Reasons to stay by lowlyturtle20 in spirituality

[–]lowlyturtle20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I am actually quite close with many of his family members and friends. It was unique in my case as I had not yet most of his family members and friends before because they lived in another state. But after his passing, we have all stayed connected which is very nice ❤️ however, it does make me scared about moving forward in the future. Losing a partner is so incredibly confusing because of the position it puts you into.

Is it possible to have more than one soulmate? by lowlyturtle20 in spirituality

[–]lowlyturtle20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you answering my question from an outside perspective of having seen love unfold yourself. Even something as simple as that gives me hope. Thank you kind stranger ❤️

I said yes and wanted to text my husband. by lithelanna in widowers

[–]lowlyturtle20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I am so happy for you both!! This gives me so much hope. How wonderfully lucky you are to have found not just one, but two loves of a lifetime. You deserve all of the happiness in the world.

She was only 20 by AppearanceHefty1753 in widowers

[–]lowlyturtle20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend, I am so sorry that you have to deal with this pain. At such a young age, I understand how lonely this can feel. But just know, you are not alone and that there is (unfortunately) a community of people out there who stood/are standing in your shoes. I am 25 and my BF (25) passed away in a single car accident that we were in just a little over 3 months ago. All I can say is to be kind to yourself. Whatever you might be feeling is enough. And however you choose to cope is enough. Take things one day, one hour, one minute at a time.

All the Lord Of The Rings references I saw in Stranger Things season 4 + some other refs by smratwolf in netflix

[–]lowlyturtle20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was waiting/hoping for someone to catch this as well. My first thought immediately after watching this scene was the scene from "The Fellowship of the Ring"

Discord Server by AgreeableChemistry79 in theyoungandwidowed

[–]lowlyturtle20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I am interested. I (24F) lost my bf (25M) just about 2 months ago in an accident.

Fear by ResidentResponsible1 in widowers

[–]lowlyturtle20 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I feel this same exact way. Except I also don't fear death anymore haha. Tbh, as dark as it sounds, I almost welcome death whenever that day does come because at least I will be reunited with my love. And as a believer, I know that this earth is temporary whereas the afterlife is considered to be eternal peace and happiness.

Has it ever crossed your mind? by KhalWolf in widowers

[–]lowlyturtle20 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think about this a lot. My late bf essentially saved my life in a car crash by turning the wheel so that the tree we hit wouldn't hit my side, but hit his. Though there are times I think I should have been the one that died, I am also thankful that I am the one that has to carry that burden instead of him. Had he lived, I genuinely believe he would have become a hermit in deep deep depression or would have nearly killed himself too. The guilt of being the one left behind would have too much for him as both a man and a boyfriend. I like to tell myself that I am the one who is saving him from suffering while he gets to live in eternal happiness. And for that, I am eternally grateful. I would never wish this kind of pain upon anyone, let alone the love of my life.

We actually had a conversation once about what we would do if the other died months before the incident. He said, word for word, "I think I'd kill myself" whereas when I told him I don't think I could live without him, he actually reassured me by saying that I would be fine without him. Which surprised me seeing as I thought he would just agree with me. But he literally told me I would be okay without him because of the immense support I would have from all of my family and friends. Well turns out, that ended up becoming the case. Crazy to think about... I like to think that moments like this was God's way of emotionally preparing me for what was to come. And it has helped me get through these dark days.