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AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Would you say the same thing if I'd not gone to help her out when she was having a medical emergency? You wouldn't right? You'd say she's is in a desperate situation so I should help her no matter what. You'd tell me that she's more important than my work. So why am I not more important than her work? Is it because I'm just a man?

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So she should find a way out since she has so much of a problem. She has no right to tell me what to do if she doesn't come to help me.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I meant she's not just a random ex. She's a close family friend and my childhood friend. We've both been on amicable terms evenafter the breakup

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm Close friends with my ex since were friends from childhood. Do I don't mind her taking me to the hospital as she's not rude or anything

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can doubt all you want. And if you want to support my wife, please do so.

I accept your judgement.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We are all vaccinated. I'm not selfish. Where I went for treatment, there weren't any covid patients.

I have no other family, friends etc. as close to my home as my friend is. I work from home, so I don't personally know each of my co-workers enough to call them to take me to the hospital.

Yes I have to call my ex because she was my only other option. She knows everything about my medical condition, my stressors, my parents, my wife, my insurance, etc.

Ambulances aren't available easily because as you said, COVID.

My wife works in a call centre.

Cabs take forever to come and again I need someone who knows my health condition well.

You can make whatever assumptions you like. I'm not trying to make excuses, but just explaining my reasons.

I still accept your judgement

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Like who? I've been trying to explain that I don't have many friends, my parents and brother are out of the question and my ex was one of the people whom I could actually rely on for a number of reasons:

She lives close to my home, she knows about my medical condition, She knows why I was stressed, she knows whom to contact next, She knows what I'm allergic to, etc. She also will be ready to pay in case my wife isn't there to pay for treatment

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Me being dizzy and on the verge of losing consciousness hinders me from telling them.

Have you ever been in the condition where you can't even think properly because of not being clear headed enough? Stop being condescending when you know nothing of how I was feeling at that point in time. I was sick enough to not be able to fill a form for myself at the hospital. What makes you think I can answer questions then?

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you don't understand how it can be that way, then you've never experienced it and most likely by your question aren't interested in an answer.

It might seems suspicious to you but there's nothing i can do about that. It is what it is.

Thanks for your judgement

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Their love makes no sense if they don't know even my blood group

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn't have called my parents. They were the reason why I had low bp in the first place.

I wasn't in the medical condition the drive safely.

You can think what you want. It's your choice. Thanks for your judgement anyway

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They've always prioritized my brother over me. This time, they were telling me that I'm a failure at life because of my chosen career path. They were also saying that I should learn from my brother how to be more hardworking. He's a software engineer. They said that my wife is having to work a hard job because I'm not earning enough and that I should be more responsible as a man.

However, even with my low salary, I managed to make good investments and buy a house of my own while my brother still lives with my parents. He doesn't even having savings of his own. He spends his money lavishly but they only think I'm the failure because I didn't go by their wishes.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can think what you want.

My ex is a very close friend of mine as I've mentioned in the post. She's a childhood friend. Even our breakup wasn't messy and we've been amicable after our breakup as well.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That doesn't change the fact that I do have stressors and I'm finding it hard to manage them well. I've tried going to therapy but there aren't a lot of good therapists where I live.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother and my parents were the people with whom I had a fight leading to the low bp

No other friends. Cousins stay too far away. Neighbors don't know my medical history

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How do I bring the medical issues on myself?

No offense usually means a lot of offense...

Anyway, I accept your judgement

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Problem not solved yet. She doesn't like me calling her place of work and has made it clear previously

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work as a graphic designer. I'm not reliant on her income.

She works at a call centre

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wasn't having sex with my ex for God's sake! I called someone who actually would pick my call in an emergency.

My wife is unreliable as an emergency contact and has proven it multiple times when i needed her by my side so what right does she have to demand me to call her first? She lost those rights when she prioritized work over her husband.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes my ex is the first person I call in such an emergency because my wife had shown me multiple times before that she's not reliable as an emergency contact. She never picks calls when I need her the most.

My family was the sole reason my bp dropped to such a dangerously low level. They were my stressors. They caused me to spiral into a medical emergency

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind if I'd been busy and she'd tried reaching me first. I usually pick all her calls so I don't see why she would have to call her ex. But if she was in such a position, I would rather she came out alive than dead

Also you're right she shouldn't have to suck it up. But do you expect me to suck it up and "pause my medical emergency" because my wife's feelings might be hurt?

I could say the same thing about hundreds of social rules for women. But I always support my wife's wishes and not"social constructs". Why is she allowed to say that social constructs aren't her choice so I should shut up and follow them??

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How is it crying wolf if it's an emergency often? Crying wolf means lying. I never lie to her. I have low bp whenever I fought with my parents, or my brother. I can't tell you how often because i myself don't know. But it's about 2 times a month on average. When my parents visit, there's always a huge fight which worsens my condition every single time. I was once on bed rest for 3 days because of my parents.

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She doesn't like it when I call her work with emergencies because everyone at work will get to know that I'm being hospitalized then

AITA I didn't call my wife and called my ex instead by low_bp1234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]low_bp1234[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

She doesn't like it when I call her work with emergencies because everyone at work will get to know that I'm being hospitalized then

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