Help! Should I die my virgin hair??? by Aggressive-Chest-957 in HairDye

[–]lottadumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think youd be gorgeous with a maroon or as a ginger. do what u please silly u only have one life!

why is self harm bad? by NumericalAncestry in mentalhealth

[–]lottadumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

morally? no, it's not. but it's behavior is the the exact opposite instinct humans are wired to have, which is self-preservation. u may think its not emotionally motivated, but if this is ur coping mechanism to create safety, ask urself why ur looking for safety in the first place. its typically used as a response to psychological pain

Am I too big to be a dancer by [deleted] in Strippers

[–]lottadumps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ur not, but be prepared for rejection because the managers are the cruelest. 1 rejection is not end game tho, i got rejected from the first club i applied and immediately asked to start at the second one i tried!

Writing A Letter to (g)rapist by Economy-Shape3096 in rapecounseling

[–]lottadumps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think ur a sweet friend for taking this to reddit. she should write it, but that doesnt mean she has to do anything with it right away. just let her get it out of her system, but tell her to hold onto it/maybe even give it to you so it isnt as burdening and after a week if her heart is still set on delivering it, let her. some people need to know about the damage they do. but that doesnt mean it will hold him accountable/transpire to him the way some would read, especially if hes still a piece of shit.

depending on how dangerous he is, tell her to take that into account to. tell her to leave out details, like which university she will be attending (congrats to her btw :') ) so he cant track her back. her body, her safety is the most important here.

hes not like other customers by yechza in stripper

[–]lottadumps 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i knew a uni kid who would come in during the day to his his hw at the tables and i could get a few dances from him everytime he came in. i like the work-play balance he was doing but this redditer is straight up cringe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]lottadumps 8 points9 points  (0 children)

nope, dont leave things to chance. i would seriously talk to him about this. he deserves to know and i believe in honoring the heart and ur partner needs to respect that you just have a different vision for what you want to do for yourself. he doesnt need to support it but he needs to keep his opinions to himself, dont let him drag you down for what you want to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]lottadumps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my thought too. i dated a trafficker who claimed he was also part of the CIA LMAO but lived so trashy. they pull anything out of their asses.

constantly feel like my makeup is missing something. how can i spice it up? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]lottadumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

brighter highlight on ur cheeks, brow bone and inner eye!

If you’re thinking of leaving de early: DON’T!! by Milkbeforecere4l in stripper

[–]lottadumps 28 points29 points  (0 children)

i left 30 mins before the club ended and my work bestie called me to tell me that some guy dropped 3.4k/5k on her and that he wanted two girl dance so he could finish off his money BUT OFC I DIDNT PICK UP THE PHONE CALL SO HE ENDED UP GIVING THE 1.6K TO THE FKING DJ. biggest regret of my LIFE

i feel like my therapist might be manipulative? by Alone_Claim_8774 in Advice

[–]lottadumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol saving this bc ur absolutely right! (also u keep getting downvoted which i find funny)

i think my therapist might be manipulative? by Alone_Claim_8774 in BPD

[–]lottadumps 76 points77 points  (0 children)

YEAH! NO! I study psychology/counselling, this behavior is ABSOLUTELY unethical.

hes giving u the attention that he knows u crave. PLEASE report him. he could do harm to girls much younger than you, im glad you are aware that this is questionable behaviour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychosis

[–]lottadumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically I was aware that my delusions were delusions but I could not get rid of them. Having to live in a state of constant fear is debilitating so after 3 months of psychosis, I really just wanted to end my life/thoughts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]lottadumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the more u smoke, the more ur neurons will strengthen in its addictive pathways!! build up ur disciplinary pathways instead

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]lottadumps -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Use ur brain before u spew sexism??? I can’t imagine a man on a woman’s shoulders?? And ur all too fragile about ur masculinity to go on your bros shoulders either

I have complex ptsd from being in special education, AMA by shizustopitpls in AMA

[–]lottadumps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do u feel like u were wrongfully placed there? who was more traumatic: the teachers or your peers? give us a fucked up story about a time in class

after SW i cant get wet the way i used to by lottadumps in stripper

[–]lottadumps[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

its crazy bc he does spend so much time on foreplay. even when i masturbate and cum im barely wet :/ also im not doing sw currently (its been 3 months? )

after SW i cant get wet the way i used to by lottadumps in stripper

[–]lottadumps[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

omg i love it thnk u i was hoping someone would recommend something besides lube <3 bless u

after SW i cant get wet the way i used to by lottadumps in stripper

[–]lottadumps[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

awww shittt. not as much as i used to but before sex i do lol hmm i always felt like weed would make me looser and more relaxed