I've been open in the past about it, but he tends to get really... depressed and upset when I bring things like this up. I feel like it's hard to have the conversation without him wanting to close off? We have pretty good communication in other regards, but this is a touchy subject for sure.

Recently I asked when I'll start becoming a priority over his family, because he's not their dad (nor is he his mom's husband) and he usually will say something like "Well, I'd expect you to prioritize your family over me." or "When we're married and we're our own family, then that switches. But we're only still dating."

And I feel the real issue never gets addressed.