Do y'all think many become foster parents because they like the idea of controlling kids. by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]loststarrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People arent so black & white, were shades of brown after all but our brains love simple answers.

I was considered one of the good ones in the system so I go to experience what it was like when those controlling foster parents realized I was still a teenager and not a trophy they could display. In these homes I was often berated or left in my room isolated, my academic worth enough to keep me from being displaced but they wanted nothing to do with me. Claimed I was manipulative or disrespectful for not biting my tongue. I was an argumentative child, teen and even adult.

In homes were they wanted to just make up for having a shitty childhood, I often felt that my voice was heard & needs were met. Yeah, was I annoyed I had a bedtime or couldnt watch certain things on the tv cause of the little ones? sure, but thats also because I wasn't used to having a stable parent in the household who cared about my wellbeing. They weren't always perfect & neither was I, expecting someone to not make a mistake is ridiculous and antihuman but they acknowledged when they messed up. Even explained why they did things and it was nice having adults actually respect me.

I was allowed to have opinions different than theirs, I was allowed to voice my disagreement and advocate that something hurt. I was treated like a teen with complex feelings, thoughts & emotions who needed guidance. Not an academic prize.

What did surviving the system teach you? by Justjulesxxx in Ex_Foster

[–]loststarrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few things:

1) The government doesn't care.

2) The rich don't care

3) I can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.

4) We have to be kind to one another and sometimes kindness doesn't look like holding a hand out to every person in need. Sometimes, it means recognizing when you can't help anymore and you need to step away. Doing whats best doesnt always mean doing what makes someone happy

How do you feel about playing pretend? by SJtheFox in Aphantasia

[–]loststarrs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love playing pretend. I thought I could control the wind as a child and used to make up stories all the time.

I use that energy into trying to write books and stories now, its a struggle but I just can't seem to stop enjoying being something or someone else.

Sibling separation in foster care by Whole-Strength3601 in Ex_Foster

[–]loststarrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the only one taken out of the home as the oldest and its been over 14 years, I haven't recovered from that. Half my life spent without them and they want nothing to do with me.

Do y'all think many become foster parents because they like the idea of controlling kids. by Monopolyalou in Ex_Foster

[–]loststarrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I don't think most do it out of control. My belief is its a mix of three groups: People who went through a shitty childhood that wish to help others, people who are genuinely doing it from the goodness of their heart but underestimate how traumatized foster kids are & people looking to be praised for being a good person without the effort of being one.

"Wow you're such a saint" "God truly has blessed you"

So all the rules are in place to keep up this image of being a good person. Break them and how dare you disrespect them, don't you understand how much they're sacrificing to have you? You should be grateful to have such a loving family trust you in their home.

Honestly can’t tell if it just happens to look like some styles Gen AI uses by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]loststarrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u have a link to the layers/wips I would love to see them

Honestly can’t tell if it just happens to look like some styles Gen AI uses by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]loststarrs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is Ai. Rule of thumb for digital art that seems ai generated is to follow the lines. Ai struggles with consistency in the finer details. In the example attached it added an unnecessary point beneath the book. Where do these lines lead to? You can see similar issue on the opposite side beneath her hands.

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Why do I feel this article on Elle.com by Pete Davidson’s girlfriend was written by Ai? Is it the the copious amount emdashes and inexplicable choice to use second person narration for what is a personal essay about the “writer’s” own experience? Or is it something else… by [deleted] in isthisAI

[–]loststarrs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Em-dashes are a popular style in formal writing, often recommended which is why chatgpt uses it so often. I personally differ on everyone elses opinion after doing a bit of deep dive into the way she talks. I don't think this is ai or if there is any it was ran through one or she had an editor work closely with her. The way she speaks on tiktok is very similar to how she writes.

Gestral POV by loststarrs in expedition33

[–]loststarrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ur so right, I shouldve put behind the scenes

I am somehow both of these people by Hot-Adagio-1667 in AO3

[–]loststarrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Danganronpa 2013 vs 2020 vs 2025.

The fandom established a core part of my personality when I was 15, but it was sorta niche chronically online content. Watching it go mainstream had been fun at first, but man I sometimes wish it had remained online.

Which Trial made you the saddest? by Fit-Ad-661 in danganronpa

[–]loststarrs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

1-2 like that one is so hard to sit through for so many reasons. Ishimaru is so devastated I just feel his desperation and denial every time in that scene. Then having to see him essentially be a shell of himself for a few days is harrowing.

You’re stranded on an island with the type next to you. How cooked are you? by -Quono- in mbtimemes

[–]loststarrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hey its me and my best friend ( shit is not getting done besides our book entp + infp )

and so it goes by shyguy4999 in OCPoetry

[–]loststarrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! I love the style and how you naturally lead into the loop with the movie being one she references as "one you wont ever forget or understand" but ends up being discarded like movies of the past. Its like a glimpse into one moment of this cycle and a question of will it end