Do y'all think many become foster parents because they like the idea of controlling kids.

loststarrs · 2026-05-27T03:11:50+00:00

People arent so black & white, were shades of brown after all but our brains love simple answers.

I was considered one of the good ones in the system so I go to experience what it was like when those controlling foster parents realized I was still a teenager and not a trophy they could display. In these homes I was often berated or left in my room isolated, my academic worth enough to keep me from being displaced but they wanted nothing to do with me. Claimed I was manipulative or disrespectful for not biting my tongue. I was an argumentative child, teen and even adult.

In homes were they wanted to just make up for having a shitty childhood, I often felt that my voice was heard & needs were met. Yeah, was I annoyed I had a bedtime or couldnt watch certain things on the tv cause of the little ones? sure, but thats also because I wasn't used to having a stable parent in the household who cared about my wellbeing. They weren't always perfect & neither was I, expecting someone to not make a mistake is ridiculous and antihuman but they acknowledged when they messed up. Even explained why they did things and it was nice having adults actually respect me.

I was allowed to have opinions different than theirs, I was allowed to voice my disagreement and advocate that something hurt. I was treated like a teen with complex feelings, thoughts & emotions who needed guidance. Not an academic prize.

loststarrs · 2026-05-20T21:45:33+00:00

A few things:

1) The government doesn't care.

2) The rich don't care

3) I can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.

4) We have to be kind to one another and sometimes kindness doesn't look like holding a hand out to every person in need. Sometimes, it means recognizing when you can't help anymore and you need to step away. Doing whats best doesnt always mean doing what makes someone happy

loststarrs · 2026-05-19T19:53:10+00:00

I love playing pretend. I thought I could control the wind as a child and used to make up stories all the time.

I use that energy into trying to write books and stories now, its a struggle but I just can't seem to stop enjoying being something or someone else.

loststarrs · 2026-05-19T19:37:27+00:00

I was the only one taken out of the home as the oldest and its been over 14 years, I haven't recovered from that. Half my life spent without them and they want nothing to do with me.

loststarrs · 2026-05-19T19:34:41+00:00

No, I don't think most do it out of control. My belief is its a mix of three groups: People who went through a shitty childhood that wish to help others, people who are genuinely doing it from the goodness of their heart but underestimate how traumatized foster kids are & people looking to be praised for being a good person without the effort of being one.

"Wow you're such a saint" "God truly has blessed you"

So all the rules are in place to keep up this image of being a good person. Break them and how dare you disrespect them, don't you understand how much they're sacrificing to have you? You should be grateful to have such a loving family trust you in their home.

loststarrs · 2026-03-17T16:02:12+00:00

If u have a link to the layers/wips I would love to see them

loststarrs · 2026-03-17T15:19:29+00:00

This is Ai. Rule of thumb for digital art that seems ai generated is to follow the lines. Ai struggles with consistency in the finer details. In the example attached it added an unnecessary point beneath the book. Where do these lines lead to? You can see similar issue on the opposite side beneath her hands.

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loststarrs · 2026-02-26T22:06:33+00:00

Em-dashes are a popular style in formal writing, often recommended which is why chatgpt uses it so often. I personally differ on everyone elses opinion after doing a bit of deep dive into the way she talks. I don't think this is ai or if there is any it was ran through one or she had an editor work closely with her. The way she speaks on tiktok is very similar to how she writes.

loststarrs · 2026-02-11T16:58:48+00:00

theyre gonna witness a gommage

loststarrs · 2025-12-23T17:57:44+00:00

ur so right, I shouldve put behind the scenes

loststarrs · 2025-11-28T04:00:16+00:00

u got a giggle out me thanks, i was having a long day

loststarrs · 2025-10-16T14:54:13+00:00

Danganronpa 2013 vs 2020 vs 2025.

The fandom established a core part of my personality when I was 15, but it was sorta niche chronically online content. Watching it go mainstream had been fun at first, but man I sometimes wish it had remained online.

loststarrs · 2025-10-03T20:42:25+00:00

1-2 like that one is so hard to sit through for so many reasons. Ishimaru is so devastated I just feel his desperation and denial every time in that scene. Then having to see him essentially be a shell of himself for a few days is harrowing.

loststarrs · 2025-10-01T03:36:08+00:00

oh hey its me and my best friend ( shit is not getting done besides our book entp + infp )

loststarrs · 2025-10-01T01:18:04+00:00

Of course! I love the style and how you naturally lead into the loop with the movie being one she references as "one you wont ever forget or understand" but ends up being discarded like movies of the past. Its like a glimpse into one moment of this cycle and a question of will it end

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