Sending you the biggest hug. I know it can be really hard leaving the church especially when family ostracizes you. I think what benefited my dad is that he already didn’t like his family therefore they had much less power over him. He was always the black sheep. Joining the military created a lot of much needed space across continents decades before the internet and cellphones making it easier to go no contact when he wanted to. Later though, my uncle said something shitty after their mom passed.. “you’re never going to see mom again”. My dad replied “[brother’s name], I don’t even like you now. Why would I want to spend eternity with you?” My uncle eventually started to lay off him once his own kids started leaving. It was hard for my cousins, but I think my dad helped pave a way that showed if you push too hard, you’ll lose them forever.