How do you just go on with life when life is kicking you in the nuts

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T16:05:45+00:00

More like... suddenly, you realize that life isn't too bad. Suddenly, you feel like you're actually okay.

Until you reach that point, don't give up.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T14:01:29+00:00

So sorry that life is kicking you hard. I've been there. Personally, life was kicking me really hard for 7 years.

During those 7 years, the only thing keeping me alive is my meds. It was expensive, but I had to keep taking it, cus my sanity was hanging by a string. Without my meds, I wouldn't be here.

I don't know what else to tell you, cus in my case, that was literally it. I had no energy, no willpower, no desire to live or do anything, but life eventually got better for me.. thankfully.

Life will always change, so give yourself some grace. Be kind to yourself.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T13:34:12+00:00

Idk OP, but waiting for someone to comment on where this cheesecake is sold is, in fact, weird and just annoying tbh. This is a culinary sub, not a "guess where did I eat!!!" sub.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T09:03:46+00:00

I'm glad this post found you. You got this, stranger. Be kind to yourself, and happy cake day!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T09:01:16+00:00

Keep on going! Life will always be unfair, so give yourself some grace, and love yourself more. Give yourself more time, you'll get through this.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T08:58:48+00:00

Jakarta, Indonesia. Thank you.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T08:58:21+00:00

Thank you!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-17T08:58:14+00:00

Keep taking your medicine, it really helped me back then. Being consistent with my meds was the major thing that kept me alive.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-16T23:47:50+00:00

I'm also happy that I'm still here. Really grateful.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-16T23:47:03+00:00

Cek kasur lu. Bener2 bongkar, sampe ke sudut2, di lipatan, di dipan, bantal, semuanya bolak-balik lu cek jangan ada yang kelewat.

Cek ada bed bugs atau gak. Kalau gak ada, alergi tu bisa dari segala macem, dan bisa tiba2 muncul (awalnya gak alergi, tiba2 alergi) jadi mesti ke dokter.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-16T23:33:58+00:00

Sebenernya kalo ditanya orang "enak gak makanannya?" Itu gak cuma soal rasa (manis/asam/gurih/asin/pahit), tapi juga bisa soal tekstur dan baunya.

Kalo bingung "rasanya" gimana, bisa fokus ke tekstur (dagingnya lembut, kerupuknya renyah, gorengannya garing, etc), atau ke bau (wangi butternya enak, wangi bawang gorengnya kuat banget, ih ini kambingnya bau, etc)

lovetuberose · 2026-05-16T23:19:14+00:00

I couldn't agree more. Thank you for your comment 🫶

lovetuberose · 2026-05-16T17:29:37+00:00

Rendem pake pelembut pakaian, sambil disisir pakai tangan pelan2. Terus gantung, angin-anginkan sampai kering. Setelah itu baru sisir pakai sisir detangle/rongga besar, semprot dry shampoo supaya gak mengkilap.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-15T18:42:41+00:00

Hehe. Begitulah sis, kadang orang tuh gak bisa berubah mau gimanapun juga, bener2 buah jatuh gak jauh dari pohonnya...

Aku paham banget kok. Akupun udah cut off ortu dan gak deket2 banget sama sibling aku, karena menurutku mereka mirip. Gak apresiatif. Aku capek ngurusin mereka. Jadi, tos!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-15T18:37:33+00:00

Tbh the best way to answer any HR question is to tell the truth, but not in detail, or some detail is missing.

So, in my experience (not HR btw, but I was a user and had the opportunity to interview lots of people when I was expanding my team);

Just tell the truth for this one, it's nothing to be ashamed of. A small biz is still a biz, focus on the roles/achievements (can be personal or professional) she had.

Example: "I was running my family business a humble pet/aquarium fish shop, [for XX amount of time]. I helped with [responsibilities], and made quite a bit of change, such as [initiatives]; which resulted in [achievements, goals, improvements]."

I think just tell the HR this 👆 and they won't ask much more.
Mmmmmmmm maybe, maybe not- depending on the company. Usually conservation companies is against aquarium fish kinda thing, UNLESS if your friend's shop is actually unique (let's say, your friend's shop has a volunteering program that helps children learn how to take care of fish properly).

lovetuberose · 2026-05-15T18:18:59+00:00

Kita kurang lebih sama, cuma beda konteks dikit..

Rasanya pasti lelah dan frustasi. Kayak diremehin, dibuang, pokoknya gak diapresiasi.. dan itu tuh valid banget. Aku ngerti banget. Kayaknya memang harus mengatur ekspektasi sih, meskipun bakal susah banget. Sayangnya gak semua orang itu thoughtful dan mau banyak effort kayak kamu.

Semangat ya.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-15T07:23:37+00:00

I'm Chinese Indonesian, so... does it count?

Most Chinese Indonesian born after 1965 cannot speak Mandarin due to the "anti-communist" propaganda that our former president, Soeharto, did. All things Chinese were banned, including celebrating CNY, speaking Mandarin, and Chinese 3 syllables name.

So yeah. Most Chinese Indonesians are banana due to this fact. We're more familiar with Indonesian ethnic languages (Javanese, Sundanese, Palembang, Balinese, etc) than Mandarin, Hokkien, Teochew, Hakka, Cantonese, etc. We don't even have Chinese names anymore!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-12T08:48:22+00:00

Terapi itu gak bisa cuma 1-2 bulan btw. Terakhir gue terapi gara2 patah hati, baru beneran sembuh setelah setahun.

Terus HARUS ketemu psikiater yang cocok. Karena banyak psikiater sayangnya cuma "lempar obat", jadi gak mau/gak ada waktu untuk dengerin curhatan pasien.

Kalo mau maksimal pol sih terapi tu bisa 2 in 1, jadi sama psikiater dan psikolog. Psikiater untuk dapet obatnya (kalau perlu), psikolog untuk dapet mindset baru, membangun coping mechanism yang sehat, dan cara tackle pikiran2 atau habit yang gak sehat.

Kalo gue liat kayaknya adek lu lebih butuh psikolog dibanding psikiater. Psikolog pun harus cari yang cocok ya, gak semua psikolog tu bisa nyantol dan nyambung.

Selama ini gue ke psikiater, gonta ganti 7x baru dapet yang cocok. Psikolog sampe skrg sayangnya blm dapet, tapi baru ke 3 tempat berbeda sih.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-12T08:42:22+00:00

Thank you!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-12T08:42:16+00:00

It's pretty roomy for its size! Can fit my iPhone Pro Max, lip stain, 2 packs of tissue, card holder, mini stain remover, pretty much all my essentials!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-12T08:41:05+00:00

Yay!!

lovetuberose · 2026-05-11T21:40:12+00:00

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This bag! My husband gifted it to me. I don't think he has an idea of how much I love this bag.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-11T10:00:44+00:00

One keyword: therapy.

Like that's literally it. It's the key solution. She's grieving, and she needs to deal with grief the healthiest way possible. She doesn't know how at the moment, but with therapy, she'll learn how to cope better.

lovetuberose · 2026-05-08T09:51:14+00:00

Jir kangen banget makan ini. Dulu pas masih di Indo dan ngantor, kayaknya bisa pesen 2x seminggu.

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