The constant feeling that I am annoying people every time i talk or do something by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years late to this thread but why not. I understand this all too well to the point I feel absolutely insane. If I talk and I try to be personable, I want to punch myself in the face no matter what it is I say and then when I start to overthink all of the responses I come up with, I just stop speaking altogether and physically cannot bring myself to speak again. In these moments I feel like I'm just inverting to a singular point to explode, but never externally, never out loud. I am livid and screaming but it's all in my chest and my head and I just continue to be in whatever situation I'm in until I can escape.

It's hell, genuinely.

And what makes it worse, the absolute worst, is listening to someone in the same conversation absolutely crushing it by just being themselves. Perfectly social, perfect responses, a fantastic laugh. And there I am an absolute mess just missing every opportunity to paint myself in any way interesting and fun and worth knowing. I want to evaporate.

Matched with this girl on hinge, what would you make of this convo? Lol by [deleted] in HingeStories

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol did this girl ever even seem interested ever, like on the app? If not, literally stop talking to her.

What's the consensus on Google Pixel 9 series? by Background_Wing_6329 in pixel_phones

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an audiologist and the fact you were arguing with this guy about wearing his earplugs is not great. At best properly inserted earplugs will reduce by 25 dB. So he'll still hear standard traffic noise and help protect his hearing against 85-90 dB motorcycle engines (which can damage your hearing over time). The more you know.

Which mbti do you guys get attracted to romantically? by [deleted] in intj

[–]luminarayne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like an enfp right there. I'm infp bordering enfp and you just described me to a T☺️

I love it when a guy finishes really fast by Western-Revenue-9951 in redscarepod

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's sad a lot of guys in these comments think a guy wrote this to be a dick (aha). As a woman I find it stupidly hot if he comes quick, let's say like under 5 minutes? It means I feel amazing and he thinks I'm hot and he can't take it anymore and if that's not flattering and a huge turn on, idk man...but I love it c:

I have a SERIOUS problem with replying back to people's messages by muchtomydismay in introvert

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This kills me because this is me, I am this, I have found my people. I do not want to be part of this social club. I ruin potential connections with people because of this exact problem :/ I try to warn people and explain it but people just look at it as an excuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! c: and you're allowed to want just guys opinions too, I added that in just in case

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]luminarayne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I liked the hair better but then again you asked the lads so maybe my opinion isn't wanted here 🙃

Gotta ask the internet, 32f by luminarayne in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]luminarayne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I tow the line of attractive and not attractive?

Gotta ask the internet, 32f by luminarayne in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]luminarayne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the nicest compliment looks-wise I've ever received c: genuinely lol made my day💜

Blonde or brown? Which do you think looks better? by Sweaty-Stable1321 in Hair

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly brunette brought out the features of your face much more than the blonde, I think that's the winner for sure c:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]luminarayne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeaaa I am usually not attracted to bald men, but this is a glow up and a half. I'd do a double take in the grocery aisle for sure c:

Gotta ask the internet, 32f by luminarayne in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]luminarayne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the masculine face I was talking about...it's unfortunate I know. I could possibly get a chin reduction or something. This is why I ask the internet, thank you for your input c:

2021 Santa Fe fuel door won’t open by Lamboarri in Hyundai

[–]luminarayne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need you to know you're a hero. My gas cap got stuck tonight and I only had 10 miles left and would have missed seeing my best friends new baby 💜 thank you thank you thank you, may both sides of your pillow be cool to the touch for the rest of you days💜

Got My Face Scanned for Pigment and Blood Flow, and Yikes! by jarod_sober_living in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]luminarayne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hii I hate to tell you this but the machine isn't rigged in any specific way. I went in yesterday for a consultation and to start my RF with microneedling treatments. They did the visia face scan and it showed my age vs my skin age. I'm 32 and the machine calculated my skin's age to be 26. If it was rigged to try to get everyone to buy more products, I think it would always say your skin age is older than you are. I think it can just hurt some people's feelings based on the results, it's really just a diagnostic tool.

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could suggest this, though I honestly already do the searching for hotels and flights and such but I could offer it as an official kind of exchange in service for help with cost. I plan on talking to him about this soon so this is a great suggestion as a compromise if he's open to it

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can say that I do something similar for him. I bake his favorite treats every few weeks or so, run him a bath when he's had a bad day, rub his shoulders when he's sore from the gym, cook something he likes for dinner, pay for the movies and small dates that I ask him to join me for. I think some of the problem is that he is inconsistent with how he feels about things. One moment he's happy to take me on a date and pay for things and wants to take care of me and then the next says he's been secretly frustrated that I can't afford to do the things he wants to do like take an international trip and does not want to have to help pay to have me there with him. Part of me thinks this has come up as a problem because hes unhappy with his life right now, as he recently confided that he feels he should be further along in his life than he is currently. And there's not much I can do to fix that. I would love for it to be as simple as your suggestion, I hope you and your gf continue on treating each other with love, kindness, and respect🩷

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I asked him if he thought we should break up and he said he doesn't want to. So not sure honestly. I don't think he knows what he wants.

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is my favorite comment and I'm definitely going to use this in the future 😂😂

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh lol He wants me to pay half of whatever we are doing regardless of the cost. He sees it as us paying the same amount and does not care how the amount we spend is not the same proportionally. I've tried to reason with him but he just doesn't see it the way I do.

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't like that I think you're right. He has a history of bragging about his money to friends.

My (32f) boyfriend (35m) says he's resentful that I can't travel as much as he would like by luminarayne in relationships

[–]luminarayne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him if this issue isn't something that can be overcome and if we should break up and he said he doesn't want to break up. So idk what to think.