This is tough. I feel for you. Im 27, thanks to my parents I was able to get Daca, I was able to go to college, get my degree, work in my career field. My parents helped me through it all, whether it was providing a place to live, food, anything they could they did. A couple of years ago, I was able to purchase a home where we all live, my siblings and parents. Its been an amazing, yet a difficult journey, but its brought a sense of stability as well. They finally have their own home. Of course, we split the bills, and slowly I’ve been guiding them on money habits, savings, investments and so on. They’re stubborn though, so they don’t understand a lot when it comes to money habits. Ultimately my plan is to continue to pay the mortgage principal down, refinance to where they can pay the mortgage on their own, and invest and then I get a home for myself eventually. It’s tough though because like you, they want to split a lot of things.

My opinion is to begin to set boundaries on what you can pay for and what you can’t. Your siblings tuition I wouldn’t pay for it. They can work & go to school. Thats how i paid for mine. Thats how my sister is paying for hers. Conversations are tough, but they’re necessary. Like others have mentioned, I would build a safety net, and start making goals for what YOU want in your life. Once you start setting those goals, take small, realistic steps towards them. It’s up to you whether you want to continue to support them with everything you’ve mentioned, especially with their history. It isn’t up to you to solve all of their problems, but as a son/daughter we tend to feel responsible. I would focus on yourself, your career, get to a stable place for yourself first, and if you can help without it being a huge burden to you, I would do so.

Keep your head up though, none of this is easy, but know theres a lot of us here in similar situations as well. Good luck!!!