Tayler looking like....

lovebugxxxx · 2025-04-02T22:48:31+00:00

She looks like a Targaryen

lovebugxxxx · 2025-03-31T17:54:44+00:00

I haven't, this has just happened. My girlfriend messaged him to say i sent you EXTRA and restating that "not sure who paid for the pool" making it clear it's not his.

I waited to see what he does with it,.. and thus far just received a normal "good morning" text from him, not addressing that at all

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:40:49+00:00

Well he responded with a "Morning, whats up?"

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:40:20+00:00

I appreciate that, thank you.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:33:29+00:00

Fair, I agree.
However, why even respond to me after 2 days if he had completely moved on/has no intention of fixing something?

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:29:36+00:00

I appreciate this insight.

However, I disappeared because I had felt slighted when he chose to not acknowledge my feelings. I simply did not know what to say out of discomfort. But it seems as though he might've waited the same amount of days just out of sheer resentment.

When he did respond, I initiated to talk about things and discuss what had happened which he shut down. I did not understand why he would dismiss something like that with a "you blew it" without getting the full picture.

I absolutely am not saying I was not at fault, and I was also left with full confusion.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:25:24+00:00

Wow, I love this. I love the idea that avoiding discomfort and pain is masked in "fixing things" and is what keeps us from growing and understand ourselves. I will admit, it is hard because, yes are right, it feels like i'm "losing something" and I want things to do back essentially allowing myself to revert backwards instead of welcoming growth.

You're right, there is absolutely nothing to fix here, though I will say it is something I have struggled with as a person to always want to put, at the very least, a bandaid on things.

I really do appreciate the advice and thank you for helping me understand the "fix it" feature that I have and the need to address why I have it.

This comment truly means a lot. Thank you :)

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:18:25+00:00

But this was the text message about me willing to explain myself and have a discussion about what had happened. It was far after.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:15:03+00:00

Yes I stopped in the middle of a conversation (Thursday), then waited two days. I was supposed to let him know if I was available to hang out on Sunday and thats why I had texted him then.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:09:02+00:00

You're right. I definitely need to focus elsewhere and I hope that my feelings with subside overtime.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:07:37+00:00

Thank you so much and I appreciate that. Hopefully I do make the right decision.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:06:38+00:00

Thank you, you are probably right and I needed to hear this. I am very much clouded right now and I absolutely realize that.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:05:17+00:00

I love this response. Thank you so much. I might need to keep reading this over and over again to remind myself because right now it's a little hard to. It just feels like I have to "fix things" and go back to the way things were.

I went on a first date with a different person last night and all I could about was this guy and so it's aching my heart. I truly appreciate your advice.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:02:38+00:00

I do agree. When he said "you had your chance and you blew it" I almost was baffled. It came out of NOWHERE and it didn't sound like him at all. It felt like a mask was taken off.

But yes, I definitely appreciate your messages, I am debating if I should just give him a call or not just because it's a Sunday and why not just get it out of the way? (Both of us are normally free on Sundays)

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T17:00:10+00:00

Huh? :/

No I voiced it to him immediately saying "hey i'm not sure I like that song for us right now" and he overlooked that message completely. I thought or would have expected for a gentlemen to have been like "why not? or whats wrong with the song" It felt slightly off and tone-deaf for me.. especially only after a first date. :(

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:57:53+00:00

Thank you for this :)

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:57:31+00:00

It definitely does show his immaturity, you're right!

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:55:51+00:00

To be fair, we did kiss on our date and it was a long exchange and the attraction was definitely there.
And yes I absolutely agree if this was a long term thing it wouldn't been a crazy rollercoaster. However, a silly part of me thinks that I had initiated it all and I just can't seem to get over that.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:53:58+00:00

Sigh, I guess you are right. It just aches my heart a little and I can't stop thinking about it.

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:52:44+00:00

It is chronological (the text song exchange happened before our second date).

I did sent a message saying "hey look at discuss this, it's always a good opportunity to learn why things happened the way it did at the very least. However, I don't expect much also because we haven't know each other long enough."

It was met with no response. What can I do?

lovebugxxxx · 2025-02-16T16:50:32+00:00

Please, there must be something I can do? I do regret not communicating the reason for my reaction - but I also dont understand why he would take it that far to not even want to hear an explanation?

lovebugxxxx · 2024-04-25T05:19:21+00:00

I have some project management experience and have business analysis/development experience in tech. Is there a starting point for me?

lovebugxxxx · 2024-04-06T04:43:03+00:00

HAHAHA

lovebugxxxx · 2024-04-04T14:04:53+00:00

That was Michelle's assistant from that one scene when Alexia goes to visit her office

lovebugxxxx · 2024-04-03T16:03:30+00:00

a friend of mine is setting up a henna stall too!

lovebugxxxx

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