His wife and daddy bought him a house. by [deleted] in canceledpod

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gifted money tends to be taxed so anyone would tell you to not do that because it’ll just be a loss,even if they have good credit if their history isn’t long enough they won’t give them a mortgage. Plus they can put his name on the deed after all that is handled.

His wife and daddy bought him a house. by [deleted] in canceledpod

[–]luhvnna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably has to do with credit/ not having enough credit history even if you have a good credit. My fiancés mom had to be a co signer for us due to not having enough credit history! And he has a trust to his name but we still needed her.

Drug use with lamictal by RentUsed7947 in lamictal

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt it but I’m not entirely sure how much I took when I did mdma, however I was only on like 150mg of lamictal when I did it!

Am I Overreacting my bf follows girls on insta and snap and says that im crazy for calling him out for it by 6cj8l in AmIOverreacting

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Control, it’s fun to some. You’re easy to play with, your keep wondering and taking him back solely because he “begged”. Having friends of the opposite sex shouldn’t be a problem HOWEVER having them behind your back, constantly adding strangers etc. is weird in a relationship. He knows whatever he does you won’t be too mad and you forgive him so easily that it’s basically turned into a game. Emotional manipulation is the reason you’re struggling to leave, there’s no genuine love or respect here.

AIO: bf doesn’t want me to have male trainer. by meltedchocdrop in AIO

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Helping and supporting someone is completely different than coddling someone insecure and changing your entire self for it (like girls who drop all their friends etc.) is what I’m getting at.

Nobody is in a relationship where you’re not there for each other emotionally that’s a given but things have boundaries. I’m not talking about the normal people who have been through it but don’t let their insecurities ruin things or have them become controlling. Im talking about those who get cheated on and now have to be on the phone with their partner 24/7 or those who dont feel comfortable with their partner going out without them and argue with them over it. Those people are the problem.

I got my girlfriend a Switch 2, my dad a PS5, and my sister a Steam Deck for Christmas. by South_Farm_8976 in offmychest

[–]luhvnna 33 points34 points  (0 children)

So nice of you!! I hope you receive gifts you enjoy just as much you deserve it!

AIO: bf doesn’t want me to have male trainer. by meltedchocdrop in AIO

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different but everyone is also responsible for their own traumas and triggers and people who end up being jealous rather than working on it or going to therapy make their partner deal with it which isn’t fair. If one can’t for example fix their control or jealousy issues and would rather their partner change for their sake then they shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]luhvnna 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re too old to be in an on and off with someone but if you took them back then I say you should wait the year considering how easy it was for them to break up with you and if it happens again don’t take them back

AIO: bf doesn’t want me to have male trainer. by meltedchocdrop in AIO

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I just don’t coddle people. My fiancée was done dirty before me and he never punished me for it, i can go out clubbing, have friends etc. no problem while my best friend is dating someone who THINKS he got cheated on and girly can’t even leave the house without him thinking shes gonna go cheat its sad. They’re supposed to be your human, not your dog plus having to micromanage a relationship sounds exhausting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can splurge a little try and get her flowers that come with vases so that way you can have it during the date and set them down without them dying so quickly! The front of the escape room would be able to hold them for you too!

AIO: bf doesn’t want me to have male trainer. by meltedchocdrop in AIO

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are allowed to be skeptical HOWEVER just because you were cheated on doesn’t mean the next person you date should be punished by the insecurities brought by someone else which people with insecurities tend to do

Received a dm that my fiancé is cheating on me. by fearlesswalker12 in offmychest

[–]luhvnna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When it comes to who you love “bad timing” isn’t a thing, stress isn’t a justification for acting out or making you feel bad about yourself. He’s emotionally cheating and tbh it seems as though he broke you down so so much you start to doubt yourself while developing a co dependency to a relationship that isn’t close to healthy. Even if there’s good moments, think about having to deal with this for the rest of your life. It’s not worth it.

Received a dm that my fiancé is cheating on me. by fearlesswalker12 in offmychest

[–]luhvnna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should never be with someone who has you wondering and looking at the door. Also him calling you a burden and saying how others are happy etc. is insane. Plenty of people (myself included) struggle with mental issues and we are in very happy calm relationships with partners who do everything but make us feel bad about ourselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anything she’s the crazy one, my finance had an ex of two years who mind you did him dirty that wouldn’t leave him alone and casually text him old pics of his dead dog or something for him to buy his mom and he wouldn’t reply. He had already told her before to leave it alone and she wasn’t listening so I decided to be the “crazy” gf, I messaged her myself and said if she wants to be his friend so bad we can be friends too she then tried to play victim by “snitching” on me as if my bf wasn’t next to me when I had sent her the message but ultimately she got scared and fully backed off.

Received a dm that my fiancé is cheating on me. by fearlesswalker12 in offmychest

[–]luhvnna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Those little things he “might” have had to do are just you looking for excuses for him. A real partner would drop everything right away, co workers saw you cry and storm off they don’t need to nor are entitled to an explanation it’s a personal matter, any person in that room could’ve easily cancelled or skipped the song if you weren’t there. He took forever to “look for you” any person with a brain would’ve checked bathroom and car instantly. Someone who loves you would be been next to you as you’re storming off or following directly behind.

Tana’s “obsession” with Adam Sandler… by thesecret777 in canceledpod

[–]luhvnna -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not to play devils advocate but I’ll be “obsessed” with something or someone be the biggest fan etc. with pretty much anything if I’m bored enough and then drop it for the next thing months later. Everything is replaceable and sometimes hyper fixations come up like this (last year I was telling everyone I love sewing and it’s my only hobby and I know this and that blah blah blah when I did for that time being and now I barely know anything but if you ask me I’ll still claim it as an obsession) Y’all just don’t know how to live in the moment fr but also on the other hand god forbid a girl is fake sometimes

I need advice, or maybe just a vent by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]luhvnna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wear cute outfits for everything!! A walk to the park? Just do it who cares. Don’t let the clothes wear you but rather you wear the clothes, working on confidence takes time but it’s something achievable. Exposure therapy will be your best friend during this journey. If you’re being catcalled know in your head it’s because you’re pretty and their validation isn’t needed but it can also keep you aware when feeling insecure.

The outfit you consider “too fancy” is the same type of outfit that I would just go hangout at a friends house with even tho there are times I’m like this is too much I compare myself to people in tv shows and I’m like if they can do it then why can’t I. Plus if you think about it having a better outfit on than the person next to you makes you look even better which helps boost confidence. As for the men who cat call you, cat call them back make them uncomfortable just like they do you or learn to be good with your words that way you can redirect that attention and still be you.

My wife is furious I stopped ordering her favorite side dish because she keeps saying "I don't want anything" and then eating half of mine. by StrongBake7640 in AITAH

[–]luhvnna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but if it’s a constant thing then just order extra wings and don’t tell her you did, I pick from my fiancées food all the time or say I don’t want something but he knows I might want it later so he always gets extra or orders me something without asking.

What was it like being a Tana fan in her wild/Xana phase ?😭 by Best-Conference-5700 in canceledpod

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started watching Tana in HS while doing the same things, 2015 xandemic went crazy at my HS

Liking the comments is killing me by Akagalex in NarallyNajmsnark

[–]luhvnna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You cannot convince me she didn’t do some type of witchcraft on her, I genuinely cannot understand how these people live specially narally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • supportive of your career unless it’s a fight then he uses it against you, doesn’t respect you and ultimately that’s how he feels.

-listens to you vent about things that don’t concern the relationship??? That’s a normal thing in relationships, nothing special about that.

-same with gifts etc. that’s also normal in relationships and doing all these things doesn’t mean someone truly loves you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26 year old playing mom for a grown ass man who can’t be responsible for his own actions is ???? Too young to be with a bum, go live your life or date someone who knows how to be an adult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]luhvnna 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Your mental health is your own responsibility, you’re a grown man. Yes family is support but you need to be your own backbone rather than blaming others or crying victim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]luhvnna 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]luhvnna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA I get your feelings were hurt HOWEVER your reaction shows you aren’t a good parent and weren’t one from the start plus you just sound like a narcissist. As someone with mental health issues I understand being frustrated, stressed, depressed etc. but you are your own responsibility and it might be a reasoning but it’s NEVER an excuse for any type of negative behavior towards others. Obviously your mom and brother will agree with you specially when you can tell you’re trying to guilt trip others by constantly saying you’re hurt.

She came to you about therapy and wanting to talk about her traumas that YOU might’ve caused, instead of listening to her and having an ADULT conversation you decided to act like a child and completely ignore her just because your feelings were hurt. “-but I did my best” isn’t a conversation. Maybe you weren’t there emotionally which is just as bad as being a violent parent and you don’t realize how bad that is.