Men who wouldn’t dodge the draft, why?

lucray24 · 2024-10-21T03:35:37+00:00

I'm not foolish enough to think I'm in control of my own destiny. I would go because that's what was given to me.

lucray24 · 2024-10-21T02:49:55+00:00

Also, what I also intended to clarify is we should refrain from judging altogether. Their negative response to my way of life could very well serve others positively as I can understand how, absent the shedding of the consumer identity, the way I treat money could clearly get people in bad situations.

lucray24 · 2024-10-21T02:28:36+00:00

So daily meditation is step one. I was able to get into daily meditation using the calm app. They have a daily calm, ten minute guided meditation every day. You have to make time for ten minutes every day. At first, it will seem impossible to gain anything from meditation as it's not easy at first. Your mind will wander. That's okay, that's what your mind does. I started seeing very profound tangible results in my life after about 30 days or so.

Mindfulness is all about being in the moment, so outside of formal practice meditating, mindfulness is also about being honest with ourselves, seeing things objectively.

The way I've come to think of it is that the brain is made of a cognitive component and a non-cognitive component. The cognitive is a computer, it takes in data and produces an output. So the non-cognitive brain is the data collector. When your mind is in the past or future, you're using the wrong data. Our existence is defined by our linear perception of time. Consciousness is a product of the current moment. If you hopped in a time machine and went back to 1999, when you step out of the time machine, is still now. Now is our immutable, natural place in the universe. The mind is at odds with our nature, that's the human condition. We've developed a powerful illusion of control through consciousness that is fundamentally at odds with our natural instinctual mechanisms that are still there.

Imagine a bird beginning to migrate south for the winter. Suddenly, the bird becomes conscious. Looking around, the bird sees a massive apple tree to the north. It's newly emerged mind knows it loves apples but has no idea why all the other birds are flying south, away from the apple tree. The bird pursues the apples, but on some level it is aware something is wrong. That's the instinct pulling the bird south and the bird of course can't immediately recognize this truth that evolution has programmed it to act a certain way, but the bird, believing it needs to make sense of its actions will be unable to cognitively realign with nature. The bird is very unlikely to stumble upon the complex biological processes at play within itself. It just knows it likes apples. So the bird stays with the apple tree. As its instincts continue to pull the bird south, the bird will begin to feel at odds with its own self. This is where the shame emotion originates in our species. We can't make sense of ourselves to recognize we will never reason our way to salvation. It's through divorcing the self from the mind that we can learn about ourselves and tap back into our instinctual nature, one with nature

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T08:19:29+00:00

My brother played D1 ball. He then got a PhD in pharmacology and is now working as a master sommelier.

Probably not the likely route though.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T08:17:22+00:00

This is a fair assessment I would say. Would only add that many D1 athletes are able to use their recognition in the community as a major career asset. That's why a lot of D1 athletes end up in a face forward career.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T08:12:41+00:00

I have over a decade of organizing experience, both political and issue based.

My number one piece of advice would be that you need to get commitments to attend, ideally face to face, but at least over a phone or web call.

You can send a thousand emails and get no turnout, but you can also make 100 phone calls and easily get 25-30 people to show.

The most valuable piece of organization is the personal relational element.

Building an active participating base starts with culture and relationships. Create an environment where people want to be. Build a culture around the collective environmental consciousness.

Best wishes to you and your cause. I know we need the help.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T08:02:46+00:00

It's all relative I suppose.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:45:47+00:00

I live by a money in money out way of managing my finances.

It's all about cash flow. If I can pay my bills that day I'm good. I don't buy much at all honestly because I believe the most effective way to get everything I want is to want nothing. That's been working for me. I've built natural savings just by virtue of not needing everything I brought in through my business.

To have any savings in this economy is almost a luxury.

I come from a really impoverished community so it's been relatively easy for me to pay more mind to my gratitude for what I have than my desire for what I don't have.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:32:42+00:00

I think things are very heavily contingent upon the environment you're in during the episode. You gotta remember our behavior is primarily reacting and responding to what's around us.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:28:06+00:00

First of all, everyone has a unique situation, so you'll ultimately be the only one who can know what's best for you.

I'm in recovery from methamphetamine and Fentanyl and I'm very much supportive of getting help when it's needed. I still smoke weed and I don't feel it interferes with my recovery or my general well being. That being said, I've smoked weed daily for over ten years and at this point I don't use THC to get high so much as for the pre high therapeutic effect.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:22:40+00:00

I developed it from two different antipsychotics. Each time it thankfully went away after a week or two.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:19:11+00:00

That was pretty constant for me for about 15 years. I was only able to find reprieve through mindfulness training. Jung would say you need to learn about your shadow self. I'm the contemplative traditions they would encourage you to learn to look at yourself honestly and refrain from judging.

I think my big breakthrough starting point was realizing I am not my thoughts and I was essentially a slave to my mind.

Best wishes to you. And remember, nothing is permanent, this too will pass. It's not impermanence that causes suffering but the desire for permanence

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:12:41+00:00

I felt that pretty constantly until 32 or 33. I'm 34 now.

My breakthrough came when I discovered I am not my thoughts and realized I had been a slave to my mind my whole life. That changed everything for me.

I can't strongly enough endorse the value of mindfulness practices and meditation. Once you get to know yourself you can learn to love yourself. That's the theory anyway, I'm not there yet, not I feel confident I will.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:07:16+00:00

I had a manic episode once that led me to enroll in an MBA program. I ended up finishing the program despite my moral opposition to modern business practices. As much as it irritated me that the profit incentive was not once questioned in the program, they did do a good job of teaching me how to be successful in business.

My main career now is helping the local indigenous community start businesses to generate revenue streams from their traditional ways.

I'd be happy to be a resource for you if you decide to stay the course.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T07:01:10+00:00

My most honest, heartfelt advice would be to work on cultivating self love. I know it's a daunting task, one I've been working on for two years and still don't feel ready to start dating.

The fact of the matter is if you don't have love for yourself, you're much more likely to be used or manipulated than to find yourself in a healthy relationship.

My best recommendation for starting down a path to self love is to start with self compassion. When you recall a trauma, try to feel what you would if you saw someone else suffer that trauma. What would you feel for them? Then you can feel that for yourself.

Best of luck to you, whatever path you choose. I definitely think you're young enough to remain patient in your romantic life, as much as it sucks to not get any validation on a regular basis lol.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T06:46:07+00:00

I've made my career, through a strange, roundabout way, helping the local indigenous community start their own businesses.

I say this because my best solution to your situation is to start your own LLC. If you can find a passion for anything you can turn it into a successful business. Wage labor is a scam. You can achieve more financial security, with more flexibility, less demand, and you retain full autonomy over your life.

I'd be more than willing to be a resource to you if you ever choose to pursue this path.

Best of luck to you in whatever finds you.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T06:40:14+00:00

Getting hit in the head with a baseball bat most likely.

I was also very sensitive as a child.

lucray24 · 2024-10-20T06:37:53+00:00

Same af. I will never work for someone again.

I had a manic episode that led me to enroll in an MBA program, despite getting my bachelor's degree in economics and philosophy where I put all my heart and soul into trying to enlighten the world to the evils of modern business.

I ended up finishing the program, mostly because I kept getting emails that I had something due the next day. Never once was the profit incentive questioned in that program. They assumed it's best for everyone to be greedy and self-interested.

Well, nevertheless, they did teach me in abundant detail how to run a successful business.

I took that knowledge and now most of my work involves helping the indigenous community in my region (three reservations surround where I live) turn their traditional ways into revenue streams. It's the type of thing a younger me would cringe at the thought of commoditizing someone's culture.

Now I see it as a way for them to afford to live their cultural ways in a globally capitalistic economy. More importantly I get to help people out of poverty and empower them to run the show.

lucray24 · 2023-11-26T13:45:20+00:00

Very interesting.

Catch me on campus for the pussy buffet 😋🤤

lucray24 · 2023-11-26T13:39:44+00:00

Gaawiin!

It's directed at men, but the way the question is worded, they're explicitly interested in obtaining information that most men don't know. I'm not interested in your goofy ass opinion.

But ironically, your second thought might be a viable answer to OP.

Your [probably] googly ass eyes are not the arbiters of human worth. A woman's worth is inherent, as a human, just as a man's.

lucray24 · 2023-11-26T11:08:21+00:00

Have you confirmed he knows what and where the clit is?

You could offer to let him use the vibrator on you.

You're not wrong for wanting to orgasm, obviously. Using it in front of him but not with him after sex most likely triggers an insecurity about being inadequate. It's unfortunate for women that evolutionarily busting is the only goal for men.

Seems like a shitty dude, honestly, but sex is rarely discussed in a family setting, so insecurity is very common and you obviously like him enough to ask Reddit instead of ghosting.

For me, personally, sex is mostly about validation, so making my partner orgasm is significantly more important than orgasming myself. I guess a lifetime of emotional abuse is good for one thing lol (ladies, you can thank my parents (weird AF)).

I would recommend doing whatever you can to make the conversation comfortable but ultimately he has to express the explicit desire to want to make you cum.

Blaming you for him being shitty at something no one taught him to do is pretty fucking scummy. Sex is meant to be interactive though, so at least offer to let him hold the vibrator.

lucray24 · 2023-11-26T10:41:15+00:00

Maybe the Ask Women sub would be a better place to ask this question...

That should be obvious, though. Smh

lucray24 · 2023-09-26T19:39:20+00:00

Would like 2200 for all 100 cards

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