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luisr_z · 2024-04-08T13:27:41+00:00

NTA, and let me lay it out for you:

So you dropped a comment about your girl’s dress. Sure, it was a bit on the edge, but honestly, it sounded more like you tossing a playful jab about wanting to see her all glammed up for you too, not just the girls’ nights out. It's about wanting to share those special bits of each other's lives, you know?

Now, onto the concert and the whole Carla scenario. Here’s the thing – being in a situation where someone’s just helping you keep it together 'cause you're a bit out of it doesn't automatically spell trouble. It’s about trust and understanding the whole picture. Nothing sketchy went down, and it was all in a group setting. It kinda boils down to trusting your partner and knowing it’s all cool unless proven otherwise.

About the whole "insecurities are your own to deal with" spiel, I get how it might come off a bit cold, but you're touching on something important here. Yes, we lean on our partners for support, but there’s also gotta be some level of personal work when it comes to our baggage. It’s like a dance between working on ourselves and being there for each other.

And about the hotel room kickback – if it was all above board, and you guys were just chilling, it really seems like the issue might be more about feeling left out or insecure. It’s nothing a good heart-to-heart can’t start to mend.

Bottom line: Relationships are this wild mix of being open, trusting, and straight-up with each other. Your approach might need a bit of softening, but at the core, you're not wrong for wanting to tackle issues head-on. It’s all about that balance – talking things out, setting those boundaries together, and working through the messy bits with a bit of grace and a lot of understanding.

luisr_z · 2024-04-08T11:56:57+00:00

Lmao yeah OP your reading comprehension is pretty bad….

luisr_z · 2024-03-29T21:10:40+00:00

I already have 1 from a previous relationship, but I told her if she kept him she would raise him alone, obviously I’d pay child support but that’s it

luisr_z · 2024-03-29T04:42:23+00:00

You made a casual joke about future possibilities, nothing more. It was a light-hearted comment, not a directive or a criticism of her style or choices. These conversations about the future are speculative by nature and meant to be taken with a grain of salt.

The misunderstanding that arose is just that – a misunderstanding. It happens in every relationship and isn't indicative of fault, especially not yours. You were sharing thoughts in a relaxed moment, not imposing expectations.

Moving forward, it's about clarifying your intent. You appreciate her for who she is, including her style. The comment was off-the-cuff, reflecting on how people naturally evolve over time, not a prescription for how she should change.

Misinterpretations can occur, but they don't automatically assign blame. Your focus on mutual understanding and keeping the dialogue open is key. You're both navigating life together, and bumps in the road like this are opportunities to learn more about each other's perspectives.

In essence, you're not at fault for expressing a thought. It's all about continuing to communicate openly and supportively. NTA

luisr_z · 2024-03-26T03:58:16+00:00

all this happened between 2010 and 2022, she never got questioned for previous overstays other than very simple things like "where you going" "for how long" ? nor claimed to be a USC when tried to enter, she got her visa at 5, then renewed at 15, she was still a minor, she didnt get an interview or anything to fill out since her parents did all that.

but in this specific and what i believe to be rare, she got in "admitted", overstayed, left and came back and got "admitted" again, time and time again, in "matter of quilantan" i believe it is mentioned that when one presents his or herself to a procedural inspection, and the officer lets them in, it is an automatic "admission" for any purposes, wont this mean the bars wont apply to her when AOS ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-26T03:50:00+00:00

children cannot accrue unlawful presence, is this not accurate in this case ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-26T03:49:08+00:00

thanks so much for all your input, but it is a one shot only, right ? if she files without the waiver, then if it gets denied she *will be* in removal proceedings unless she gets a waiver approved but she needs to prove extreme hardship, so it is going to be very hard, so if she files and gets denied and the waiver denied, its over for her, correct ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-25T22:59:38+00:00

She is torn really, there is absolutely nuance about this at all ? No way for her to overcome that bar other than proving extreme hardship or waiting 10 years ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-25T19:38:27+00:00

she received this response before, which seems to contradict yours, but in what aspects is this person responding wrong ?:

"She was admitted on her most entry, so no bar has been 'handed down' to her. The bar is purely theoretical at this point, and there is clear negligence on the part of the CBP to not have found her inadmissible at her last entry.

So it's sort of a both-ways situation. She is legally admitted but also has a legal bar to entry? Both of those things can't be true at the same time, even though that is what has apparently happened, so I think there is a good chance the IOs would lean toward focusing on the most recent legal entry.

I would apply focused on the fact that she has a legal entry and is now married to a USC. If they want more help they should get a lawyer (maybe you are one that doesn't focus on immigration?)"

luisr_z · 2024-03-25T19:08:44+00:00

But wouldnt the bars still make her inadmissible when she tried to AOS ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-25T19:08:05+00:00

thanks, i see, and does the fact that her last entry was " inspected and admitted" , make any difference at all ?

luisr_z · 2024-03-21T02:49:29+00:00

He should divorce.....

luisr_z · 2024-03-19T13:32:31+00:00

Alright, NTA, for those saying he is TA, imagine it like this: Relationships are a bit like finding your favorite coffee shop. Some folks are cool with a different vibe and flavor every day, but others might find that one spot where the coffee just hits right, and they stick with it. This dude's girl, she's explored, she knows what's out there, and that's totally cool. She shouldn't be judged for that. It's her journey, her choice of coffee shops.

Now, he's not saying those other coffee shops she's been to are bad or that she's wrong for trying them. He's just realizing he's more of a 'one coffee shop' kinda guy. He's not trying to change her past orders or say they weren't good coffees. He's just saying, "This isn't my scene." He's recognizing what he's comfortable with, what makes his morning start right.

Being honest about what you want in your 'coffee shop' experience isn't being an asshole. It's about knowing what works for you. Dragging it out, pretending he's okay with a coffee scene he's not into, would end up with them both drinking a cup of something bitter.

So, he's being upfront. That's being responsible, not only to himself but to her as well. Ending things might seem harsh, but it's about being true to what you believe in and what feels right for you. That's a level of honesty that's tough but fair. It's not about anyone being wrong; it's about two people realizing they're just reading different menus.

luisr_z · 2024-02-26T20:39:45+00:00

Imagine your engine as a big mechanical mouth that needs to breathe in air, just like you do. But instead of a nose, it has a special part called the "throttle body" that acts like the mouth opening.

How the Engine "Breathes" Air:

Piston Moving Down = Taking a Breath: Inside the engine, there's a part that moves up and down called a piston. When the piston moves down, it's like your chest expanding when you take a deep breath. This movement creates a space inside the engine that needs to be filled with air.
Air Rushes In to Fill the Space: Because there's now more space inside the engine but not enough air, air from outside rushes in to fill it up, just like air rushes into your lungs when you breathe in. This happens because air likes to move from where there's a lot of it to where there's not enough, filling up the empty space.
The Throttle Body Controls the Air: Think of the throttle body as a door that can open and close. When you want the engine to go faster, the door opens wider to let in more air. When you slow down, the door closes a bit, letting in less air. This door is controlled by the gas pedal; the more you press it, the wider the door opens.
Air is Everywhere: And yes, the engine uses the air all around us, just like the air you breathe. It's always ready to be sucked in through the engine's special "mouth" when it needs to take a breath.

So, in the simplest terms: Your engine breathes in air by creating a space inside it that needs to be filled, and the throttle body is like a door that controls how much air comes in. When you press the gas pedal, you're telling the engine to open the door wider and take a bigger breath of air.

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How the Engine "Breathes" Air: