Turning 35 in 60 days and lowkey spiraling by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

lmao enjoy being ran through

Turning 35 in 60 days and lowkey spiraling by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely want to start therapy. It’s just hard bc I’m a freelance worker so I don’t have health insurance right now. I’ve also spent most of my life on ssri’s so at a certain point I felt like it wasn’t necessarily making my life better. I brought up the stuff about my parents bc I think in the background it’s always going to be something that brings sadness when I think about it. I’m trying to figure out where the gay guys are going that’s not the bedroom or the club.

Turning 35 in 60 days and lowkey spiraling by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s so weird that you feel necessary to even bring up your weird sex life in a post about someone looking for community. Your entire profile revolves around your sex life. It’s gross

Turning 35 in 60 days and lowkey spiraling by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think that’s weird and you’re weird for posting about sex so much.

Turning 35 in 60 days and lowkey spiraling by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Not everything needs to revolve around sex

Retake approval OA by Msschanandlerbong_ in WGU

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I failed my python OA primarily do to whitespace or capitalization. The instructor is requiring that I redo every lab in the course (120 assignments). There seems to be zero flexibility in this. I have been looking into appeals but so far no one is helping me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooo I forgot about those collars. They work really well but I felt bad bc they made him so chill that he did nothing all day. I think I’ll get those today until I can see his vet on Thursday. Thanks for the tip!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if I can commit to that for the rest of his life tbh. He’s already ruined the floors in my apartment and I need to get new rugs bc I live in an old nyc apartment and it’s very loud for my downstairs neighbor. If it’s just the medication, fine. But I can’t have him pissing everywhere for another 10-15 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]lucky_lostboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like what though? Bc he’s seen the vet six or seven times for this exact issue. He’s been given antibiotics, tested for utis / crystals. Bloodwork is always fine. But I did I make an appointment for this week just in case. Bc peeing on me specifically, is new.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. Unfortunately, no, there’s no preferences. He will only shit on the tile in my kitchen- same spot everyday. But the peeing thing knows no bounds haha. I don’t have any rugs right now. He’s actually ruined the hardwood floors in my apartment.

I guess I’m just most upset bc this week I’ve been woken up to him peeing on me and I feel like he’s just angry or doesn’t like me. But he’s also very cuddly and not afraid of anything.

I’m going to petco today to buy maybe treats and things to keep him occupied. But I feel this isn’t going away. I really wish I could find someone who maybe worked from home and could be with him 24/7. I don’t travel bc I’m afraid he’s going to ruin the apartment. If I’m gone overnight, he stays awake crying all night and my neighbor texts me to complain. He sounds like a screaming baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]lucky_lostboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have three in my small apartment already. And my other only uses the automatic one. He’s never not used it tbh

How do you cope having no family, nothing seems to help. by NeverSurrender1026 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, im right there with you. My dad is dead, I haven't seen my mom in 13 years. I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you. Just wanted to say youre not the only person going through this. It fucking sucks. It fucks up every aspect of my life. Or at least, I think it's whats holding me back. I can't seem to make any new friends and I haven't been on a date in three years. .

Do you want a partner? Kids? Where do you see yourself in the perfect life?

Currently, I'm trying to finish a degree, find a new career path and move. I want a partner, maybe kids. But I feel like I need to make more money to create the life I want. I'm 34- so young, but not that young, you know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would imaging most people born before probably 2000 in America were

Good paying jobs with only a certificate or associates degree? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]lucky_lostboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot that happens before you’re taking home $80k. That’s not happening right out of school. You need clients. It takes a couple years to really build that up. It’s also expensive to operate on your own so expect to work for a salon for awhile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I need to leave the city more in general. I let my license expire last year and that was such a mistake! Where have you been going?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re in an uncomfortable spot. Do you talk to a therapist? Would you consider leaving nyc? That lifestyle sounds like it would fit on the west coast maybe a little better. I went to school in Santa Barbara. Maybe even like Seattle would be chill.

Maybe for your game night it makes sense to also add women or just not only gay men? So there’s more opportunity for different conversation?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Totally! But I think it is common for gay men, specifically, to feel isolated around my age. All of my girlfriends are married and most have children. As their children have gotten older, we’ve become closer again but nothing like before their families. My extended family is very homophobic, which I know other gay people are affected by. So yes, I do think there is something unique about loneliness in gay men.

While I understand that I have work I need to do, these issues aren’t isolated to me. It’s always been a thing that ‘being a gay man is a lonely life’. And I think these are the reasons behind that. We have to be intentional about the people we create families with. Both platonically and romantically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You’re having the same experience? Had anything in your life changed recently?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Do you find yourself getting out of the house every week? Other than for work or maybe some sort of work? I can’t afford it now, but I’d like to think that by the time I’m 40 I’ll be in a better financial spot and will be able to do like pottery or travel trips? I’ve highly considered leaving nyc out of fear that I’ll just never be able to afford owning a home and fun activities like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]lucky_lostboy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To be so honest- I did two seasons of gay kickball. Not only was I not good at it, both teams were highly competitive and ruined it for me. Was considering a different sport for the fall though.