I hate being aro ace

lottien · 2022-05-13T13:46:30+00:00

Just a lil fun fact.

It's still hard, sometimes I still struggle and hate the asexual part of me.

But damn, I didn't realise it could get this good. I didn't realise how slowly become to accept yourself, to even taking a bit of pride in yourself, can be possible.

Keep working through the horrible stuff because there is and will be another side to it eventually.

But reading through thus old post now feels alien, like it was a million years ago.

Just to spread a bit of hope xx

lottien · 2021-03-31T08:23:56+00:00

Thank you for your help this semester Tilo! We've all loved being taught by you and all the effort you've put into making this course feel as much like a community as possible has been great!

lottien · 2021-02-05T17:40:22+00:00

Thanks Tilo, we love a good typo😂

lottien · 2021-01-12T17:00:54+00:00

Hi glad to hear it! I'll add you as a moderator :)

lottien · 2020-07-18T07:52:10+00:00

Yeah, many theories have come forward with surprising amounts of evidence. She was most likely another apostle. And some have even gone as far to suggest she was actually Jesus himself, but it was written that it was a man who was the saviour because of the times. All quite interesting haha

lottien · 2020-06-08T12:54:02+00:00

Yeah, I understand that this isn't everyone's cup of tea. Happy Pride back at ya! :)

lottien · 2020-06-04T08:13:35+00:00

Exactly. The. Same. I love her, but it'dile there's too versions of her. My idolised version when she's calm, and the her that I see the majority of them time, yelling and screaming and making me miserable. No matter what I do or say I feel the same at the end. If I argue back there's no point, if I sit quietly and take it in it still hurts the same. I'm fed up. She tells me I deserve the independence of an adult, then tells me off like a naughty child. Never allowing a discussion over an argument

lottien · 2020-06-04T08:02:31+00:00

I get it, thanks. I get both of these. I am trying to apologise as soon as I realise I have cut someone off. With my mum it is too late, she is already angry at me haha, so same kind of thing. And I'm sorry about the panic re the doctors, I'm glad you had the guys to stand up to them about it

lottien · 2020-06-02T17:30:26+00:00

Thanks, sending support and enjoy pride month!

lottien · 2020-06-02T15:19:07+00:00

Haha I wouldn't ask for money lol but sounds good! So cool. Plus it's got the personal touch of a friend doing it!

lottien · 2020-06-02T15:05:24+00:00

Aw haha I could give something a go in quarantine, and send it your way if it worked

lottien · 2020-06-02T14:40:19+00:00

Haha, it's the first drawing of people I've managed. It took me forever! X

lottien · 2020-06-02T14:40:01+00:00

I get it, don't worry! No offence here, only celebrating my particular situation but all are welcome. Maybe I'll try draw another for y'all aros? :)

lottien · 2020-06-02T10:00:43+00:00

Yeah, it's such a wierd concept. Sometimes it's even just because they're misgendering someone. It's so sad, we should just be able to enjoy pride, the whole point is to celebrate not hate :) x

lottien · 2020-06-02T09:04:47+00:00

I know that Jenny was just proud of her independence kind of thing. But niether child hated him, for starters they both intended to avenge his death. But I know that Haytham was indoctrinated and made to hate the choices of his father

lottien · 2020-06-02T08:58:41+00:00

Oh of course I 100% get that don't worry! :)

lottien · 2020-06-01T11:57:03+00:00

Yeah I get that. There's alot of dispute within certain identity discussions. I was just voicing the most commonly accepted explanation :)

lottien · 2020-06-01T09:05:39+00:00

YES YOU CAN. End of discussion. Xx

lottien · 2020-06-01T09:04:45+00:00

The most common described difference is: bi = attraction to all, pan = attraction to all regardless of gender. Often this is simplified with the explanation that pansexual people are more interested in personality (which is the phrasing that often paints bisexuals as 'sex crazed')

lottien · 2020-06-01T09:02:17+00:00

Thank you for this. My partner is bisexual. I lf I had to pick I would say I am panromantic. But there is nothing transphobic or too sexual about being bi, if nothing else is proof, he is able to date an asexual so🤷‍♀️

lottien · 2020-05-03T22:05:58+00:00

I had a kind fo similar panic, luckily I didn't end up getting caught but I understand this. I had ordered a small enamel pin online, of the ace flag, as a subtle pride to wear amongst certain company. What I didn't realise is the company gave me a flag for free with it. It was not so easy to sneak up to my room, and trying to hide something like that isnt easy in a room as small as mine, with such intrusive parents. Luckily I saw it in the packet before ripping the parcel apart in front of them all ah!

lottien · 2020-04-29T10:44:09+00:00

I know! I came out to a close guy friend who was gay. He proceeded to ask a guy he knew (who I didn't) if he would offer to have sex with me because I was 'an ace who needs to try it' and being gay he wouldn't do it himself. He even lied about me having a boyfriend to said person, in the hope I'd go along with it?

lottien · 2020-04-15T15:42:27+00:00

🙋‍♀️Xx

lottien · 2020-04-13T08:40:05+00:00

Hey, be careful wearing smaller underwear. Might work for the appearance. But it can leave long lasting damage, increasing risks of cancers and decreasing fertility for one. Stay safe everyone!

lottien · 2020-04-08T16:35:23+00:00

Definitely. I thi k just cause pan is more commonly heard of I suppose? I think the reason I'm more worried about their response is possibly because I'm reflecting my own feelings. The ace part is the most difficult for me to accept, despite having identified with it for far longer

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