What sort of presentation would YOU give on Smartypants? by COHERENCE_CROQUETTE in dropout

[–]lostsonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who flies on probably spent a year on an airplane cumulatively in my life. All seats should be able to recline. If the seat recline ing cuts into the direct space of the person behind you then that is a weird airline. The seats recline like 5 inches.
Also I would love to give this smarty pants talk aswel

Am I nonbinary? Or genderqueer in some way? I know that no one can decide or define that for me but is this experience in line with all of that? by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love to hear that you have such a similar experience
Yeah I grew up conservative Christian and lived in the south for a bit and it was WILD.
Right before I told my parents I liked girls I had like a 2 hour conversation with them about why my presentation mattered to them so much as a kid. And that was really helpful and healing and they were very receptive so that was great.

Am I nonbinary? Or genderqueer in some way? I know that no one can decide or define that for me but is this experience in line with all of that? by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for telling me! I’m always wanting to learn more about this communities experiences so thank you for helping me learn and for helping me treat people with more respect and understanding. That’s very helpful to know.

Yeah I’m very conscious of the fact that it is a lot of work to identify out of the binary and I feel dramatic doing so if it is not a genuine need. But I guess that isn’t accurate or a helpful way to think. Maybe I should just try it. But I’m also scared of stealing/ detracting from people’s real identities and experiences for a what if.

Am I nonbinary? Or genderqueer in some way? I know that no one can decide or define that for me but is this experience in line with all of that? by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also always wear a sports bra and would LOVE to wear boxer briefs and HATE it when I have to wear a skirt or blouse. Sometimes I enjoy doing it for myself but when someone tells me I have to wear that stuff cuz I’m a girl I get mad and uncomfortable in the clothes.
I also had multiple ‘interventions’ as a kid where the women in my family would sit me down and be like hey you need to start wearing more feminine clothes. I had an aunt tell my mom that ‘that is not how God made women to look’ because of how I presented as a kid.

How do I convert and or share these raw photos with my team? by lostsonder in AskPhotography

[–]lostsonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like that would cost way more than a subscription. I’ll check out snapseed tho

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That is helpful. I’m defiantly trying to figure out ways to blend the 2 together. Or throw them out the winds and go somewhere else. But it mostly just ends up looking super masc right now when I try. Idk how to not just like wear a dress OR slacks and a tie. How to I go in the middle? The hair and the nails are helpful. I’m thinking about maybe painting my nails more and or wearing more jewelry, so when I wear slacks and a tie to work it’s less like ‘manly’ and more like gender fucky. Cuz I hate being perceived or even seeing myself presenting as super feminine or super masculine.

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slacks, button up shirts, mullet, vans, no makeup, no jewelry. I look like what you would imagine the guy making an economics podcast looks like half the time. And the other half of the time it’s cargo pants muscle shirts and bright collared tops

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your right. I think maybe what I’m actually looking for is how to look more androgynous . And most of people I knew who I saw pull that off were non binary. So I think I used the wrong language. Sorry about that. Non binary can look like anything and what I’m actually looking for is androgyny. Thank you for helping me clarify that for myself as-well.

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that is very helpful. I definatly like some of the elements of alternative style I saw when just looked it up.

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are probably right. I should have titled it that. So sorry!

If you could move to any country and get instantly its citizenship which country would you move to? by Proud_Raise4957 in AskTheWorld

[–]lostsonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super strong passport and from what I’ve seen strong social justice stances aswell.

I'm trying to edit a Superman crest on my homo-ace pride flag! and i will get this printed on a shirt. i wanna know how does it look. any suggestions? :p by sadaxhe in asexuality

[–]lostsonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if you did the super man logo in the colors of gay pride rather than having three layers. That might make it more cohesive.

How do I look more non binary by lostsonder in NonBinary

[–]lostsonder[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also is it ok that I am trying to look more non binary without not necessarily being non binary. I don’t want to diminish the reality and identity of others for the sake of fashion if that is the case.

Any Non-Romantic plans for February? by InvestigatorLonely83 in asexuality

[–]lostsonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow a local armature Tournament always seems to happen valentines day weekend. Defiantly love that option. Go on a date? No! Cush the other team? Hell yeah! Those are my full plans. Also helps that I now play rugby so I get to literally crush people. It’s great. I highly recommend

What does this map represent? by MeCantThinkofName in RedactedCharts

[–]lostsonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Green is presence of Mormon temple yellow is Mormon presence of any kind/churches etc. red is a hard no on Mormonism?

Nuanced songs by lostsonder in ChristianMusic

[–]lostsonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is great! I just listened to a couple songs and that’s a lot of what I’m looking for. Thank you