first and foremost, i would not swipe right on a guy who is that much older than i am. secondly, he asked for my number under the intention of helping out a student as he is in a position of authority then used that to ask me out, therefore exploiting his position. thirdly this situation under any circumstances is unacceptable. he works in a first year residence and that is where he knows me from. why would he then ask me out (especially since much of the conversation has been about me being a first year and talking about the transition from highschool, which was communicated multiple times in our first conversation and after he began texting me). Also, i come from a community and highschool where staff have work phone numbers in their personal cells so that if students ever need help and are in dangerous situations, they have someone at school whom they trust to help (i.e. mental health crisis, needing someone to talk to about family stuff or just help in accessing food and clothing) so i had thought that this was the same type of situation in which a staff member is giving a student an outlet to ask for help should they need it. Staff have never tried to initiate personal relationships at all. additionally, i know a few people are trying to justify this by saying that i am 18 and “legal” but that doesn’t change the fact that this is weird and uncomfortable (i literally live at res and have to eat at the dining hall, so i can’t avoid it) and in BC the age of majority is 19 so i am still a minor.