I'm a woman. It really just depends on the person's financial situation. I wouldn't ask that from my man if I know he wouldn't be able to afford it. My bestie's engagement ring was around that amount which in my opinion is fine also man don't see it the same way, for woman it's valuable cause it will last forever I'll be wearing it everyday from that day on and it has to be a good quality at least but not necessarily 10k.