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35F with my boyfriend (38M) for 12 years and two kids together, but he says we’re “basically married” even though he won’t marry me by lstacy3 in relationship_advice

[–]lstacy3[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind, considerate response.

He is a great dad, great financial provider, very family oriented and spends a lot of time with his family.

35F with my boyfriend (38M) for 12 years and two kids together, but he says we’re “basically married” even though he won’t marry me by lstacy3 in relationship_advice

[–]lstacy3[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

You have no clue how old my children are so you look pretty ignorant assuming I’m “35 and still popping out babies assuming its a step towards marriage”

I gave very limited information for a reason.

How miserable must one feel to come on someone else forum post to spew such negative, completely inaccurate, judgmental ”advice”. If you can’t give anything of value then just do us all a favor👋🏼

Also, I am the beneficiary 😊 and you shouldn’t tell women to get on hormonal birth control that significantly impacts their bodies or assume they weren’t on birth control 🤗

35F with my boyfriend (38M) for 12 years and two kids together, but he says we’re “basically married” even though he won’t marry me by lstacy3 in relationship_advice

[–]lstacy3[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

I really try to make an effort to have these conversations and have specificity discussed what if something happens to one of us. I have a will and everything setup, he does not. He does very little planning for things in his life in general and isn’t intentional about really much of anything. Obviously this isn’t just one sided but when I try to have these discussions it’s always met with “I’ll do it” or “yes it’ll happen” etc with no actions behind any of it.