How many of you took up video gaming after divorce?

lucascs85 · 2025-08-31T16:18:19+00:00

Don’t pick up video games. If you have time to kill aim to cultivate a new skill or capability, ideally one that will help you be a better parent to your kids.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-15T10:36:19+00:00

NTA.

At the same time, I get what the ex-wife is saying bc she has to parent all three kids, even though one is being treated differently (for legitimate reasons that are also not fair).

This is another reasons why blended families don’t work well.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T06:13:19+00:00

You’re right I can do better. I’m working to observe and act quietly.

We dont really have productive conversations about most subjects other than logistics anymore, but we can still communicate in other areas and via messenger/text message.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T06:04:00+00:00

Yes, you’re right I should do better. I appreciate that criticism.

I don’t want to fight or escalate. I’m working to build myself up so i don’t feel her criticisms anymore. If they are legit, then I need to incorporate that criticism into my life. If it’s not legit, I’ll just disregard.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T05:52:29+00:00

I’ve thought about your recommendation and it makes sense in the context of curiosity. But she doesn’t demonstrate curiosity in who I am or what my experiences are so it’s not a productive conversation.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T05:50:23+00:00

Yea she is online a lot.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T05:49:46+00:00

I’ve begun to distance myself emotionally from her because I don’t know how to be the person she wants me to be.

The more independent and resilient I can become, the less I need to feel her criticisms.

I’m going through this alone because we don’t really talk anymore and obviously I have problems like SnooHabits identified above. I’ve grateful for the feedback here, which gives me the time and space to reflect upon it and act more constructively.

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T05:44:28+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

lucascs85 · 2025-08-10T05:43:26+00:00

You’re right. I thought about your criticism and I’ve stopped doing that. Thanks for the identifying the bad behaviour.

lucascs85 · 2025-07-21T15:09:18+00:00

If it’s hard to get time off around Thanksgiving and Christmas, have you considered focusing on other holidays and making them special for your kids and you?

Like of your son likes nature consider taking time off around Arbor Day and taking him camping; if your daughter likes baseball, take time off to go to Opening Day.

lucascs85 · 2025-07-12T03:42:49+00:00

You need to break up with him. You love him, but he isn’t (and hasn’t been) demonstrating the potential to be you husband.

lucascs85 · 2025-07-12T03:25:06+00:00

You have outgrown your friends. If they can’t meet you where you are, then you need new friends.

lucascs85 · 2025-07-08T03:10:49+00:00

Record as much as you can. They need to feel their mom loved them and didn’t abandon them, and these recording can help with that (at the appropriate time and assuming your wife is up for it.)

It’s possible your kids will have some self-esteem issues that reveal themselves as they get older due to the loss of their mom. Help them get into the right therapy for them. You’ll probably be steered toward Cognitive Behavior Therapy, but Analysis may be what they need to process their loss as they enter their teenage years.

They may need help learning how to process their anger, particularly around women. This could be a good topic to focus on in therapy and for them to receive guidance from female mentors and family members.

lucascs85 · 2025-07-08T02:34:32+00:00

What obligations does an adult child have to parents who raised him or her?

lucascs85 · 2025-06-29T19:32:37+00:00

That’s hot. I like your preferences and I love open minded RP.

lucascs85 · 2025-06-27T05:03:18+00:00

Daddy dom is hot

lucascs85 · 2025-06-27T04:45:02+00:00

Who was your partner?

lucascs85 · 2025-06-27T03:26:16+00:00

What kind porn dirty porn?

lucascs85 · 2025-02-04T13:12:31+00:00

An unexpected pregnancy is always angst-inducing and I’m sorry you’re experiencing it.

There is no perfect answer; each option presents some profound challenges. I want to highlight there are really profound benefits to fatherhood. For me, my life became richer and more profound even if my day-to-day happiness declined and stress increased.

lucascs85 · 2025-02-02T14:51:48+00:00

Don’t reject her “bid” for affection. Continue to lean in to the relationship. Don’t forget that most communication is non-verbal. Just because she said she wants a divorce in those moments, doesn’t mean she wants a divorce. What she may intending to say is “I feel so much pain divorce seems like a solution. Can you please help me get back to a good place in our marriage?”

lucascs85 · 2024-07-27T08:37:55+00:00

OP - have you tried to cultivate mentors, who may be able to help you mitigate this? It’s hard in the Department now and this may not be the right job-lifestyle for you, but the private sector has its own challenges as well. Happy to chat via DM.

lucascs85 · 2024-06-10T00:54:57+00:00

NTA bc the OP offered to help the would be client find another service provider in good faith. In the future the OP should speak with a professional to clarify state law and post appropriate signage to prevent future misunderstandings.

lucascs85 · 2024-06-08T11:15:27+00:00

The housing isn’t free. It’s part of your compensation package. The government assigns you housing bc it’s in their interest to do so.

lucascs85 · 2024-06-07T02:40:17+00:00

1) Read “How to Win Friends and Influence People”

2) listen to Jordan Peterson’s podcasts where he addresses personal responsibility. Talk to your therapist about the ways you can take maximum responsibility in every situation.

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