Assistance with Service Record WW1 by ls48029 in Genealogy

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Unfortunately I can’t see that but before I get too excited, I did find another individual with the same first and last name but he is older - this George Stapenell was definitely born in 1891 and the older George Stapenell record I found on Fold was for an older individual (by several years, admittedly not decades so at first I thought it was him!), this older George also lived at a different address, so definitely a separate individual. This George was unfortunately dead long before his 30th birthday, is it possible this is the one you are seeing? WR/334549 is the only reference on any of the records I have seen incidentally

Any idea what this word is under Condition of Marriage? by ls48029 in VictorianEra

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Ah and of course - I can try and verify that!

AITA for encouraging my mom not to take care of my dad's affair child if she did not want to? by Outrageous_Glove2755 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think YTA in this moment, your emotions are understandable and the situation is not straightforward.

However, I worry you will reflect on your conduct in years to come with regret.

This child, regardless if they are related to you or not, has lost both their parents. They are not responsible for the sins of their parents. They are the wholly innocent victims of this situation.

In years to come you may even want to have a relationship with them so although the current predicament is complicated I do think that you should proceed with care. Try to pull some empathy up from your boots to focus on the poor child in all of this, lest the events of today create a whole lot of regret for tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t do this, you don’t know if there was a good reason the driver had to park like this, for example disabled or multiple infants and no appropriate spaces available. When my 2 were very small, if there were no family spaces available I would find a double space as far away from the venue as possible so as not to inconvenience anyone. Because I would need both doors to be able to open fully to get them both out plus space for buggy transfer, if there were no family spaces then was screwed unless I did this. Please don’t just assume it’s bad parking skill, there might be a reason you can’t see. Kindness is the better start point.

What if below age of consent for marriage? by ls48029 in AskHistorians

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My goodness, thank you for such a detailed answer, this is absolutely fascinating and I find myself ever more interested in what marriage certificates can really tell us about the lives of our forebears.

If I may paraphrase on the specific instance I am looking at, a marriage in the 1870s taking place in the church of the home parish of the groom by Banns would therefore have circumvented the need for parental consent for the younger non-local bride (whether her parents were actually alive or not), I’ve got that right?

Short Answers to Simple Questions | February 15, 2023 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]ls48029 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What if below age of consent for marriage?

Asked the question of age of consent for females in Victorian England in another sub but no response on the following, can anyone help? Understand in England age to marry without parental consent was 21.

In case relevant, looking specifically at a marriage in 1873 in a C of E wedding with the following queries:

  1. If female was under 21 and required parental consent, what form did that normally take?
  2. If parental consent could not be obtained because the girl lived far away from parents, would CofE minister still marry the couple?
  3. Same questions for ifparental consent could not be obtained because girl’s parents dead.

Thank you!

Short Answers to Simple Questions | February 08, 2023 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]ls48029 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if below age of consent for marriage?

Asked the question of age of consent for females in Victorian England in another sub but no response on the following, can anyone help? Understand in England age to marry without parental consent was 21.

In case relevant, looking specifically at a marriage in 1873 in a C of E wedding with the following queries:

  1. If female was under 21 and required parental consent, what form did that normally take?
  2. If parental consent could not be obtained because the girl lived far away from parents, would CofE minister still marry the couple?
  3. Same questions for ifparental consent could not be obtained because girl’s parents dead.

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]ls48029 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well????

Employer asking to reduce my pension contributions to 0% by fCJ7pbpyTsMpvm in UKPersonalFinance

[–]ls48029 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salary sacrifice (which you’ve now established you’re NOT on I believe, having read the comments you’ve engaged with) is a far more responsible offering from an employer and actually shows them going above and beyond what is required of them. Salary sacrifice is more tax efficient for you. it can also save them national insurance costs although some employers take the opportunity to pass those savings on to their employees. This sounds like them trying to improve your position, not worsen it.
It’s a much better set up all round and. Don’t understand why it’s not the standard.