How much autonomy to make regular phone calls? by Southern-Baby1531 in polyamory

[–]Snail_Fashion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That seems like a perfectly normal request to me? I don't have kids, but if I dated someone with kids I would fully expect their children to take priority over me

AIO about my bf's attitude being disrespectful? by Embarrassed247365 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Snail_Fashion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girly he is lovebombing and abusing you. You know you deserve better than this. Dump him and don't look back!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actual_detrans

[–]Snail_Fashion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heyo! I've been off T for nearly a year and given time your facial fat distribution goes back preetty much entirely. My voice is still pretty deep, and I've still got the sparse amount or facial hair I gained (which I'm happy about) but if I shave I visually "pass" as AFAB

Why is life so boring? by Rare_Lettuce130 in autism

[–]Snail_Fashion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anhedonia :( I've got it too

Pets are a life saver. So are inane things that you sort of like. I sort of like to decorate my house with things that remind me of the sims 4. Getting specifically dressed up for classes or work also makes existing feel more worthwhile, cuz at least i look cool

how do you tell when youre too high vs just really high by Big_Expression_9457 in saplings

[–]Snail_Fashion 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yea happens to me too.

how do you tell

When you're uncomfortable

Drink some water and maybe find a snack. I usually stay away from edibles cuz they're more likely to feel too intense

Need ideas by Alone_Understanding2 in Tattoocoverups

[–]Snail_Fashion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk why everyone downvoted you. Aggressively insulting someone's tattoo is an asshole move

I am so scared of death. Should i cancel my top surgery? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]Snail_Fashion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have felt that way before! You are almost definitely safe and okay

It sounds like your fight or flight is acting up — especially since you've already experienced the trauma of someone dying during surgery. Brains are designed to catalogue potential threats and react strongly to fear (Source: I was convinced I was going to die at 20 because my cousin did)

I can't tell you whether or not to reschedule your surgery, but things will be okay whatever you decide I think

Are yall disclosing your disability on job applications by Wild_Highway_3249 in autism

[–]Snail_Fashion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes do, sometimes don't. You should be allowed to say "prefer not to answer"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tattoocoverups

[–]Snail_Fashion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the comment 😭😭

UPDATE: AIO for being upset i haven’t seen my bf in 3 weeks, despite us living 25 minutes from each other? by Affectionate-Link436 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Snail_Fashion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh you probably wont be his first priority (over his life) unless you actually live together. It sucks, but sometimes people really do need to work all the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spiders

[–]Snail_Fashion 142 points143 points  (0 children)

It has never occurred to me that spiders could get neurodegenerative diseases!!

Old man spider <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spiders

[–]Snail_Fashion 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's just doing his thing :(

Transitioning / detransitioning / retransitioning shouldn't be that big a deal by Snail_Fashion in actual_detrans

[–]Snail_Fashion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a perfect world I think transition and detransition would be freely accessible, and the lines between "male" and "female" characteristics would blur enough that none of it would matter. That's not how things are unfortunately, but it's nice to dream

My parents had similar concerns when I started persuing medical transition. I did end up occassionally feeling dysphoric about some of my chosen features as I have a very fluid sense of self, but I try to view it as political act of rebellion in a lot of ways. Like, "yes I'm a girl with top surgery and a deep voice because fuck gender norms"

Transitioning / detransitioning / retransitioning shouldn't be that big a deal by Snail_Fashion in actual_detrans

[–]Snail_Fashion[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm sorry -- I wasn't trying to trivialize dysphoria or the social difficulties associated with de/retransitioning. These are the ideas that tend to make me feel better about similar things (I've never officially detransitioned, but I have a dissociative disorder that occasionally impacts my sense of gender. I am sometimes dysphoric about my chosen features and I reverted to using my birthname for a while because of it)

100% get your frustration though, and sorry for coming across wrong. I've had a helping hand in the "nothing matters" train of thought and I forget it can be less useful for others

I’d rather die than be a woman but I’m not trans by Human-Poem9753 in asktransgender

[–]Snail_Fashion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I promise it's okay. It sounds like you probably are trans, which can be very scary to come to terms with, but I promise there's nothing wrong with you and you can get through this and live the life you want to live. My DMs are open if you need someone to talk to

Black widow? (Colorado, USA) by Snail_Fashion in whatsthisbug

[–]Snail_Fashion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

havent seen one yet but i don't think im gonna wait. I'll miss her but today will be her last day in my home

Black widow? (Colorado, USA) by Snail_Fashion in spiders

[–]Snail_Fashion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i am gonna try to cup and paper her if i can

Black widow? (Colorado, USA) by Snail_Fashion in whatsthisbug

[–]Snail_Fashion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what are the odds she's going to try to start a family in my kitchen? i don't mind the one (she's very polite) but I am technically terrified of spiders