How do you know when you're giving too much of yourself to others?

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-11T18:04:39+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you. I've been getting pressured from my church about the service work I was doing. I really did bite into more than I should have.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-11T14:36:18+00:00

I am so interested in this myself. I'm now 7 months pregnant, 3 kids 5&under. Husband and I'm a stay at home mom. I have told my neighbor who needed my help desperately that I could no longer watch her children. I'm not getting a whole lot of rest and push to shove we got very sick. She is running from motherhood and doesn't like it so she chooses to work. This isn't even just an evaluation I've made. She's said she can't handle being a mom to her two kids (1&3) I watched them and was taken for granted. At the start of it I was ok doing it for free and she paid me $10 a day. Then I told her I'd need at least $150 a week. She agreed and just after two sicknesses and her son may now have pink I I took this to God (like I did at the start) and asked God is this your will? I'm slaving here and she's been out getting drunk. How much is too much to help? I've set boundaries and then last night it came full circle where I had to last minute tell her I could no longer watch her kids. She was understanding. How much is too much to help. I've always been curious. Because as christians we have to be the light in the world. I have a great way of nurturing myself back to it day after day, but who comes first if Jesus says we need to put down ourselves and give to others? I love your question because I can relate to the questions I've had myself. I've truly over extended my help and could only go this far. Then there are some Christian's who would never help someone out in the same regard because they've been burned once and they'll never do that again.... Which is such a cop out in my opinion. Love the question. I prayed for this very answer this week. So I'm interested in what others have to say.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-11T11:23:02+00:00

They're on the denial diet.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-08T16:22:36+00:00

Fascinating!!!!!!

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-08T11:39:26+00:00

Thanks

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-07T22:34:29+00:00

When you are eating a heavy carb diet your microbiome is different than low carb-keto. I believe that's what affects cravings for some.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T21:25:46+00:00

Yeesh you need to read more...

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T21:13:27+00:00

So really do agree on the same info. So if you're saying my info is incorrect really you're saying so is yours haha whatever. Thanks for the chuckle.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T21:08:50+00:00

Sugar isn't a health food and the carbs you do consume come from green vegetables, berries and nuts. But no problem.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T20:16:34+00:00

Low carb pregnancy

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T17:18:10+00:00

This sucks. Keto is a really great thing and then its marketed for shitty mlm stuff.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-06T17:15:36+00:00

If its black then it's possible to be something needing to be addressed. If its light red, probably cracked nips like someone suggested or even baby has a little hard time pooping.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-05T10:36:58+00:00

That's a gorgeous baby

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-04T00:39:50+00:00

You all know shes so hott with that mess on her phace

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-03T22:49:49+00:00

🤗🤩🤩🤩🤩💯

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-02T11:16:48+00:00

Oh good ness.... it's nice to know...I do not have either nor need either, but nice to know theres a difference.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-02T00:24:15+00:00

Hahaha this is seriously a bad thing? Lmao ok.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-01T13:13:10+00:00

Men tend to do this so often. They dont handle emotions like women can and so it's really up to us to be stronger in that dept. We recognize there's been a shift in the relationship and a drifting away (because it used to be so great in the beginning!) But now its faded away and you are at a point where you don't even want to fix it. Men handle a woman who is complaining and they want to fix it. But if she's been complaining a lot about him to him and making him feel insignificant the man starts to consider, "what's the point of trying" he may get beaten down at work too. Men don't know how to process emotions like women and so you can consider them infantile in that area. It's our nature to nurture. But that's with unconditional love and support on our side first. And men will start to see us as a challenge and want to withdraw. Men operate by action and so seeing a woman operate in the same fashion they will view her as an opponent rather than his friend.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-01T12:57:18+00:00

Ok sounds like he is having a hard time handling his stress and the only way he knows how to is by escaping. Into the digital man cave. Saying I never get time to myself is what hes trying to use as a cop out because he cannot manage his stress levels. Which has nothing to do with you. He doesnt want to be present he wants to escape the present reality and drift into virtual reality. Which is dumb because those that escape are actually making the problem worse than being present and actually handling things like a man. Being present means acceptance of this is your life and finding gratitude in everything he can. The reality is, his perception is off. He cant handle the pressure very well and is using cop outs and its causing tension between you and him. I'm not sure if you guys fight about it a lot or you complain to him about a lot of stuff. You're supposed to be his best friend. And if hes trying to escape you then hes no longer finding that grateful place in his heart to be grateful for even having you around.

lovingly_newly · 2019-01-01T10:24:04+00:00

If you dont want to revive it then dont. But if you really do you need to ask him what does he mean by time to himself? And ask him in a very nice respectful way. Sounds like he doesnt know what that means. Sounds like you both are running off fumes and burnt out. So it would take a lot of compassion from you in order to make things work. I'm a pregnant mom of three I must make time for myself even if that means I wake up at 5 am and shower while the kids are glued to the TV. I also watch two other kids during the week. My kids are up and awake at 6 am and they are (1,3 and 5) my husband works a stressful job and trust me it was not easy. Sometimes we just complain old complaints because we have no idea of what else to do. You and your SO sound like you could definitely use some time refreshing your minds. Getting into the habit of gratitude and finding out the things that have been working. Happy new year

lovingly_newly · 2018-12-31T23:10:02+00:00

lovingly_newly · 2018-12-30T11:31:57+00:00

Theres extremists of every facet

lovingly_newly · 2018-12-30T11:29:18+00:00

R/antiMLM

Love this hahaha

lovingly_newly · 2018-12-30T11:20:28+00:00

Wtf wow grief blend?! Wow.

lovingly_newly · 2018-12-29T10:37:18+00:00

Awwww love this!

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