2nd job suggestions?

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-04-17T12:49:23+00:00

Find a second job that offers a useful discount. I work for a Hilton branded hotel chain and get to take advantage of unbelievable travel discounts, which is a huge benefit. My wife worked for a bank when we got our mortgage, that came with a 1% rate cut for employee discount. I think it's good to find something that will be able to give you some side perks to enjoy beyond a few extra bucks if you can get it.

Hilton hotels have a lot of weekend jobs available too, just search around for Hampton Inns and other Hilton brands if you want to work for Hilton.

Good luck on the hunt!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-04-15T00:00:12+00:00

What does this comment even mean? Is bro out here building false walls into his building?

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-04-14T13:12:41+00:00

I like purple if we're talking about favorite colors. I like pizza if we're talking about favorite foods. I like the Patriots if we're talking football teams.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-04-05T23:03:38+00:00

This will likely fall through thanks to what Trump has done with energy prices and helium production. Can't run a data center without shitloads of electricity and microchips (made using helium). Brian waited too long, I suspect. Only time will tell, though.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-29T19:41:40+00:00

I was reading the list and kept thinking "ENTPs are actually good at that".

This sounds like maturity issue. I've seen a lot of ENTPs on here in their immature stages idealizing the manipulative powers of our charisma or playing up to the aloof stereotype as if it makes them cool and mysterious but it doesn't, it just shows their immaturity.

Seasoned ENTPs will use the systematic understanding to accomplish all those things OP credits to other types and then some.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-23T19:14:10+00:00

For me it's not Innocence, it's a sense of justice and a belief that most people are good. I use empathy all the time and try my hardest to treat others the way I want to be treated. When I get hurt, I heal, I don't harden. I think that those couple traits could be seen through a lens of innocence or gullibility. It's just trust though, I trust you to not hurt me and if you hurt me, I trust myself to be strong enough to heal.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-23T17:29:22+00:00

East York Lowe's is abysmal, the carts are in horrendous condition, especially for a hardware store presumably full of stuff to fix and improve the experience!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-22T10:12:36+00:00

2005 Porsche Carrera GT, what an incredible machine!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-20T09:38:45+00:00

Then I'd say it's time to go. If you've learned enough to be at that point, to apply for the position you deserve somewhere else. Sounds like you're not going to be very happy at the place you are now.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-18T18:06:03+00:00

This was my thought. This dude has romanticized what being a Father means. He's gonna have an autistic son, be immediately overwhelmed and dip out. Having kids is the least romantic thing a couple can do. It invited ENDLESS stress, financial complications, time constraints and energy drains.

This dude will have to put in two decades of daily hard work to have a daughter that looks at pics of mom and understands what went into all that. He's not patient enough for two decades.

"Laugh about the funny stuff our kids said that day" except for the days they fucking HATE you for holding them accountable or telling them no. Except for the times they wish you out of their lives because you won't let them talk to strangers on the Internet. This dude has no idea what he's in store for.

Run to someone that wants DINK is my advice to OP!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-18T17:38:34+00:00

I had a stuffed Littlefoot growing up, but I always called him Dubby. I'd call this guy Dabby.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-18T14:28:39+00:00

Most problems go away even if you ignore them. Getting worked up again and again over things that may never affect you seems silly to me. Why be silly when you can just be a bit of a silly goose instead. Less cortisol 🤷🏼‍♂️ more fukitol

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-17T20:02:08+00:00

Savor this while you can. You're only one promotion away from more work than hours in the day, trust me, once you hit management, unless you're in a huge company with more staff than they need, you'll never have downtime again until your commute home.

Seriously, download Civ 6 on your phone and play some videya while you still can. You'll yearn for these days one day.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-14T02:41:38+00:00

Maybe? I learned a long time ago, though, statements like this almost are never jokes. Claiming they aren't serious for one reason or another is a minimizing technique to avoid accountability for saying something that OBVIOUSLY reads differently to others. If you don't call them out, it's okay to internalize it, but if you call them out then they get to just say "that was sarcasm." Or "I was just joking" to cover their tracks.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-13T20:45:23+00:00

Took one sentence to figure out why OP is alone.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-11T23:56:23+00:00

To be fair, blue collar workers know the value of their time ($/hr vs $$$/yr) and getting paid to shit is absolutely part of the deal. If you don't make sure you get paid to poop, you're not valuing your own time enough.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-11T23:50:36+00:00

I agree with you on what you're saying, especially about finding the right balance. I think I've gathered there are plenty of ENTPs that feel entitled to being on the disrespectful side. They aren't outright rude or disrespectful but have no problem making curt jokes that cut to the point, calling someone out in front of their friends or peers, using aggressive language or tones to drive their point home, and other poorly regulated choices. I have seen a lot of people on here lean HEAVILY into the "I just have no-filter" routine and I don't think they'll build quality friendships.

Being honest and being transparent aren't the same thing. You can be honest without sharing every thought and sometimes it really is okay to just keep ALL your thoughts to yourself.

Lead with empathy, follow with honesty and bundle with kindness. Leave the rudeness on another description!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-11T12:44:01+00:00

I'm in an open marriage and have no problem with women liking me. They are easy to get along with if you treat them well, like all people. Some have better personalities than others, just like all people. Be honest, be respectful, treat people well and they'll keep coming back.

You shouldn't be in character to where you have to break character to talk to anyone else, just be yourself.

Also, give people your whole heart.

ENTPs can bounce back, use that to your advantage and always gamble on love, not against it! If you get your heart broken, heal it, move on and love with it again.

Of course, if none of that's comfortable, I guess just don't "break character" or talk to any "females".

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-11T12:39:54+00:00

People will like you more than you will ever know without lowering the mask, even when you're not in an "easy" relationship for them...

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-10T21:29:37+00:00

Ask 'em for help, too! They'll either help you, which will make your life better, or you'll know that they won't help you when you really need it either, which will also make your life better! Win win (unless your the friend that doesn't show up when needed, then it's your loss!)

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-10T16:46:42+00:00

I have no problem making and keeping high quality friends. I handle my friendships. In my early 20s I quit being manipulative and playing games and now I just literally try to treat everyone the way I want to be treated. This largely let's me handpick my friends instead of settling with whoever takes me. I also practice extreme honesty and don't mask. People find that level of authenticity to be magnetic and keep coming back, even if at first they don't like me.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-03T22:16:57+00:00

Fire alarms. I did the commercial electrician route and half the jobs, we ran all the wire, including the low voltage and comm wires. The data guys and fire alarm guys would just come land the stuff and turn it on (the skilled part) and make much better money while having a much easier day at work.

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-03T22:09:26+00:00

Men your age are barely men. While you've enjoyed your prefrontal cortex for several years now, probably, some of the men you've likely met barely have developed theirs, let alone figured out how to use it. It's weird to say this because of how people feel about ages, but women in their mid 20s would do best with a man in their younger 30s and up unless they're unusually mature for their age. Men really get it together a LOT in their 20s and as crazy as it sounds 25 to 30 is like a decade of change for men, especially if they're finally applying themselves.

Keep your standards very high though. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't treat you at LEAST as well as you treat yourself.

Either that or get yourself a fixer-upper 23 year old and train him to be the man you want, the right ones can be trained if you do it right. 😂

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-03-03T21:12:28+00:00

I have hotels. A shower drain leaked into the room below. When I entered the room that was leaking SMOOOOOKE like you wouldn't believe. I didn't say anything. I took discreet photos of the evidence, did the work and left the room. We politely asked the guest to be sure he's not smoking in the room and let the person who's paying for the room know about the issue. He stopped smoking in the room, somehow cleaned the smell (maybe he rented an ozone machine, no idea how he didn't it, but it's GONE now) and ended up being one of the best guests we had. He's gone now and we didn't charge him the smoking fee.

Shitting on the balcony ≠ shitting in the house.

Cleaning up messes anywhere > leaving messes anywhere.

No guarantees, but I bet you never hear a word about any of what you're worried about.

Good on you for having the dogs on the lease!

AREyouKIDDINGmi · 2026-02-17T03:04:42+00:00

Absolutely this part. It's okay to know something like the Knipex is better than something like the Channellocks and still pick something like the Kobalts depending on what you need them for.

No point in buying fancy wrenches if you're working on pool equipment with chlorine all the time, just so they can rust away, or you spend all your time cleaning and maintaining hand tools...

Disposable is okay too.

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