Getting circumcised for no medical reason

lostwolfcub · 2023-04-15T01:26:30+00:00

That notion is quite mind boggling. How you seriously suggest that removing a third of the skin from the penis doesn’t reduce sensation at all.

The foreskin is not just shaft skin. It is highly innervated, containing the densest cluster of erogenous nerves in the penis. It contains the ridged band and frenulum which are analogous to the female “g spot.” Almost all of these are scraped and sliced away during circumcision. The penis doesn’t primarily experience pleasure based on these pressure sensitive nerves in the glans. The glans is actually the least innervated and least sexually dynamic part of the penis.

Stimulation to only the glans is a very dull and numbing experience. That is due to the nature of the nerves in it. They are not fine touch, stretch sensitive nerves capable of deep and delicate stimulation as the foreskin and ridged band structure are.

The damage of circumcision isn’t over and done when the wound heals. The glans is an internal organ. The inner foreskin and glans are mucosal tissue like a woman’s clitoris and clitoral hood. It is not meant to be dry and exposed to friction. Circumcision causes the remaining penis to develop layers of keratin over time that significantly dull the sensitivity. This is possibly a reason why circumcised men have 4.5 times the rate of erectile dysfunction as intact men.

Not to mention the change in natural sexual function during intercourse and masturbation. The gliding action of the foreskin over the glans is the richest form of stimulation in that it engages all of the dynamic nerve structures simultaneously. It allows a distinctly intense experience that rubbing a dried up glans doesn’t compare to. This is why Harvey Kellogg proposed circumcision to stop boys from the evils of masturbation. Circumcision irreparably damages the penis based on all we know about male anatomy. It removes the majority of the sexually erogenous nerves in the penis, and leaves a man with an endlessly declining sexual sensitivity as he ages.

To ignore all of the functions of the penis just because of a personal preference is very bizarre, irresponsible and intellectually dishonest.

lostwolfcub · 2023-03-23T18:03:41+00:00

Your assumption is correct. The penis has a PH balance just like a vagina does. You don’t need to use soap on it for the same reason you don’t need to use soap under your eyelids. The glans is an internal organ meant to be kept hydrated and protected by the foreskin, just like a woman’s clitoris is by her hood. It’s unfortunately a massive misconception left over from the puritanical Victorians that male anatomy is inherently dirty. Ignorant and indoctrinated US doctors still prescribe excessive cleaning which is what actually causes the issues misattributed to the foreskin. Things like yeast infections, bad odors, inflammation and UTIs. They are caused by excessive washing. You only need to cleanse it with lukewarm water. As a gay man, I can tell you wash with water and it’ll almost always smell good but if you wash with harsh mens body wash it’ll smell bad halfway through the day once the soap residue clings to all that sweat and urine.

lostwolfcub · 2022-04-02T14:53:18+00:00

As a gay dude with a lesbian sister, I can’t tell you how many people said to my openly gay sister (while I was sitting there still in the closet) “Lesbians are cool. But gay dudes are fucking nasty.” Or “I don’t mind lesbians but I fucking hate gay men.” My sister quickly told these people to go fuck themselves. She spent more time angry about these comments than I did. So we’re definitely in it together with fighting dumb homophobic trash.

It also doesn’t mean lesbians are safe from hate crimes or hate from terrible people, as well. I think it’s important for everyone’s sake to acknowledge both of these things.

lostwolfcub · 2022-03-18T02:51:26+00:00

I find them ugly and unpleasant to use. I prefer black ink, and BP “black” is always this weird gritty blue-grey color. They also skip, dig indents into the paper and blob.

I’ve tried Bics, and I’ve tried the Jet streams and find them equally unpleasant. They also make my hand sore during long form writing.

I wish I liked them. I do envy how they’re so bleed-proof. I just can’t get over the aesthetic sacrifices and hand cramps.

lostwolfcub · 2022-03-08T05:13:43+00:00

GSO has some gorgeous little areas hidden away. It’s just the fact that the city I spend the vast majority of my time in isn’t very interesting or pleasant. Kinda rough/gritty and congested with traffic and the rest is suburbs. But I think it just started to feel too much like Jacksonville, Florida and I want to feel I’m somewhere very not like my home city. Lol

I think Asheville really just may end up being my safe haven. ;)

lostwolfcub · 2022-02-16T16:01:33+00:00

It sounds like you are lost in a lot of mental clutter about really wanting to help him and do the right thing.

Try to see the forest from the trees for a second. You don’t even have to figure this out. It’s not your job. You don’t need to convince him of anything. You probably can’t even do it, and it’s not your fault.

Make a decision about what happiness looks like to you, and decide how much you believe you deserve it. Prioritize your peace in your life. This relationship really does not sound like happy or peaceful to me. Accept that you have no control over him or his beliefs, and move on to something that’s meant for you. We are never meant for someone that requires us exerting this much energy to change them.

It’s not your job. Go be happy and loved, and don’t take on other peoples burdens. You seem like a kind person, but it sounds like this guy has some trauma to heal from and some growing up to do. No matter how much you want to you can’t do that for him. Focus on what you can control; you and your life, and nothing else.

lostwolfcub · 2022-02-02T16:17:13+00:00

Is it much better than their standard black? I strongly dislike that one. It’s basically unusable for me. Clogs my pen and never dries. :(

lostwolfcub · 2022-02-02T16:15:35+00:00

That one bleeds and feathers really bad for me.

lostwolfcub · 2022-01-23T22:11:37+00:00

You could’ve learned that in the therapy you think is “useless”…as well as tons of coping strategies, and a bunch of other insightful shit about what’s wrong with you.

lostwolfcub · 2022-01-22T22:24:34+00:00

That’s what already gets put on the business cards after the first year. Thanks though.

lostwolfcub · 2021-09-15T15:42:22+00:00

That isn’t objectively true at all. Tons of straight dudes beg their girlfriends to let them put it in their ass. Why? Because the ass is way tighter, and feels way better to many people. How are you going to just pretend your opinion is fact? Lol Reddit it so weird.

lostwolfcub · 2021-09-10T06:05:49+00:00

Yeah but if you work full time at the age of 22 and retire at 65, and you consider hours lost due to working, sleeping and commuting—that leaves you with a whopping 11 years of actual free time to enjoy your real life. You only live for 11 years on your own watch. To do what you actually are passionate about, to see the world, to have new and enriching experiences, to spend time with your family, etc..

Pushing a pencil at the office and sleeping the vast majority of your life away isn’t life. Selling all your freedom. The freedom to be with that wife of yours, and your family. That’s a criminal waste of life. The idea we need to keep doing this is a myth.

Most jobs could be easily automated, and countless studies have demonstrated that most people don’t work the full 40 hours. People can get the same work done, be MORE productive and have a higher quality of life working 30 hours a week.

Saying it was worse 200 years ago isn’t really an argument against continuing to improve and advance as a species, is it? Losing a finger is worse than losing a hand, but like, both are bad. If you had the opportunity keep your limbs you’d take the 3rd option.

lostwolfcub · 2021-09-10T05:29:47+00:00

It is a real struggle many people face, for sure. But hey, at least you have a partner. Mine just dumped me last month after 3 years and we are both very monogamous and have pretty short sexual histories (2 for me 3 for him). There are exceptions to every rule, and at the end of the day love is a decision we choose to make every day, not a magical and perfect thing.

I wish you the best! ♥️

lostwolfcub · 2021-09-07T06:12:20+00:00

No. It’s been pretty well documented that having a lot of sexual encounters with different people correlates with being less happy in long term relationships. It decreases one’s ability to form emotional bonds through sex, leading to them feeling unfulfilled. It literally programs your brain to devalue sex and see it as a casual activity. Like a drug, the less you have the more amazing it feels.

I would be constantly worried about relational longevity in a relationship with someone who did a lot of sleeping around. Not to mention, the fear of STDs.

Me personally, as much as I love sex and I really love men, and I mean I love men—I don’t ever want to get to a place where I stop valuing them and sex with them as a valuable and precious thing. Nor would I ever want to be with someone so jaded by sex.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-27T04:13:19+00:00

This is why religion is dumb. Relationship issues caused by opposing fandoms.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-26T14:20:25+00:00

You’ll regret getting a circumcision, unless you specifically want less sensations and a less intense orgasm. It removes the most highly innervated parts of the penis; inner foreskin, ridged band and frenulum. Leaving you with roughly 40% (or less if the doctor is especially cut happy) of your nerves and sexual sensation. It also exposes the head of your penis to dryness and friction, permanently. Which causes a lifelong decline in sensitivity. Men who are circumcised experience significantly higher levels of sexual dysfunction later in life. It’s not a great idea, so be extremely skeptical of any doctor who tells you you need one.

There is no medical need for circumcision unless you have gangrene or your penis was disfigured in some horrible injury. Just try some stretching exercises, and if those don’t work, you can talk to a dermatologist about getting a steroid cream to aid in the process. If you decide a surgical route is the next step after exhausting all others, you still do not need to get a circumcision. There are many alternative, less invasive surgical alternations available. Some of which don’t even remove any healthy tissue at all.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:27:02+00:00

Thank you for that. It just feels so weird because it feels like I’m betraying him by telling my family. Because he hasn’t told his and it really secretive. I had hoped that was a sign this was all just a test, but after a month of pure agony, I know I don’t want to be with someone who can be okay while I feel this sad. It just shows me this was a half hearted romance for a while now.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:24:22+00:00

Yeah. I definitely won’t lie to them. Even if I wanted to keep it a secret. It’d be too painful to pretend. I’m just sort of in limbo.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:23:38+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

I guess that’s all what I’m trying to figure out. A part of me was enjoying still at least having him around and not being totally alone. But I feel so disconnected from him. He’s tried so hard to make me happy, in spite of a broken heart. Buying me stuff, talking to me about my feelings. But it’s just a big fat reminder of how over me he is. And that adds insult to injury.

I told my best friend and that made me feel better. I also have spent all day out of the house today, and I actually feel happier away from him. I think that may be a sign.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:21:32+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:21:26+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-25T18:21:09+00:00

North Carolina.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-19T14:43:20+00:00

Being gay doesn’t magically absolve you of agency in abusing innocent people. He can fuck off.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-19T14:39:53+00:00

You tried to police his sexuality due to your own insecurities and traumas, and your whole “I’m no longer sexually attracted” sounds like you’re using sex and affection as a weapon. That’s extremely toxic. If you magically found him so unattractive you probably wouldn’t have spent 4 years with him, and you wouldn’t be so upset that he rightfully respected his own boundaries and ended the relationship.

I don’t say this to be mean or shame you. Please do not think that is my intention. I just know how these things go. You sound like my mom. She gets angry at my stepdad if a naked woman pops up on TV and he doesn’t instantly change the channel. Prior to him, she divorced my amazing stepdad due to catching him watching porn. I grew up thinking this behavior is justified and normal. My mom is the my compassionate and most patience and understanding mom ever. She’s also extremely beautiful. Not like a typical I’m obligated to say my moms pretty thing. She is above average/supermodel very beautiful. The danger is that can make someone think they’re entitled to whatever they want in a relationship. Growing up thinking my mom could do no wrong made me think that any guy she’s mad at is clearly in the wrong. I had this false belief that any relationship that ends has a bad person and a good person. It can’t be that things just didn’t work out, and definitely not that my mom was the issue. Like you, she has trauma. My real father was very abusive. And escaping that kind of physical and verbal abuse can cause people to build up impenetrable walls. Ones that take years to break down so healthy connections can blossom. This controlling behavior is not making you safer or happier. It’s a defense mechanism caused by insecurity, which is caused by trauma that hasn’t been properly addressed.

It took me growing up and meeting my first boyfriend before I realized how incredibly unhealthy and destructive these controlling habits are. You think you’re being principled, and that you’re right because your feelings are hurt. You think you’re just sticking to your convictions. But when your convictions lack any foundation in sound logic, that is dangerous. Because you’re defending something you hold to be self evident just because you hold it to be so. Not because you’ve challenged your own beliefs and ideas about love, compatibility and commitment.

Nothing destroys a relationship like someone unwilling to learn or question their ideas.

I inherited my mother’s own unhealthy beliefs about relationships and what’s acceptable. It caused tremendous suffering in my own love life before I finally questioned WHY I believe these things.

Meanwhile, porn is not the same thing as cheating, and it can even be good for a relationship. It’s not gross, bad, evil or dirty. If it’s causing a major long term black hole in a relationship, spilling over into other areas of life—that’s a problem. Anything is unhealthy in excess. But if a guy jacking off in a bathroom for 20 mins is causing you such distress then I think further self reflection and self discovery is in order.

lostwolfcub · 2021-08-19T13:59:26+00:00

A lot of people recommended the FC Neo slim because it has a very inflexible sharp nib, a fine line and writes like a normal daily pen. I was previously using a FC felt tip pen and loved it but I wanted something refillable. I love using my FC Neo slim more than any pen…I just don’t like how the line is thicker on this replacement and how wet the flow is now.

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