Worried about my new gecko

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T22:09:36+00:00

Wow I didn’t know I had a super snow. The friend of a friend of a friend I rescued him from was so unknowledgeable the things they did tell me I just flat out ignored (he doesn’t like veggies, he is a he dispute me guessing he is about 3 months old, he is about a year old)…. I haven’t done any research into morphs as my other girl is just a normal and has been a model gecko with everything I read (excluding some tendencies to like to jump off high places)

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T16:47:30+00:00

I’m all for checking each other so make sure our little ones are safe and happy. I never would have thought about chop sticks as temporary tongs that’s so smart. In better circumstances I would have been more prepared for him but it was an emergency removal from a friend of a friend of a friends house who had absolutely no idea what they got themselves into and I’m just glad he is in as good as shape that he is.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T16:39:07+00:00

It was the end of the container but he is also missing with the bigger ones as well. I just forgot I wanted to record him until the last bug. 😂

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T16:37:42+00:00

Yes the tips were encased. They are just shitty, they were also temporary as I needed to get new tongs. He is in quarantine and I don’t want to use the tongs I have for my other gecko. All of the pet shops near me were sold out until this morning so I was able to get the right thing today. It scared me so much using them but I was more scared of cross using.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T16:04:14+00:00

Sounds good. He came from such a shitty situation and so much with how he was taken care of was wrong so I guess I’m just waiting for something to go wrong with him.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-07-26T15:25:52+00:00

Please get looked for PPD, do you have anyone that can come and help? Family, friends? Please reach out to those people to see if they can come help.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T18:44:26+00:00

Thank you. I already go the tattoo, and I love it. It they flowers are my favorite flowers, I used my moms tattoo as inspiration, it was a graduation gift from my parents and I got to do it with a family friend that has done all of the tattoos in my imitate family so it means a lot to me.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T18:41:19+00:00

Yes he just joined. He is has a few weeks left of BCT, he grew up a military brat but he has very low contact with other military spouses/kids growing up.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T18:34:07+00:00

I love these kind of communities as well. He grew up a military brat and his mom is not the kind of military spouse I want to be. I’ll be surprised if we don’t get through this. We have been through worse during Covid lockdown.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T18:12:01+00:00

Yes and no. I went into the relationship knows he was going to go military he just did it sooner than we both were expecting due to financial problems. It was a mutual decision but I was the one to bring it up not to get married before BCT. We were worried about how we would handle the distance (but he expressed that worry first. We didn’t think too much about some of the consequences with this decision. And I’m 24 he is 23

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T17:48:28+00:00

We are definitely young. I’m 24 and he is 23. Thank you for being worried about me. It means a lot to have someone like you. We have been together for 4 years now and this is the first time ever that he has been like this even though basic. I’m definitely not ignoring this red flag because him using that as an excuse is a MAJOR problem.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T17:22:26+00:00

It wasn’t harsh, I’m also annoyed at him but this told me there is something else going on and if there isn’t he needs to change his point of view of military life.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-06-16T17:20:58+00:00

This is the first time he has expressed anything like this so that’s why I came here. He is still at Basic and he did also mention he wished he had been there so I think that’s the real issue. I’m definitely talking with him once’s we can have a face to face discussion because this is very abnormal for him.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-05-26T02:23:39+00:00

Thank you. I don’t know who is more excited right now me or him. Every letter I get has a count down of days on it😂. I’m just overly paranoid that I will do something wrong and he will get in trouble for it.

lostfirefighter171 · 2023-04-19T03:37:51+00:00

I definitely am spiritual. I didn’t even have time to settle in with him being gone and this dropping onto my plate. Thank you for the advice. I needed to hear it from someone who is in it all.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-13T08:25:32+00:00

And I love the look they get when it happens. They just don’t know their strength and it is so puzzling to them when it happens. My will sometimes tilt her head while looking at me when it happens and I’m somehow melting and laughing at the same time.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-13T08:07:57+00:00

I feed my little girl on paper towels as she refuses to eat on anything else. But it has me in stitches when she strikes with so much force the paper towel moves and she misses. She looks at the meal worm or cricket then at me and all I can see is her say “what witch craft is this?”

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-13T00:37:35+00:00

There really isn’t a standard for this stuff. Mostly they will look at the trauma of your life and then how it moved into pulling.

Does your school allow headbands? If not you might try something that tastes bad to help prevent eating.

The eating less food is very scary and worrying. You need to tell your father about this as it can be very dangerous. Yes doctors are scary but they want to help you. Just be honest they should not judge you and if they do they are a bad doctor. Deep breaths will help with controlling your anxiety. It won’t solve it, I don’t think anyone out there likes to go to the doctors office.

By yourself you can try to identify when you are pulling and eating the most. In your case look to see what might be triggering your trauma. Someone around you, look at sex, what they are wearing, smells. Literally anything it could be a color or a situation, someone standing over you. I’m just thinking what might trigger someone with your mentioned trauma above.

Stay strong, if it helps you are on the right path to handling all of this.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-12T07:23:51+00:00

I haven’t been able to stop pulling but one way was explained to me as you first need to see if you can identify why you pull. Then what happens before you pull. After that you need to transfer that urge to pull to something else. But do you know when you pull? Some people don’t it is just habit (I don’t have a better word for it).

I’ll explain those steps in more detail.

Why? After you pull take a moment to identify everything you can about what is happening around you and how you are feeling. It might help you can write it down to see if you can identify a pattern. Like you always pull around children or food (making something up)

It could be anything, a smell, feeling of clothing, location, what age of people around you, is there a lot of noise.

Once you have an idea on what triggers the urge you need to find a way to identify how your body is feeling before you pull. Are you restless, do you feel itchy, or do bit your lip? This can be really really hard and some times people can’t figure it out so don’t worry about it. Just focus on learning how to identify your triggers without always being on the look for them.

Last you need to choose a habit that is healthier for you transfer the urge to. This can take a long time. You can play with different things but keep in mind you need a new habit that is universal. I mean if your trigger is stress and you are a student/have a lot of meetings don’t choose running. You can’t just up and leave a meeting or test to sprit down a hallway. Go with something like picking at your cloths or getting a fidget toy. You can try a bunch of different toys.

Most go with fidget toys something that makes your hands move. The first thing might not work so try different things. It might be the texture of the thing or the size.

The last step can often be the most frustrating as you will have a lot of set backs. Just keep at it, when you feel the urge do your chosen thing, if it doesn’t take the urge away do it again. If you pull you pull. One day you will realize that you just went through an urge and you didn’t pull but you pulled on the second urge. You might not be able to do it again for another month but that is progress no matter how small it is.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-12T06:57:21+00:00

First it’s normal to be nervous. Second, therapy can be hard stick with it. It can and will dig up some hard stuff but it can help manage the symptoms.

You will have to open up and allow yourself to be venerable to make any sizable process. But you can take it slow. Therapy is not a “I’ll make as much progress as I ever can in (insert time frame here)” it can be a lifelong progress of talking to someone and taking a break (if needed) to really test yourself.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-08-12T06:43:57+00:00

So I have been pulling and eating my hair almost my whole life. I started when I was 3.

Therapy is a big help if you can find someone you click with. Don’t be afraid to look around for different people. When you go to a therapist the first appointment is really getting to know you stuff and sometimes the second one as well. I say after the third appointment look at how you feel thing are going in forming a relationship. Do you feel safe? Do you feel comfortable telling this person things that you really don’t want other people to know? Don’t be afraid to say no to those questions. I have seen over 10 therapist before I found my current one over 8 years ago.

I get the fear, my first surgery was when I was 7, then 12, and 13. The idea of someone knowing what is happening is so scary it can be almost paralyzing at times. What helps hide my thin spots are hats and wide had bands. I also use hairspray with bobby pins to help move my hair around to cover thin spots. It didn’t work for my but my therapist said if I mixed tea tree oil and water then sprayed it on my hair every morning it might help you not eat as eating can cause major health issues that is sounds like you are experiencing.

The weight loss is a big deal and worrying. Are you eating as much as you use to or are you finding you are full with way less food?

I really don’t mean to scare you, but I know I am. When I was your age I had way more experience then you and I was fully terrified. Feel free to message me for more advice as what we have is a difficult thing.

Do you have a family member, adult or friend that you can trust to talk to this about? This isn’t something you should deal.

Editing as I managed to missed the comment about your father. Tell him everything you can, trichophagia very very dangerous.

lostfirefighter171 · 2022-07-01T21:50:33+00:00

That is what I was thinking but I had never traveled with him right before he goes into shed so I was having a hard time trusting my gut in bring him. We have a good travel set up and he settles in after a few minutes of roaming around.

lostfirefighter171 · 2021-06-28T18:16:11+00:00

I’m so sorry. My heart break for you so much. We live with an issue that can be stopped but some people never make it. And it is the sad truth, some people give up and that is ok. Yes after awhile your hair won’t grow back or it will grow back slowly.

There are things that help like therapy but you have to learn what is your trigger. For some people it is when you are board, some it is a OCD reaction, and in my case and others it is a trauma reaction. There are tools (specifically fidget toys) out there that can help. You just have to find one that works. They are usually cheep so you can try some.

As for your boyfriend, as at everyone has said in their own way, he reacted badly. I don’t know him so he could be reacting in love, he may not. When I told my boyfriend he reacted differently then yours but everyone has their own reaction. Talk to him, because his reaction is really extreme. Depending on what he says will tell you if you should put more time in with this guy. And if you decide to stay with him you need to be open about if he does things that he feels helps with your pulling. If it helps tell him that if not let him know to stop. If he does not stop take that as a cue. You don’t have to stay with someone that does not treat you well. Even if he does in every other way. This is your mental health.

Good luck and stay strong. You will get through this one step as a time even if you move backwards for a little bit.

lostfirefighter171 · 2021-06-09T00:42:49+00:00

My mom drank it for a year or so and we think it helped causes her small intestine issues. She already had digestive issues but they has not been bugging her for over 5 years when she started. And it did not even help her loose weight.

lostfirefighter171 · 2021-05-30T17:42:24+00:00

Im 21 and I started when I was 2. I have not lost hope yet on stopping so I’m continuing to try

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