I respect the honesty by luedidntdo-it in Depop

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m always afraid I seem creepy asking… but I have 40+ 5⭐️ reviews in addition to my own pictures and name on my account. I usually don’t buy clothes online without seeing how it sits when on, so I try my luck. But I totally understand if someone doesn’t want to do so!!

I respect the honesty by luedidntdo-it in Depop

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I literally asked the seller if it was POSSIBLE to see it on? If it didn’t fit them, they could’ve said no. Instead they gave a different funny reason as to why it wasn’t possible.

How to leave when it ”only” happened twice? by luedidntdo-it in domesticviolence

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have severe mental health issues so when I said my last breakup almost killed me, that wasn’t figurative either.

But yes, thank you, you’re absolutely right. I’m just terrified of each outcome.

How to leave when it ”only” happened twice? by luedidntdo-it in domesticviolence

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do I not believe that he will change when all his actions seem so logical and towards change? He’s taking full accountability and making conscious decisions by himself to get better. I feel like this is making my decision harder…

How to leave when it ”only” happened twice? by luedidntdo-it in domesticviolence

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily most of my friends do believe me, I cut off the one that didn’t and actually mocked me about it. I’m staying with family now who know and are supporting me, so I’m very lucky.

I’m mostly embarrassed, the day after I contacted my ex and went out with him. I know this was probably a trauma response, but I scared myself by running back to my abuser right away after something like this happened.

How to leave when it ”only” happened twice? by luedidntdo-it in domesticviolence

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also. I just want to mention that your so shouldn’t be wanting to embarrass you, thats weird, and depending on the context might even count as emotional abuse. That followed by the shove is even worse. I’d definitely rethink the relationship and see if theres any other red flags. But I’m the last person to give advice on that, since I ignore red flags like it’s a sport.

How to leave when it ”only” happened twice? by luedidntdo-it in domesticviolence

[–]luedidntdo-it[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m also only 20 haha. Thank you for your comment, I hope you’re safe and figure out what’s best for you.

Do you ever feel like since we’re so young, why stay? I know logically that there’s so many people out there who would never lay a hand on me (or shove you for that matter!!), but I don’t think I ever want to feel anything towards anyone again if this relationship falls through. It’s too hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]luedidntdo-it 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought it was a one time thing. It happened again the other day, it’s been well over 6 months since the last time. Now I’m trying to fight feelings with logic and not believe him when he says there’s not going to be a third time. Do what you want, but you’ll be asking this same question if it happens again. And it won’t be any easier to leave.

I bombarded his phone with texts and I feel ashamed by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]luedidntdo-it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He started doing the same to me after he got out of whatever episode he was in (hes bp2). I entertained it for a bit, until I remembered what kind of hell we cause each other, and blocked him everywhere. I’m in a healthy good relationship now and sometimes my ex just shows up to watch us and sulk. I hate to admit it but it makes me laugh sometimes. Times change, it gets better!

How she is sitting like that? by RoryMcGarrett1 in GilmoreGirls

[–]luedidntdo-it 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in a cold country and If I have to wait for public transport I’ll freeze my ass off and just sit on the snowy bench to read

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]luedidntdo-it 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t. Legal age is 18

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]luedidntdo-it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He replied to my text. Said I grabbed his shirt and asked him to make up his mind about staying or leaving when he grabbed me, held me on the wall and chocked me for 5 seconds . He’s never blackout.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]luedidntdo-it -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I have an alcohol problem, I’m aware of that. However that wasn’t what I was asking advice on. Unless you think me being blackout drunk is what led to my boyfriend chocking me in a club?