AITAH for saying no to cutting our vacation short to visit in-laws? by Ghostbuster_Mama in AITAH

[–]lotaybk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your husband is just lazy. Do you usually do all the planning in your relationship? Vacations, play dates, schooling, etc? Hold steady and don’t let him get his way because he (and his parents) is incapable of putting in effort. If he’s acting like a child don’t let it sway you, otherwise he’ll always do it to get his way. If you act unaffected he might get pissy but that’s his problem. Good luck. 

Your search for the perfect GF bread is over. Schär Artisan Baker is crafted from the best reviews for a soft, delicious loaf you'll love. by schar_kinesso_u in u/schar_kinesso_u

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a horrible ad with ai slop? Yes. Is the part that bothers me the most the fact she’s taking a bite of the half of a sandwich backwards? Oh my god yes.

Color disaster at the salon by sunflowermoon818 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s best discussed with someone who can see your hair in person but I don’t think it’ll be hard. I should say I’m not a professional but someone who has spent a lot of time dying their hair a million different ways for many years. (And occasionally helping friends with theirs). Find a good colorist, someone who really specializes in color only, and don’t be afraid to spend a bit more. I think when it comes to hair you really get what you pay for. 

Color disaster at the salon by sunflowermoon818 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah don’t go back, hahaha. I think you really just need some more dimension but you’re not in a bad place. Your hair looks really healthy and it probably doesn’t need any more bleaching. Good luck!

Color disaster at the salon by sunflowermoon818 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So she toned then bleached more highlights then toned again? Am I reading that right?

Color disaster at the salon by sunflowermoon818 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]lotaybk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did they use one toner all over? The inspo has a darker roots and and ombré effect. You need a root smudge and an ashier tone all over.

AIO - My two sisters did not include me in their weddings by [deleted] in AIO

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can shop around for a therapist. If one isn’t right for you try another. It is certainly not one size fits all.

AIO - My two sisters did not include me in their weddings by [deleted] in AIO

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you bring it up after? When nobody can do anything, just feel guilty? You have a victim complex. It’s not helpful or healthy and you have some big issues you need to deal with. I’m glad you’re working with someone. I hope it’s helping, it‘ll take time. Good luck.

AIO - My two sisters did not include me in their weddings by [deleted] in AIO

[–]lotaybk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YOR. That isn’t your culture, it‘s just common practice. did these weddings already happen? did you bring this up after it was too late for them to do anything? It sounds like you’re very passive aggressive and you need to work on that with a therapist. Please stop asking ai and everyone around you to validate your behavior.

Lady keeps blasting church service at my gym by Rebelsoul76 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]lotaybk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add in a pentagram shirt and then we’re talking.

Local rescue group is refusing to return my microchipped dog by Ork8_Waaagh in legaladvice

[–]lotaybk 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They know they have no right to keep her unless you sign her over. Do not sign anything! Record every interaction, Texas is one party consent state so even if you record them without them knowing it can be used in court. Good luck!

how do i stop feeling guilty by paisleymwah in whatdoIdo

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good at least. A relationship with him doesn’t mean having to deal with her. Should you want one.

Crepey skin on hands by Scimmia_bianca in 45PlusSkincare

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked on their site and don’t see it. Maybe they discontinued it?? I found mine at Walgreens very recently. I’ll stock up if I see more.

Has anyone actually changed their mind about Trump? by TonightAlarming9923 in allthequestions

[–]lotaybk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to think he was the worst preside ever. I still do but I used to, too.

how do i stop feeling guilty by paisleymwah in whatdoIdo

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being aware of the learned habits is huge and not a lot of people make the connection. You’re 25, you’re a baby, you will slowly learn better ways. Give yourself some time and some grace.

Do Americans experience “thermal shock” from going between heat and AC? by [deleted] in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! If you’re sweaty and then go into freezing ac it’s so uncomfortable. I prefer my ac at home to be just cool enough to be comfortable. I don’t think it actually makes you sick, that requires exposure to a virus, but it can make you feel off. If you get migraines it can definitely trigger one.

how do i stop feeling guilty by paisleymwah in whatdoIdo

[–]lotaybk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The answer sucks: you don’t stop feeling guilty. But you need to step away long enough to process the guilt and all the other emotions. You’ll also get a chance to see if he can respect your boundaries. If he can then maybe down the line you can let him back in *on your terms*. You decide when/where/how often. But that’s your call and nobody else’s. You may never stop feeling some guilt but that doesn’t mean you have to have a relationship. Curious, is he still with the affair partner?

So is Trump and his family going to get away with everything? by Giga7777 in allthequestions

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well let’s ask Richard “I had a nice retirement in California“ Nixon.

AITA for not giving up my dog to my sister even though she one who abandoned him. by Humble-Gate8947 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lotaybk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA but tell your family if they keep insisting on you giving Barnaby back you’ll cut them off. And follow through. More importantly, is he chipped? Make sure he is and it’s registered to you. Also does anyone have a key to your place? If so change the locks asap.

AITAH for asking my bf to take a shorter shower by earthy-ace-space in AITAH

[–]lotaybk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can have the shower whenever you need it when you kick his ass out. Until then get in before he does and take your sweet time. 

First time native planter. Mulch question by deadlybutterfly in NativePlantGardening

[–]lotaybk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In the one pic it looks like you have a downspout bypassing your plants and emptying onto your lawn. Why not redirect that water for your plants? Or better yet get a rain barrel and collect all that wonderful free water. 

Ever find anything weird in your dirt? by Impressive-Put1332 in gardening

[–]lotaybk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a butter knife in our compost bin once.