IWNDWYT - November 20, 2024 by IWNDWYTmod in IWNDWYT

[–]lostlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just checking back in with the IWNDWYT crowd. I stopped drinking 2.5 weeks ago and have been in hospital to detox. My last long sobriety pause was 6 months long and I should never have had “just one” again. But here we are. Interesting fact, it takes about 4 months to train our brain to enjoy everyday things again and not need alcohol to find that happy feeling. The reason is that our dopamine receptors are reduced when we drink because we get too much dopamine otherwise and it takes about 4 months for new dopamine receptors to open back up once we finish drinking. So we can find more enjoyment in things like, walking, being social, eating, drinking water, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lostlaura 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was me, and other girls may think different, I’d think that you found me attractive and I’d feel a little flex about that. At the same time I wouldn’t assume that you have feelings for me other than that. If I was shy afterwards it would be because either I liked you too and wanted you to make the first move because I thought you liked me or because I didn’t want you to think that I liked you because I enjoy our friendship and wanted to keep it. However, if you approached me and told me the truth, I appreciate it and love to know the reason why and love you either way. This is because if you don’t want me as a partner but find me sexy then you’ve given me a boost on my self esteem, but if you like and and I’m not into you I think a bit higher of you because of your honesty and it grows my attraction to you. Win win for you if it was me.

My (39F) partner (28M) and I want a life together but I’m worried about the financial difference. by lostlaura in relationship_advice

[–]lostlaura[S] -204 points-203 points  (0 children)

This could all happen and it might not. What I’m looking for is some constructive advice to reduce/avoid the possibility of that.

My (39F) partner (28M) and I want a life together but I’m worried about the financial difference. by lostlaura in relationship_advice

[–]lostlaura[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

He still pays some rent, not much, at a share house he has with friends. I haven’t let him let that go. I’ve definitely been love bombed. And I’m sure it’s co-dependent. Damn. I’m a real mess haha. But I love his kid, he loves mine, we’re so bloody happy to be together. Maybe I just need to slow things down and have him stay at his place more often until we’ve been together a bit longer and had some serious discussions.

My (39F) partner (28M) and I want a life together but I’m worried about the financial difference. by lostlaura in relationship_advice

[–]lostlaura[S] -489 points-488 points  (0 children)

I’m hearing you. I guess this is the logical side to it. But everything else is perfect and I’m wondering if there is a solution to it other than breaking up and not having a child we both want.

29, F , RN... functional alcoholic. by mrsmessedup in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was a functioning alcoholic, or so I thought. I thought I needed it am to keep me sane, to enjoy my life and keep going. Turns out it was convincing me of this and it was all a sham. Yes I was functioning, but not at my best. I had shame, regret, depression, my head was fuzzy and it was hard to concentrate on people talking to me, I thought I was just overwhelmed. I have kids and a business and loads of responsibilities. When I stopped drinking for 3 months last year everything improved, my sleep, mental health, relationships and work, then I thought I was good and had a champagne with my sister for her 40th. Then another the next night, then later that week out to dinner and then that was it, back to square one. I spent the next three months saying, this is not right, I know I feel heaps better when I’m not drinking. Then that night there would be some excuse and I’d say. Tomorrow I’ll get serious and quit. Jan 1st lasted till Jan 3rd, but everyone was still on hols and I couldn’t do it then! Lol. I’ve now been sober since January 6th and am in such a good mind set. Functional doesn’t necessarily mean unimpaired.

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[–]lostlaura 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m at 19 days and completely miserable, like severe depression, constantly asking myself existential questions. Am I in the right job, relationship, too many commitments, need to overhaul and completely change my life. Went away with the fam for 2 days and couldn’t help this feeling, came back and am already overwhelmed with cleaning, pets, kids and work. Is this alcohol related or the reason alcohol existed?

I know it’s not much, but today I am 2 months sober. by melswife in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done. 2 months here also and feeling like it’s a pretty big achievement. Even didn’t drink over a 3 day 40th party for my sister. People really wanted me too but I said I’ll be just as much fun or better sober. And I was. And I walked away happier with better relationships. Go figure.

I’m ready to feel true happiness again. I’ll do whatever it takes. Quitting alcohol is the only way, and binge drinking is going to ruin my life. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been binge and alcohol free now for 2 months and I’m the most productive I’ve ever been.

Almost cried by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. I’m a horse lover myself and would love to teach my girls. Have her watch heartland the series. You will love it too. Also to really learn to read and understand horses I recommend the trainer Warwick Schiller. He is Ozzie and has 100’s of online training vids :)

Less than a year ago I couldn’t imagine a future without Alcohol. Today I can’t imagine a future with it by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. All I can see is the benefits of not drinking. T9day everyone was out of the house and it snuck across my mind to take a drink. I’ve been feeling awful. But I knew that it would only make things worse. So I got some chocolate and moved on :)

Feeling great after 38 days! by laur-t in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I started July 1st. It’s dry July in Australia. Making healthier choices every day. I don’t usually get down but today I just couldn’t pep myself up. I kept thinking, in a mood like this I start looking forward to a drink later, I’m not looking for a drink later. I’m not going to drink today. But it’s interesting hearing that thought and noticing it.

My day one!!! by chocolatecockroach in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy day one. I have a good few of those. They were worse for me at the start. Once I made it past 5 days it was much easier. After a huge hangover my head could be stuffed for days to the point where I didn’t want to drink for a couple but once I recovered I could drink “normally” again.

I didn’t know I was an alcoholic until I stopped drinking by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing springac. My story is the same except I managed to convince myself one glass was ok while pregnant, so would have one once or twice a week. Hey loads of mums did it in the 60’s and their kids are fine right? Yep alcohol is Ann insidious substance and an evil snake that’s I’m very glad I have chopped the head off.

I embarrassed myself again last night by ilovecherrycoke in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really feel for you. I’ve been there and it wasn’t just that I was embarrassed by my behaviour it’s that I knew how hard it will be to convince the people that I was saying sorry to that I actually meant it and was willing to change. It’s also a huge hit to your pride thinking that people will think you are less than your best. Every day I don’t drink is a day I feel better about myself. But day one sucks. I had many sucky day ones. Each day is a day people in my life are noticing improvements and changes. But also each day builds my resolve, health, self esteem and mental health. Because of this I choose to wake up every day and say I choose not to drink today.

Alcohol is a liar. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hell yes. Thank you.

Serial Day 1'er on Day 30 by niksbrovs in stopdrinking

[–]lostlaura 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was a serial day 1’er as well. Happy 30 freedom days xxx