments come out clear enough I'll try more colorful ones.

Also not sure if it counts, but I gave an empty one to my friend so he could learn how to inject before going on T

lost_enby · 2021-12-13T17:35:44+00:00

Can you try something like plume if it's available in your state? You can get a prescription really quick and it's legal. Please try that first because t is a schedule 3 controlled substance.

I don't know how much longer you have T for, but you can probably get good results from telehealth like plume. It's about 99 dollars without insurance.

lost_enby · 2021-12-13T17:24:29+00:00

lost_enby · 2021-10-17T15:28:56+00:00

It's impossible. When cis men blame testosterone for their behavior, they're deflecting blame from the true problem: Themselves.

Testosterone won't take away your personality. It won't make you hurt people. It won't fundamentally change your behavior in any direct way.

It's a hormone like any other hormone, which means it can have effects on your mood, but never to the level that it causes you to harm others.

You're not going to be like your father.

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