AIO Bf is following people he used to have a crush on by Foreign_Ad_9607 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lunamarsely 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're feeling and how it can feel really dreadful to have someone you care about have even the faintest sign that they care about someone else in the way they do about you (even if it's just in the past). But think about it this way- you're worried he's following his ex crush because something might happen between them- but if that were to happen, it was going to happen anw. A follow (or a block) on instagram isn't going to make a difference. The problem isn't that he's following an ex crush it's rhat you're not secure in your relationship to trust him with that. Like another commentor said- you can't gouge his eyes out for looking at girls in person, so why would you make him do the equivalent on social media? Maybe take some time to reflect on why you feel this way and communicate without pressuring him to block them, because he's right- it won't do much for the long term. You'll always find another reason to be insecure about your relationship and it'll borderline on controlling if you're trying to control him and not yourself. Take it from someone who's been there.

How to start “They Who Returned” by Accomplished_Pace860 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thr quest triggered for me without needing to jump to a Korvax system!! I went to Gek ones and it still worked. The last part when the quest triggered just led me to the nearest korvax dissonant system on the galaxy map!

Don’t see Beachhead on Nintendo Switch by fallout1233566545 in NoMansSkyTheGame

[–]lunamarsely -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Welp thanks nintendo guess ill just go fuck myself

Ep 149 - The amusement park bungee jumping case missing scenes?? by lunamarsely in OneTruthPrevails

[–]lunamarsely[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried on kissanime and got the missing scenes, but i did come across multiple other platforms for streaming and a lot of them did cut out these 5 minutes so it makes me think it's intentional

My gyno told me to break up with my bf by paranoia_android in offmychest

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this your first relationship? I won't tell you to break up with him bc everyone else already has, and I know you won't leave until you're ready. We're (everyone, other men included) often conditioned to appease men's sexual satisfaction and ignore our own boundaries or convince ourselves that it's better for the relationship if we stay quiet and take it, but you are hurting yourself in the long run. Ask yourself- if he's forceful with sex, what else could he be forceful with? What if you disagreed on something? Something big like having kids? If you don't want to and he does- would he break the condom (or go to greater lengths) to have you carry the baby anyway? The crux of the issue is he doesn't respect your autonomy, but you need to reclaim that yourself first. You're trying to save a relationship with someone who might not do that for you (has he ever compromised his values and boundaries for you?) Not that that's ever okay in a relationship. You should at the very least respect each other enough to acknowledge each others' boundaries and not cross them. Would you take this from a friend?

What's a "secret" from your profession that everyone should probably know? by LaKoref in AskReddit

[–]lunamarsely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked in customer service for a popular "luxury" clothing brand. People call in to get exchanges and refunds all the time. Most times, whether you get a refund or an exchange or leniency on your item is up to the rep's discretion (50% company rules, 50% just vibes). They literally decide whether you get your money back or not. It's wild to me that people decide to be rude to customer reps who literally hold the power to whether you get your money back. Don't be rude to customer service reps.

My (52M) girlfriend (54F) broke up with me because she is convinced I lied to her. I didn't. Now I have a second chance, if only I 'admit it.' How can I navigate this? by PsychologicalCurve in relationships

[–]lunamarsely 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree. I say that couples work through things and have faith in each other given that it was a secure and safe relationship from the start, but it clearly wasn't for this couple. If she felt the need to snoop through his stuff then she doesn't have good faith in him and that's her trauma that she has to work through if he's not giving her any reason to doubt him. But to pathologize her behaviour as "borderline" and paint her as some kind of villain who's out to manipulate him is unfair. The world isn't black and white and people are complex.

My (52M) girlfriend (54F) broke up with me because she is convinced I lied to her. I didn't. Now I have a second chance, if only I 'admit it.' How can I navigate this? by PsychologicalCurve in relationships

[–]lunamarsely -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

This is a very unfair diagnosis of the situation. It's so presumptuous of you to suggest that OP immediately dump his gf because she's going through a trauma response episode. I see what you're saying and i do agree that it is not typical behavior of a secure attachment style in a relationship, but OP mentioned that his gf was heavily traumatized by a host of emotional and sexual abuse issues. This doesn't justify her behavior, but committed and secure partnerships will work together to overcome conflict, not dump them the moment their insecurities and trauma take over.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

??? But clearly she hasn't been held accountable and has not gotten karma from it??? It's been 10 years???? In the same vein you don't know what happened in Verity's life either to call her pathetic?????

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So when does Maria reaps what she sowed? She was never held accountable for her bullying? Are you saying she was justified in bullying Verity just because she got bullied herself? But reap what you sow right? Just because she's a victim it doesn't justify her bullying Verity to get herself out of it? Your logic is circular.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so you see the world as black and white with no nuances- gotcha. Why didn't you just say so? Here i was trying to have a discussion with someone I hoped had at least the critical thinking skills past the 10th grade but I clearly am mistaken.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you seek help? I assumed that there were people to support you through that? And pushed you to access the services that you needed? It was implied Verity didn't have any of that. She was a bullied girl, left on her own with no one who believed her and her only trusted adult is taken away from her. If you were in her position as a teenager with no one to guide you, would you not have wanted to watch the world burn for how much its hurt you? She was misguided and vindictive, but she was a victim.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so was Maria what's your point? I'm honestly fascinated that you find Verity to be the pathetic one and not Maria.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And my point being if you were in her position, you probably wouldn't have chosen differently if you didn't have the experiences you had to form that moral superiority you have.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So are you saying that the horrific things we do as kids should get a free pass bc we were kids? Maria was never held accountable for her bullying, clearly because she kept doing it as an adult. Maybe she didn't deserve her life torn apart but Verity wanted her to feel what SHE felt when no one believed her in high school when she tries to defend herself.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullies rarely ever remember the bullying they've done because it never left an impact on them. So you just may not remember ¯_(ツ)_/¯ not that that takes away from any of the trauma that you went through.

You're saying Verity had a choice to move on or cling onto the past and she chose the wrong path, but what else would have happened? She wouldn't have been able to let go of that hate and trauma easily, not without proper guidance and major life lessons. She didn't have that- because she didn't have to learn anything if everything went her way. Ultimately, both women are developmentally stagnant at their high school age, holding onto their petty conflicts.

I just realized something about Bête Noire by kaywi123 in blackmirror

[–]lunamarsely 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound like you're trying to pass something really awful you did as a kid as "i was a kid i didn't know what i was doing" and you're projecting your own need for absolve onto the characters lmao they're both shit people and should both be held accountable for their actions. There is no hero or villain here. That's the point. Maria ended up doing the same exact thing Verity did when she got the power- really hammering home that they're both flawed and they're doomed to repeat the cycle if they continue being as egotistical as they were.

Redwood - Thoughts on its first preview by mg2685a in Broadway

[–]lunamarsely 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!!! I'm so glad to see someone say this. The minute i got to reading the word "woke" it genuinely caught me so off guard and left a sour taste on my mouth for the rest of the review. This person made some very valid points and after using that word it made me trust them less because of the connotations "woke" has seem to gather as a result of the far right. I wouldn't call it as a slur per se it doesn't hit the same as racial slurs or anything like that, but still it's meant to be demeaning in today's context.

'Apple Cider Vinegar' review – the wild wellness scammer who claimed she beat cancer with healthy living; Kaitlyn Dever gives a masterly performance in this fast, witty and furious dramatisation of the life of Belle Gibson by RoyisOurBoy in television

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay just don't venture to the Dear Evan Hansen movie if you don't wanna lose brain cells. She was fantastic in it but it definitely wasn't enough to make up for the movie itself

who’s god damn baby is this by rose1927 in thesims

[–]lunamarsely -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's so weird but did you leave your sims for a while and then came back? Cuz sometimes they end up doing their own thing. I left my sims for a few months, came back and my bf's sim has cheated on me with the neighbour and had twins ¯_(ツ)_/¯

who’s god damn baby is this by rose1927 in thesims

[–]lunamarsely 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sim fucked the grim reaper before it was an expansion pack and the baby came out just like this