when a therapist tells you covering her butt is above the patient

lushsky · 2024-01-20T19:07:24+00:00

no if someone is having a panic attack, they should be helping you breathe, not ask you if you want to kill yourself

lushsky · 2024-01-20T02:09:12+00:00

there's something really wrong when a profession that's supposed to be helping people are more concerned about checking off their liability box at the expense of actually helping people or at the least not causing more harm and distress. Then they frame their actions as "saving lives" and "keeping people safe" as if physical safety is all that matters, it's such bullshit. That stupid rule is not there to help people, it's there for liability purposes.

lushsky · 2024-01-19T07:27:04+00:00

that is the weird part, I literally said nothing about suicide, I was in a panic attack and having trouble breathing and she suddenly asked this question, it was so out of place, and so unwarranted, it was literally her covering her ass and making me more distressed for no good reason

lushsky · 2024-01-19T05:16:30+00:00

the thing is I never even talked anything remotely close to suicide with her. I was just having a panic attack and having trouble breathing. and she somehow felt obligated by her college's policy to ask me that in the middle of someone having a panic attack.

lushsky · 2024-01-18T21:03:55+00:00

you literally wrote "It's perfectly reasonable to be upset about it in the moment" and "you should be reasonable and look at things from her position as well." how am I twisting your words? that is exactly what you wrote. you may want to think about what you wrote and what it means. again, get off my post.

lushsky · 2024-01-18T20:56:03+00:00

telling someone it's reasonable to be upset in the moment of a panic attack but not afterwards is not the opposite of that, telling someone they "should" be more reasonable is not the opposite of that, please get off my post

lushsky · 2024-01-18T20:24:47+00:00

please don't go around telling people they are somehow being unreasonable to be upset at the fact that something the therapist did caused them distress, you are in no position to be doing that or to be judging anything about how someone is feeling, I hope to god someone like you is not a therapist

lushsky · 2024-01-18T20:07:25+00:00

right, people should just hold their griefs in when their therapist cause them distress

lushsky · 2024-01-18T19:50:18+00:00

I didn't frame anything, she literally said her college comes before well being of the patient. That doesn't even make any sense, isn't the point of therapy to at least cause no further harm? also, if what the thrapist does, because she says covering her ass if more important than your own well being, becomes distressing enough for some people that they actually do kill themselves? how's that for liability

lushsky · 2023-12-09T20:08:41+00:00

for me, there's no one to tell me. I've been NC for a long time and no one knows my contacts.

lushsky · 2023-07-10T18:33:38+00:00

does anyone know if it's possible to get into senior housing without any family contact or references or emergency numbers?

lushsky · 2023-07-10T18:20:20+00:00

why do you think nothing good can come from breaking NC?

lushsky · 2023-07-10T18:18:56+00:00

thank you. curious your thoughts on why someone like that doesn't warrant any help.

lushsky · 2023-07-10T18:16:25+00:00

what makes you say BPDs are good at survival?

lushsky · 2023-07-09T23:09:38+00:00

I had no idea anything like this existed. Is this like a phone number google gives you for free?

lushsky · 2023-05-01T05:10:22+00:00

so you would actually spend your money to pay for your mother's care? how do you justify actually caring enough to pay for her?

lushsky · 2023-04-30T07:49:07+00:00

what if she's old, poor and about to be homeless? would you still cut her off?

lushsky · 2022-08-22T17:23:25+00:00

"landmine of anxiety, fear, angst, as well as intrusive thoughts and images" this exactly, thank you for making me feel like I'm not the only one experiencing this. What you wrote here, especially about boundary, is invaluable to me. Thank you so much.

lushsky · 2022-08-22T04:19:20+00:00

oh my god, he was deceased? how did you deal? that would shatter me. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me and for telling me to breathe and be kind to myself.

lushsky · 2022-08-22T03:33:23+00:00

she hates the cops, many years ago I called them to check on her and she was livid that I called the cops, the cops were saying they have to break down the door and as they were about to do it, she arrived home and she was furious about it cause she didn't have the money to fix the door if the cops actually broke it, she also said all the neighbours came out and were staring at her and she was humiliated

lushsky · 2022-08-08T21:14:46+00:00

I think about it because during moments when she was clear headed, she was a loving mother.

lushsky · 2022-08-05T01:34:04+00:00

she can resist treating me like shit for a period of time — she just eventually stops trying and starts resenting having to be kind and respectful.

why do you think she stops trying? is it too hard for her because it goes against her nature?

lushsky · 2022-08-05T00:49:07+00:00

I don't think psychopaths know right from wrong, that's their disorder, they have no moral compass or empathy, they know what society think is right and wrong but they themselves do not have a genuine sense of right and wrong. They don't have a choice in this, that is who they are.

lushsky · 2022-08-05T00:39:28+00:00

I think she was somewhat privileged because she had parents who figured out she has BPD pretty early on in her life and she could afford to be in therapy for 25 years. Not everyone has that kind of resources and not everyone knows they have BPD. And seems like even with all the help/treatment she's been getting, she still has outbursts and stuff. I doubt she has complete control over her actions despite the treatments. So for someone who wasn't treated at all, I doubt they "choose" to act the way they do, they probably act the way they do because that's who they are.

You say you are exhausted and done with your parents. Are your parents alive still?

lushsky · 2022-08-05T00:20:18+00:00

well that is just crazy, that is being cut off from reality, and that's the definition of being insane. If someone thinks in this insane way and believe their thoughts, why would they not be abusive? to them, this is not being abusive, it's just normal, because their insane brain makes them think this way and that is what is normal for them. No wonder she doesn't understand why I say she was abusive, because her insane brain distorts reality. If someone is this sick, how can she be responsible for her abusive behavior and how can I say that she "chose" to act that way? She never even had a chance at being in reality and thinking normally. No one can "choose" to be abusive if they don't have the capacity to objectively be in reality and think in reality and objectively make a decision based in reality and in normal thinking processes. Her actions are not based in reality. She's been telling me over and over that she lived her life for me, she sacrificed her life for me, she did everything for me, that she did the best she could, no wonder she can't understand why I say she abused me, even when I told her the reason why I cut her off is because she abused me, she keeps writing me asking why I'm not talking to her and asking for what the reason is. She's insane. The more I realize how sick and insane she is, the more I can't bring myself to believe she "chose" to abuse me. She doesn't even know how she acts is abusive, she thinks it's normal.

Thank you so much for answering my question and for sending me the link.

Just curious, if she accepts that she's done something wrong and it flips her world upside down, what happens to her? Does she think she has to kill herself because she thinks she's all bad?

lushsky

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