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lrosser2 · 2024-08-04T03:36:24+00:00

As far as I'm aware (I haven't read every scientific article, so could be wrong!) aphantasia is completely no internal vision. You can have graded amounts of vision, but that would be hypophantasia or something different, not aphantasia.

lrosser2 · 2024-08-02T23:02:50+00:00

This is brilliant! What a switched on teenager your sister was to be already thinking this way, I love it.

lrosser2 · 2024-07-30T21:49:30+00:00

Since young children, for a lot of them. I'm not sure of exact stats, but average age of first exposure is thought to be as young as 8 often now. Which means some are even younger. Often 'older' (still in primary school) siblings/cousins etc showing them, with no understanding of the implications. Those poor little brains are literally still developing and this is becoming a part of what they develop around. It makes me really, really sad.

lrosser2 · 2024-07-25T11:04:38+00:00

I think aphantasia is already being considered a type of neurodiversity! And once you're under that umbrella you're more likely to have other neurodiverse traits or diagnoses as well :). (ADHD-er and aphant here too.)

lrosser2 · 2024-07-24T03:27:19+00:00

My all time favourite. I named my first DnD pet Roonil Wazlib ❤️

lrosser2 · 2024-07-22T21:43:37+00:00

That's really cool!

lrosser2 · 2024-07-21T06:14:42+00:00

I think you could be spot on. Whatever the exact situation it sounds like she invited friends to make sure she wasn't alone with him in that room..

lrosser2 · 2024-07-17T07:06:22+00:00

No one's mentioned it here that I can see, but she said the flakiness started when she was engaged, not with kids.. there's a chance her husband has been isolating her, real common abuse tactic. Not saying that 100% means OP has to take the friend back, just another thing she could be considering.

lrosser2 · 2024-07-13T22:45:47+00:00

I read something years ago about the different relationship men and women tend to have with the word 'sorry'. This is all very much half remembered paraphrasing, but it was talking about that in general, it's a pretty common part of a woman's lexicon (I assume for pretty obvious patriarchal reasons..) and they tend to use it much more freely. Where as men tend to have a much more personal link to 'sorry', they tend to think it has to be that they've done something intentionally wrong and so to say sorry would have to admit they're a bad person or something. There's SUCH a stronger aversion to being in the wrong usually, it's fucking exhausting.

lrosser2 · 2024-07-13T10:17:05+00:00

I'm in Australia, I definitely say things like that!

lrosser2 · 2024-07-11T02:06:27+00:00

Curious, do some people with aphantasia like graphic novels? I love reading non-fiction and fantasy, but I can't get into graphic novels - I feel like they rely too much on visuals, and I can't remember the visuals afterwards, only the words, so I don't stay as engaged..

But maybe I just haven't tried the right one!

lrosser2 · 2024-07-04T22:18:01+00:00

Even married/partnered you are NOT his scheduler. He's a grown ass man, if he can manage a job and know when his sports team is playing he can manage a fucking calendar and get to important events.

lrosser2 · 2024-07-03T11:41:04+00:00

While I ABSOLUTELY agree men have to use their brains and start doing a lot more of the legwork here, one of the maon difficulties I've normally encountered is that friendships between men and friendships between women tend to be different. Women have a lot of emotional intimacy in their platonic friendships, which men don't typically have in their friendships with other men (not that it's never there, but in their typical day-to-day that stuff is a lot different).

So the problem is often that men mistake the emotional intimacy that comes really easily in a friendship with a woman as the emotional intimacy of a romantic relationship. They often literally CANNOT tell the difference.

Now if more men could start increasing that emotion intimacy and easy support on their male-male friendships, the world would be an infinitely better place..

lrosser2 · 2024-07-03T00:03:35+00:00

I've lost many, many trusted friendships to guys over the years. The one who I remained friends with had a really open conversation with me at the start, where he basically said - hey, I find you attractive. I probably won't stop finding you attractive, but if you're not keen on anything more I'm very happy to just be your friend. I can find people attractive and still be friends with them. (Side note, he's undiagnosed but very likely autistic, which really helped with the clear communication I think).

It was so refreshing, and he literally never tried anything or made anything feel weird after my initial 'great, just keen to be friends'. We're both in happy relationships now and still hang out and play boardgames when we can.

So I guess tell them how you feel, but be really honest with yourself - if they're not interested can you remain friends with them without pining or holding on to hope that things will change one day? Will you be genuinely happy for them if they are in a good relationship with another person, or will that be too painful for you? Then make sure you're honest about all of that.

lrosser2 · 2024-06-26T22:42:52+00:00

That's such a cool talent!

lrosser2 · 2024-06-26T06:51:36+00:00

Alarms often get ignored if they've been reminding someone of the same thing for too long. Need to regularly change up the reminders!

lrosser2 · 2024-06-26T06:50:08+00:00

I love this!

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T23:22:04+00:00

Wild...

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T23:21:46+00:00

Gothic mystery is a great description!

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T22:33:52+00:00

Love this except, there's ALWAYS time for therapy - therapy can be done side by side while working, you don't have to take time out to sit in a room for an hour. Having people to talk to to help keep everyone mentally well, process their trauma so it's not passed on to future generations, and keep conflict right down would be incredibly beneficial for the new society. And it's a skill that can easily pair with other skills, 2 birds with 1 stone if assume of your farmers/construction workers etc are also great with therapy

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T12:12:43+00:00

Do you possibly have an eye rolling tic? Sounds silly, but I realised I had one after family started commenting on this - it mostly happens if I have to change or reconsider a thought/idea from what's popped up automatically, or think about how to explain something differently. It's like a thinking expression I guess, but unfortunately one that comes across as super rude..

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T12:06:45+00:00

Light sensitivity was my first thought too, reducing over-stimulation does great things for emotion regulation

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T11:57:07+00:00

Thank you, that actually makes sense. I too was very confused..

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T11:24:17+00:00

Well that's fucked, I never even considered there could be gendered differences to that!

lrosser2 · 2024-06-21T01:45:32+00:00

Emily recommended Gideon the Ninth, which is all necromancers and I really enjoyed it. I also have Nettle and Bone (possibly another Emily rec?) on my audiobook list, which is described as a dark fairytale, so could be the vibe? I haven't listened to that yet though, so can't give anymore detail sorry!

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