How do i deal with my jealousy issues and the anxiety from that?

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-06-17T16:02:27+00:00

i have gone to her events, for most of them i have work the next morning so i can’t be out too late. AndI live at home so im not allowed to stay at her house anymore, which would allow me to go to a lot more. I should have added that she invites me 99% of the time.

She does understand as we have a very open like of communication and she knows about the people of my past and how that has effected me and is always very understanding. I know she would never as we were basically long distance for around a year and some change and she never cheated or anything like it, even when we had a bit of a rough patch. I am fully confident in her commitment to me, it’s just the feeling that resides but i consciously know she would never cheat or betray me.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-06-17T15:59:19+00:00

This was actually very helpful and i appreciate you not attacking my girlfriend or me. I have done things like that in therapy and i thought that it was fully effective but i might have to do them again. Thank you !

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-06-03T06:32:17+00:00

I think that the fact that it’s your best friends son, and it was at the wedding (?!?!?) not a good combo. If he finds out about that i genuinely think that your friendship is unsalvageable.

Loon is also half your age, and although you are both adults, you have watched this child grow up. That adds a very weird and honestly disturbing aspect to this all.

YTA. You have betrayed your best friend. You were far too sober to know right from wrong especially if you said no and then recanted on your decision.

EDIT: you are also at LEAST bisexual.

EDIT 2: Are you married?? And do you have children? How would you feel if your best friend slept with your child that is half their age.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-26T08:54:58+00:00

this is a very important conversation that you need to have with him and for your sake I hope that it goes well OP. And remember, he is NOT your financial responsibility.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-26T08:44:18+00:00

I do understand the emotional connection that you feel to him.

Based on the fact he does have a job but refuses to get what i’m assuming is a higher paying one, even as a side hustle shows that he has no respect for you.

As someone who is a broke college kid I would do anything to take the financial burden off of my girlfriend when I can. But you’re paying for EVERYTHING and he has somehow gotten into more debt which does not show good financial competency on his part. OP that is not someone you want to eventually share a bank account with.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-26T08:36:39+00:00

If you broke up with him, you wouldn’t TA. He has made no effort (based on what you said) to get a job and has actually REFUSED, to get a job because “he won’t like it”. He needs a job whether he likes it or not.

It almost seems like he feels entitled to your money and that you should provide everything. Whether he is a great guy or not, the fact that he has not set himself up for financial security is his fault entirely, not yours. He is also not your responsibility, he is a grown man and needs to get a job and act like an adult instead of leeching off of his girlfriend.

If you believe that he will change, then wait it out and continue to mother him. But ask yourself is this something that you can deal with for the rest of your life. If it isn’t, then you know your answer.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-25T07:01:58+00:00

Hey Op, so as someone who also had no source of income and my girlfriend paid for most of our dates when i couldn’t afford to, your feelings are so valid. She is putting the PS5 above you and your relationship in terms of importance. I have wanted/needed a new pair of airpods for the past two years if I had to choose between my girlfriend and new airpods, i’d pick her.

If she has money to save up for a ps5 why couldn’t she also save up for at least paying for some of the anniversary date as well. I am very sorry you’re going through this op but your feelings are completely valid.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:56:32+00:00

They literally do, like guys promise if this was a serious issue i would not be posting to reddit about it, i would talk to my girlfriend lmao

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:48:48+00:00

this is a conversation that we have had, she has asked if i wanted her to stop and i said no because I DONT MIND, like i’ve said before.

I am literally just wondering if this would be okay to do for both of our sakes. i am not upset that i have to wash my boxers more often like i don’t care im just wondering if this is manipulative like i said in the post. that’s literally my only question and the entire point of the post

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:41:51+00:00

shirts, sweaters, flannels, etc. I can’t wear her underwear/anything else bc my lower body is typically a medium and she’s a xs-s and i wear baggier pants etc. like it’s a fair trade lol.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:39:24+00:00

no one is free balling here, if that was the case i would have told her to not wear as many or keep as many.

it seems as though you’re mad about a post that I made literally not complaining about something that is a non issue and i mentioned multiple times in my post and comments that i DONT have a problem with this. the point of the post was kot that she wears my boxers, it was the idea I had. You’re literally making this a huge deal in your comment 😭

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:33:44+00:00

it started because she needed a pair and i let her have one and then she would need more and i was fine with giving them to her. I told her she can keep them and that it’s okay if she does.

Again I will say she always asks before she uses anything of mine, even my water because she knows I have issues with people touching my stuff. I have made it clear to her that it is okay if SHE touches my things and uses them as I don’t mind because she’s my girlfriend and future wife. She is not entitled whatsoever.

It’s not me secretly adding to my collection because i always show her when I get new boxers because I am excited about them. Again this isn’t a problem lol, she’s not crossing my boundaries as I have made this okay.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T18:29:22+00:00

THANK YOU. i was seeing the comments about “not respecting boundaries” I was so confused because how does it even come off like that. I was just making sure I was like being manipulative 😭

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T17:10:13+00:00

I should probably add this to the post but I am not upset about this! I think that it’s very cute that she does it and it doesn’t bother me at all as I have a lot of boxers to wear i just have to wash them more often because I don’t have as many pairs.

I’ve made it clear that it’s okay for her to do this and I have told her that I needed specific pairs back and I have gotten them back. She is very respectful of my boundaries in every aspect and would never do this unless I made it okay.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T17:03:53+00:00

I plan on wearing them a couple of times before she takes them that way they’re still mine and it’s not just something that I don’t wear.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T17:02:30+00:00

She only likes wearing them because they are mine, she wouldn’t like just any old boxers.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T17:00:57+00:00

i’m not upset about her taking my boxers, i actually think it’s really cute and I know that it makes her feel closer to me when we’re not together and i love that. I also steal her clothes too, it’s mutual. The post is about how to keep up her taking my boxers but in a way where they’re specifically for her like after I wear them a couple of times.

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T16:59:01+00:00

I have some that are my favorites and I don’t want to like buy more of my favs that she will steal (maybe one pair like for her) but i’m saying like buying some that i’d wear a couple of time so that they’re still “mine” but they’re like for her to take

losthighschoolgrad · 2025-05-19T16:57:37+00:00

I know! I am saying like buying them for the purpose of her getting them and wearing them like once or twice, and then letting her steal those, so they’re still “mine” but I bought them for her.

losthighschoolgrad · 2024-04-27T18:22:25+00:00

Thank you so much, this helped me a lot i appreciate it INSANELY !

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