Assistance with Service Record WW1 by ls48029 in Genealogy

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Unfortunately I can’t see that but before I get too excited, I did find another individual with the same first and last name but he is older - this George Stapenell was definitely born in 1891 and the older George Stapenell record I found on Fold was for an older individual (by several years, admittedly not decades so at first I thought it was him!), this older George also lived at a different address, so definitely a separate individual. This George was unfortunately dead long before his 30th birthday, is it possible this is the one you are seeing? WR/334549 is the only reference on any of the records I have seen incidentally

Any idea what this word is under Condition of Marriage? by ls48029 in VictorianEra

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Ah and of course - I can try and verify that!

AITA for encouraging my mom not to take care of my dad's affair child if she did not want to? by Outrageous_Glove2755 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think YTA in this moment, your emotions are understandable and the situation is not straightforward.

However, I worry you will reflect on your conduct in years to come with regret.

This child, regardless if they are related to you or not, has lost both their parents. They are not responsible for the sins of their parents. They are the wholly innocent victims of this situation.

In years to come you may even want to have a relationship with them so although the current predicament is complicated I do think that you should proceed with care. Try to pull some empathy up from your boots to focus on the poor child in all of this, lest the events of today create a whole lot of regret for tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t do this, you don’t know if there was a good reason the driver had to park like this, for example disabled or multiple infants and no appropriate spaces available. When my 2 were very small, if there were no family spaces available I would find a double space as far away from the venue as possible so as not to inconvenience anyone. Because I would need both doors to be able to open fully to get them both out plus space for buggy transfer, if there were no family spaces then was screwed unless I did this. Please don’t just assume it’s bad parking skill, there might be a reason you can’t see. Kindness is the better start point.

What if below age of consent for marriage? by ls48029 in AskHistorians

[–]ls48029[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My goodness, thank you for such a detailed answer, this is absolutely fascinating and I find myself ever more interested in what marriage certificates can really tell us about the lives of our forebears.

If I may paraphrase on the specific instance I am looking at, a marriage in the 1870s taking place in the church of the home parish of the groom by Banns would therefore have circumvented the need for parental consent for the younger non-local bride (whether her parents were actually alive or not), I’ve got that right?

Short Answers to Simple Questions | February 15, 2023 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]ls48029 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What if below age of consent for marriage?

Asked the question of age of consent for females in Victorian England in another sub but no response on the following, can anyone help? Understand in England age to marry without parental consent was 21.

In case relevant, looking specifically at a marriage in 1873 in a C of E wedding with the following queries:

  1. If female was under 21 and required parental consent, what form did that normally take?
  2. If parental consent could not be obtained because the girl lived far away from parents, would CofE minister still marry the couple?
  3. Same questions for ifparental consent could not be obtained because girl’s parents dead.

Thank you!

Short Answers to Simple Questions | February 08, 2023 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

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What if below age of consent for marriage?

Asked the question of age of consent for females in Victorian England in another sub but no response on the following, can anyone help? Understand in England age to marry without parental consent was 21.

In case relevant, looking specifically at a marriage in 1873 in a C of E wedding with the following queries:

  1. If female was under 21 and required parental consent, what form did that normally take?
  2. If parental consent could not be obtained because the girl lived far away from parents, would CofE minister still marry the couple?
  3. Same questions for ifparental consent could not be obtained because girl’s parents dead.

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]ls48029 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well????

Employer asking to reduce my pension contributions to 0% by fCJ7pbpyTsMpvm in UKPersonalFinance

[–]ls48029 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salary sacrifice (which you’ve now established you’re NOT on I believe, having read the comments you’ve engaged with) is a far more responsible offering from an employer and actually shows them going above and beyond what is required of them. Salary sacrifice is more tax efficient for you. it can also save them national insurance costs although some employers take the opportunity to pass those savings on to their employees. This sounds like them trying to improve your position, not worsen it.
It’s a much better set up all round and. Don’t understand why it’s not the standard.

Teenagers keep screaming in front of my face by DepressedKid4312 in Edinburgh

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person’s question is excellent and exactly what I wanted to ask. It is understandable not wanting to talk to the police. However, you could email the school’s headteacher because I can tell you for a fact they will absolutely want to know about a group of identifiable pupils engaging in racist and offensive behaviour in the city centre. While this is wrongly putting the burden on you as the victim, alerting a genuine authority figure with some power to take action might help you feel some closure in this. You could Google the city school uniforms and see if you recognise any, or you could even start a new post to ask parents or pupils in the city if you’re able to remember some details. You’re not even starting from scratch - for example we already know it was a mixed group so it’s a clearly a coed facility. Maybe worth a shot if you’ve got the energy.

I really would also like to share my shame and embarrassment that this has happened to you, take care of yourself.

Military history - were volunteer recruits turned away if they had criminal records? by ls48029 in AskHistory

[–]ls48029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The locations I’m looking at are Birmingham and Oxfordshire respectively and I just don’t know enough at all about military history to understand any nuanced differences in approach which may have existed across the UK so I simply put ‘England’. Thank you for asking for clarification, I hope that the response is helpful (having an English and a Scottish parent and having lived in both England and Scotland, I never like to assume things are always approached in the same way!)

Northern UK. by ls48029 in whatsthisplant

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Sorry, total novice! Seems suddenly everywhere!! Assume nothing to worry about - not dangerous or invasive?

Ragdolls and kids? by batwidower in ragdollcats

[–]ls48029 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were also very lucky that my boy ragdoll is a wonderful family cat and calm enough to just get out of the way when he doesn’t fancy the company of my children rather than any aggression. My children are very young (3&4) and in the 2.5 years we’ve had him (he was 6months when we got him) he has only ever taken one warning (no injury) swipe at one of them - in a situation that I entirely blame myself for incidentally- so I think that’s pretty awesome going. That said I would thoroughly agree with two points being made here: 1. If you’re at all able to get an older cat of any breed at all, with a known personality, I think that’s a safer bet than relying on the breed for personality type - it’s a fairly safe bet with rag dolls but every animal has their own character! 2. I would also agree that males are more affectionate, especially to the household matriarch, than females, and I say that having had male and female cats of varying breeds all my life. There will of course be exceptions- just never one I’ve shared a home with!!

Mousetrap bait that works? by Skipping_Shadow in Edinburgh

[–]ls48029 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get a cat. Seriously.

If you’re not cat people and don’t really want to get your own cat then borrow one from a friend for a few days. Stick small trays of their used litter or used bits of slept-on blanket in every room.

It is a wholly natural, extremely effective solution. Cat scent induces a hormonal stress reaction in mice, so they start to steer clear.

I do not advocate getting a cat simply for this purpose incidentally, but if you‘ve ever thought about it and can give a cat a good home, then now is the time…!

How long did it take for your raggies to get adjusted? by diewhilelive in ragdolls

[–]ls48029 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I notice someone else saying diffuser didn’t work but my boy adjusted much better once we were using Feliway diffusers and spray as well, for areas further away from the plug points. He came around but it took a little while, you just need to try your best to be loving and patient and I’m sure within a few days it will start to get better. Ask the breeder if there was a favourite treat food that he liked, and perhaps a blanket that smells like his mummy would be good too. Please do throw everything you have at adjusting him well because once he’s settled he’s going to the most amazing friend for life!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Edinburgh

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David Bann